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User Topic: Long Term Affair Part 21
Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Laura: You do indeed have a beautiful family. I especially liked the comparison of your son with OW's son.

Fun: Glad you are well.

I've been going through all of my posts on LTA - cutting & pasting them (editing out the comments that I made for others' sitches)into a separate document. I've actually found it to be sort of helpful in both validating my feelings and in seeing my progress. It's also helped me see some patterns - changes in my attitudes over time and what was going on at that time that had an impact on same.
Just throwin it out there - I thought it might be helpful to Honest, M3 and anyone else who may be feeling like they have stalled.
Can't stay in touch as much as I like as my home pc has apparently taken some sort of leave of absence...


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

Posts: 2165 | Registered: Nov 2009
trynhard
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STOP POSTING PERSONAL INFORMATION!

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 8:14 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


Posts: 2636 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Indiana
ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH's AP wasn't bad looking either, though I'm going my what she looked like with five layers of make-up, overprocessed hair and foundation garments. I guess she wasn't happy with her natural self if she went through all the trouble of covering herself up. I have no pictures of her, having deleted the few I had from the family outing that WH invited her and her son to a month before they started their A. The only thing I remembered was that she was weird: didn't say boo to anyone except WH, wore full make-up, nylons and a padded push-up bra for a 9-mile bike ride in 90 degree weather and slowed everyone down by stopping at the bottom of hills every quarter of a mile. I didn't figure out her agenda until after WH dropped the bomb, but then I was full of "OHHHH... it was a trap!"

Meanwhile, I tried and failed to post our family photo so you all will just have to use your imaginations!

Allgood, I did the cutting-and-pasting thing a while ago. I had a few good weeks this summer but that was before WH had finished TTing. We've come a long way, baby!


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

Posts: 2370 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Baby steps on my new path
Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok - I am going to try like Hell to post one of OW's many soft porn pics that are available to me (and the general public). Here goes...


(Nothing)

Appearance-wise, I cannot say my H affaired-down. I will not for the life of me understand, however, that if you are looking for someone who REGULARLY wears a bra, a corset, etc. as a shirt, with her huge double d's hangin out, what you are doing with me. And, I don't mean this in a self-depricating way, I just mean we are completely different.
Part of the fantasy - I suppose.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

Posts: 2165 | Registered: Nov 2009
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I met OW several times way before I knew. Appearance wise, she beats me. Gorgeous hair and face. Big boobs. and she's 15 years younger than me.

Morally, I beat her hands down, geez, practically anyone could, I guess. She was divorced and engaged to someone else when she was carrying on with WH. Each OC was a trap, and the last one she told him she had her tubes tied. He even had paternity tests done on OC 1 &2, yet he chooses her.

He doesn't quite realize it yet, but the bakery is closed.

Damn, I'm on the roller coaster again, but the ups and downs aren't as high, but still enough to make me sick.

Is it the holidays that are getting so many of us? All the stress of getting ready plus the stress of LTA?

Nofun, I'm glad you checked in. Retro will be good for you, even though you both are hesitant. I believe it can't hurt and can only help.

Allgood: My father made a stupid joke to my son when he was a teen: Why are you dating the nice girls? Those are the ones you marry. You date the bad girls to have fun. I think that's the answer to your question about OW.

{{{{tribe}}}}


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ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trying the photo thing...
Failed!
Drat and never mind.

[This message edited by ImNellNow at 10:29 AM, December 21st (Tuesday)]


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

Posts: 2370 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Baby steps on my new path
Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just checked OW's facebook page (yes, she is so stupid that she accepted "my" friend request)and she has a link to a song I used to love, a song that my H used to have on cd and would listen to in his car, posted. This was also her ringtone for quite a while - I'd say for at least 6 months after DDay - all about how hard it is to be faithful...


God, I hate her.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

Posts: 2165 | Registered: Nov 2009
old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do not know what OM#2 & OM#3 look like. OM#1 was above average good looking. My W did tell me that the other two were not as good looking as me. Besides that and their names I hardly know anything else about them. I'm pretty sure there were others but I guess I will never know.

Today is the shortest day of the year. This always pisses me off. I like light. The sun is "not meeting my needs." If I could figure out a way to cheat on the sun I would do it. Not meeting my needs seems to be a popular reason to cheat.

