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User Topic: Long Term Affair Part 21
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What beautiful families!!! I do not understand the WS's. All of the BS's are wonderful, beautiful people inside and out. The OPs are ugly!! They affaired down!

Baby Paddy is gorgeous. God bless her!!

WTF were they thinking? To sacrifice thier beautiful spouses and children like that????

I don't think I have a recent pic of all of us. I'll have to see what I can do. I don't have access to pic of OW, although I do of OC's, but choose not to post that.

I'm trying to hang in there. I feel a little better. Feel like I'm taking my power back. I think I'm doing the 180 correctly now. The way it really should be done. It's in the attitude. I'm just being myself, not being mean, unkind, or even sarcastic to WH. I figured I'll just treat him like an aquaintence....polite, ok, but focusing on me and the kids and not caring what he feels or thinks about what I'm doing. That was always my problem, worrying about how I was acting, saying or doing, trying to be "perfect". But that didn't work over the years.

I pray I can continue with this. I can't tell everyone how much you have helped me. I got my best Christmas present in having my family here at LTA.

{{{{tribe}}}}


Posts: 1903 | Registered: Jan 2010
atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi honesttoafault, you will make it. It will be hard at times, but you will make it.

These photos and knowing the posts of the people behind the photos proves to me just how much the A's are about the WS, not the BS. We get hurt and have to pick up the pieces, but these OP's have nothing on the BS's.

leccden posted in R forun today and I commented on what I thought was an important part of the post. Knowing that you can leave the M and be OK is the key to BS healing whether R or D.

((honesttoafault))


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

Posts: 3967 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

STOP POSTING PERSONAL INFORMATION!!

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 8:20 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


Posts: 1903 | Registered: Jan 2010
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi all

Just popping in quickly.

Just when you think you are up it comes crashing down.

H came home last night after being away 2 days. When he was an hour away he called. So I showered, did the face, tidied the house, got a snack and a cuppa ready. When he arrived I turned on outside lights and went out to greet him.

He said Hi, got his gear, came inside , told me about what he'd done, what he'd bought, then started to talk about his FUCKING DUCKS!!!!!!!!

No kiss or hug hullo, no how have you been, no I've missed you! For heaven's sake. Is it that hard???????????

So I had a meltdown!!!!!!!!

Anyway. Can't talk long - he's home and hovering. Just wanted to say I LOVE seeing all yours pics. It's so nice to know that you really are REAL people.

And they did SOOOOOOOO Affair Down.

Love you all

laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, December 21st (Tuesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by honesttoafault at 11:59 PM, December 21st (Tuesday)]


Posts: 1903 | Registered: Jan 2010
trynhard
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Allgood.. Thank you for sending your pic to me.. I am not kidding in any way... You are very attactive. I kinda knew it... True, the OW is pretty too but you don't dare ever think she's any better that you. For me, I could never have chemistry for that woman... She looks like a whore. That is shocking to me..

Honest... Your sons look like they'd have no trouble kicking ass should harm come to momma...lol..

UK... Your H OW is not too bad either. Yes, AP come in all sizes and shapes like us... Oh But yes.. I rememeber your pic too.. Hugging that rock hard man... lol


OK here is how to post a pic.... I noticed Photobucket even makes it easy... just click on the link to copy it below the pic...

[This message edited by trynhard at 8:25 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


Posts: 2636 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Indiana
nofun
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ats - you did not settle. You have a wonderful family and your wife is very attractive. Now the OM2 is another story. And you are so much better inside and out. Your W is very lucky to have a man like you. I wish that my H was half of what the men on SI LTA are. I guess I settled too if truth be known. Maybe we all settled, who knows? I don't think any of us want to give up trying to keep our families together or throw away all of the history that we share with our spouses. That doesn't mean that we should accept abuse either.

Honest - your sons are so handsome and if I was your H, I'd be afraid they would kick my ass. I pray for your strength.

Laura - Did your H always greet you with a kiss or a warm hello in the past? Mine never ever does, so I don't expect anything to change in that arena. But if your H always did, what the hell is wrong with him? He needs a slap to wake him up.

Sometimes I wish I could have asked Uncle Louie to help me out?


BS (me) 56
WH 61
M 36 yrs
OW - 55 - Howdy Doody Look Alike
3 Awesome Adult C
DD 6/7/09
LTA 12 years.
Confused: D or R???

Posts: 987 | Registered: Jun 2009
trynhard
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Laura28 - Since Retro, my W and I ALWAYS greet with a kiss. Something I know, we can forget. My W does not always think about greeting nor do I. But one of us always seems to remember. I cannot hold it against my W if she forgets because I have.. It takes getting used to kissing everytime you greet. My W and I never did it for years and years.. If he forgets.. you greet him with a kiss... this is what I say.