Hugs to the tribe.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


Posts: 751 | Registered: Sep 2009
iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i had this long long post and decided against posting it....

i don't want to concentrate on what they looked like...it really doesn't help....it matters not what they look like, smell like, talk like...the only thing that matters is that each of our ws's was 100% responsible for making the poorist of choices, the worst of judgements...all to fill a need that never got filled....

laura your family is beautiful and that is all that matters....that they are beautiful on the inside...that they are good human beings..solid people, or at least on the road to being one....

and remember they always affair down....who we are as people is the most important thing there is, the fact that we loved our ws's with all of what we had and all of who we were......there is not a single op who loved a single ws enough to do right.....when you love someone really love them you want their happiness, even if it means they step down and away so that can be possible...or never stepping in in the first place if they knew (s)he was a married person....


i do not know who will be posting in the next few days, but i would like to take this opportunity whilst i have 10 minutes instead of 5 to make sure i wish all of our tribe a very merry xmas and a merry new year...may we all find the peace within that we seek.....

i am sure i will still be popping in and out as time allows...as i am among those who need to check in sometimes quite often...just to gain some balance.....


i am hoping that for those of you in reconcilliation though...that you find so much joy that the need to come here is not so strong....remember i did say "hoping"....


((((tribe))))

i do love each and every one of you....you are definitely like family...

[This message edited by iwantamiracle at 12:35 PM, December 21st (Tuesday)]


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

Posts: 5994 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: looking for my rainbow
m334455
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STOP POSTING PERSONAL INFORMATION!!

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 8:15 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009

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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

M3 - you are lovely! Thanks for sharing - it's so nice to have a visual in mind.
If someone wants to give me the posting photos and poofing them away instructions, I'd be happy to share as well.
Happy Holidays to all.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

Posts: 2165 | Registered: Nov 2009
nofun
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STOP POSTING PERSONAL INFORMATION!!!

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 8:16 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


BS (me) 56
WH 61
M 36 yrs
OW - 55 - Howdy Doody Look Alike
3 Awesome Adult C
DD 6/7/09
LTA 12 years.
Confused: D or R???

Posts: 987 | Registered: Jun 2009
ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STOP POSTING PERSONAL INFORMATION!!

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 8:17 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

Posts: 2370 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Baby steps on my new path
Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok Fun- I don't know what's funnier - that pic of her in the sombrero or the fact that the password "douchebag" actually worked ( I really thought you were joking. Lol.)

And Nell - lovely family!

When I get home, I will try this link thing, as long as my computer is willing to go along with it.
You guys are gonna LOSE IT when I post OW's pics.
I'm trying to decide the picture of her in her thong bikini or one of her many corset/bra "tops". Hmmm.. So many choices...


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

Posts: 2165 | Registered: Nov 2009
deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ladies of the Tribe - You are all beautiful what were your Husbands thinking - well they werent.
So much to loose by having an A - a beautiful wife, beautiful family.
Looking at your photos & looking at the photo of my family on my study desk - Its worth the fight to save what you have.

Thank you so much for sharing.


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

Posts: 522 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Where the sun is shining & the surf is pumping
nofun
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nell - wow! what a beautiful family you have.

allgood - Link both those pics. I need a good laugh!

Here is a link to my family's picture. Top row from the left, DS25, me, DD27, DD31, my sister. Bottom row, newphews and parents.
http://s1183.photobucket.com/albums/x467/jude1629/Jude/

password - nofun

It's great to put a face with the name.


BS (me) 56
WH 61
M 36 yrs
OW - 55 - Howdy Doody Look Alike
3 Awesome Adult C
DD 6/7/09
LTA 12 years.
Confused: D or R???

Posts: 987 | Registered: Jun 2009
atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STOP POSTING PERSONAL INFORMATION!!

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 8:18 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

Posts: 3967 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ats! Another great photo!

Fun: You, too, are just lovely! Your H is out of his damn mind!


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

Posts: 2165 | Registered: Nov 2009
trynhard
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh this is great Christmas treat... lol

Ok... this is the real me...

I do write different then who I really am...

Yep M3.. Your H no doubt about it.. went way down! You are Gorgeous

Wow you ladies are so nice looking! In fact... I would say downright hot hot! Nell and nofun...

ATS.. I know your W underachieved with those two… down too... lol..

OK Iwant.. lol... Allgood.. Purple.. bring'm up... Where's dip!!

[This message edited by trynhard at 4:31 PM, December 21st (Tuesday)]


Posts: 2636 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Indiana
deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you want see my family please send a PM & I'll give you a link & a password.


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

Posts: 522 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Where the sun is shining & the surf is pumping
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