[This message edited by trynhard at 7:28 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


Posts: 2636 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Indiana
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Red  Posted: 8:22 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WARNING

Are you people just so naive about the internet that you don't see anything wrong with putting pictures and passwords out here?????!!!!!!

KNOCK IT OFF!!!!

Every single one of you that posted personal information is about *this* close to losing your profiles!


Posts: 10001 | Registered: May 2002
trynhard
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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeh I guess we are about to go over the line... Sorry about that...

PERSONAL INFORMATION: Do not post personal information publicly on the boards. This includes, but is not limited to, full names, addresses, workplace information, email addresses.

FLAMING & ATTACKING: Please refrain from attacking another member, publicly or by using the SI.com Private Message feature. Do not bait or call out others. This includes members and non-members. (even our OM or OW)

Peace you today...

[This message edited by trynhard at 8:34 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


Posts: 2636 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Indiana
Deeply Scared
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Red  Posted: 8:36 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Personal information would include pictures of people that didn't give their consent to be put on an infidelity site...common sense should tell you that.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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trynhard
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this board...

We all share so many things that are emotional to us and sometimes can forget the rules are here to protect us all...


Posts: 2636 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Indiana
iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you know disney i think has fucked me up in a way...i keep waiting for that happily ever after....trying hard not to wish for the knight in shining armour, or the prince on his white steed....but god help me...i want it....thats what i want for xmas, my birthday, for anything day....yup disney fucked me up...

unless, i am still in the beginning stage, like cinderella was, she was stuck cleaning and taking care of all the bad people....yeah....i like that scenario...ok...i feel better....my happily ever after is coming...i just wish it would get here already....jeesh..

and, btw that warning is really really big...

[This message edited by iwantamiracle at 8:50 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

Posts: 5994 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: looking for my rainbow
m334455
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We all got a bit carried away there. I was trying to POOF my post but Deeply Scared was apparently doing it at the same time.

Laura's exercise was good if kept private. Looking at those pictures -- years and years and years of them it was so helpful to me.


BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009

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old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tribe.

I want to wish you all a happy holidays. I hope that each of you can find some peace during this season.

I am so glad that the shortest day of the year has passed. Next up is spring!

Hugs to the tribe.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


Posts: 751 | Registered: Sep 2009
ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that warning is really really big

and red and black and piratey scary! I hid under my desk for a moment. I too planned to poof both my post and the photo but should have done the links via PMs instead. Mea culpa.

There is no happily ever after. That's why Disney always ends the story at the wedding.


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

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kdny
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Red  Posted: 10:11 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and, btw that warning is really really big...

This " "
we could do without. Rolling eyes at the mods doing their jobs doesn't really sit well.


Whether we remain ash or become phoenix is up to us.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Sometimes the fine line between a nervous breakdown and knowing things will be okay is a pair of furry pants~unfound

Posts: 81335 | Registered: Dec 2002 | From: Slightly left of center, standing on my head
iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

kd i apologize, that was not my intention....i hate my when my kids do that too!!!....

i misuderstood the meaning of that little face dude...


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

Posts: 5994 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: looking for my rainbow
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my. That sign is really scary. Overstepped the line again. I really think I should know the rules by now, Ive been coming here long enough. >sigh< Sorry mods and sorry LTA folks. Think Id better send my voluntary subscription as payment into my swear box. I do more than my fair share of that too!

Meanwhile, DS22 & gf have arrived. And have laid into the breadbin like a plague of locusts. What was a large loaf is now just a knob-end crust! I better start on dinner to persuade them to not demolish the contents of the biscuit tin too.

Dipping in when I can over the next week or so. To those struggling, hang on in there.

[This message edited by UKgirl at 10:29 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday)]


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3328 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, December 22nd (Wednesday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry mods! How naiive I am! I think all of us here on LTA forget for a while how public this place is. We were acting as though it's just us here.

Miracle: I'm sorry about lost dreams. I felt the same way most of my life, but the dreams were to have a house and family like they used to show on the 50's and 60's reruns they used to show when I was a kid. Like "Leave It to Beaver", etc. I didn't have that as a kid, and I thought to have a house, a mother who actually cooked and cleaned (baked cookies!!!), and a father who came home at night for supper and stayed home was my ultimate dream. I tried to recreate that, although I was also a working mother who baked cookies, had supper on the table and went to Little League games, etc. xWH was cast into his role, but didn't seem to want that. I did think that was his goal too.
This time around, I was cast in a role that didn't fit and my understudy took over.

I hope everyone will have a happy holiday. We need to focus on our beautiful kids. As much as I have said to the oldest DS that I wished I never married WH, he keeps reminding me that if I didn't, we wouldn't have the younger DS's. I am blessed on how much the older DS's love their little brothers and vice versa. Matter of fact, DS12 has a framed picture of him and DS35 on his nightstand in his room. DS30 has been the steady stable influence in thier lives. DS 30 has the best of both my qualities and his father's.

Happy Holidays all!!


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