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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, February 13th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Whalers))). I don't know why things happen the way they do. I ask myself why did I end up with the skankiest OW (although I'm sure others can argue their OW runs with the title). But I have to believe that there is a reason why things happen, as crappy as they are. Thinking of you whalers...

So...we got notification about the arrears...turns out the judge didn't even call a hearing or nothing...he TOOK OW'S WORD and awarded the higher, WRONG amount! Its blatantly wrong; she put that she was entitled to his gross bonus check from july vs the net that is in the court order. She made a spreadsheet that didn't prorate the first week of CS (the OC was a day old and she was asking for the entire week of CS), she put that he didn't make a payment in Jan, but it has been auto deducted since dec, and the bonus that she thinks she is entitled to is DOUBLE than what she is supposed to get! And the judge signed off on it without asking my fwh his side!!! So, now we are going to file a clarification in response. That's almost $1000 extra that OW is NOT entitled to! So fwh is going to file first thing Tuesday. I'm altering my insurance letter to put that in the mail tomorrow, without the card (which I am still waiting on, they said it can take up to 10 business days). We were going to file an appeal, but a lawyer friend of ours said the clarification is more than appropriate and doesn't cost as much as an appeal. Plus we want the court to charge OW with contempt since she submitted the gross pay vs the net as stated in the court order, and she had all the documents she was supposed to have. This OW is a freaking pro conartist! But since she submitted that document as a sworn statement we are hoping to show she was fraudulent :) plus since CS won't take the bonus $ (they want us to pay direct, which fwh doesn't want to) he wants to inquire about putting the $ into some type of plan or in the form of a gift card so we know the OC truly gets it. Heck, we can ask right? So in the meantime they tacked on an additional $50 a week, bringing us up to $328 a week. Barf. We want this sorted out and dropped accordingly so fwh can pay 1 lump sum and not have to pay the inflated rate (which is what she wanted) over the course of a couple years, which is how long it would take to pay off the arrears. Too bad there wasn't a hearing fwh was going to offer a cash 1 time lump sum. But OW is trying to nickel and dime so she most likely would have said no anyway. We are also going to get a new attorney as well, keep 1 on retainer. I'm so pissed at how much this is costing our family...thousands and thousands of dollars for a stupid, selfish mistake. I suppose it could be worse, her skank ass could've had AIDS....


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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BMC0415
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, February 13th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Whalers)) you are not alone. There are several members, most do not post anymore, where the h has left for either the OW/OC or just left period. I can only assume that coming to this forum is too painful for them and they would rather move on with their lives. One of the hardest things to remember and I still struggle with it, is you can't control another person, you can't make them do what you want. And if they don't care enough to do what you need, you have to let them go. You were in this relationship for a long time, but you are young and it is not the end of the world. Whatever is coming to him and OW will come eventually. Hugs to you.

((Island)), wow I just don't know what to say. It is like this woman really knows how to use that system. I can't believe that a judge would just sign off on an amount without looking at all documentation. I guess if it is in writing it is gospel unless it can be disputed. Wow, do any of these lawyers know what they are doing? And is she doing all of this herself? Something just is not right here. If it were me, you had made it very difficult to have contact with OC. Your situation is one of the worse (money wise) that I have seen on here. Poor Dreamer and H were paying over $2,200 per month plus insurance for the OC. Karma finally came when the OW died and they got full custody. I don't wish death on anyone, I just wish there was an island that these OW could be sent to for the rest of their lives.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Keep your head up and keep on the path. This is war and she is the enemy, remember that and treat her as such.

[This message edited by BMC0415 at 10:17 AM, February 13th (Sunday)]


Me: 40+ Him: 40+
Married: 20+ years
D-Day: 3/7/07
Children: 24dd,23ds,21dd
10 yr. LTA 3OC w/OW 10,10,14 8/14/12-gave custody of twins to ex 8/16/12-DIVORCED!

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, February 13th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fwh is going to finish his paperwork tonite, so he can go to the courthouse on Tuesday. He would go tomorrow but he has our kids all day and didn't want to haul them along to the courthouse. I don't blame him! But yes this OW is getting some serious coaching or she has been down this path before. I wish we could afford a local PI to track/trail/investigate her but right now we are holding onto every penny until this chapter is over.

I am trying my best to keep myself up because I'm having to keep fwh up. He is so depressed I'm worried that he may hurt himself...this doesn't financially ruin us but it definitely sets us back, that's for sure...

BMC you have mail/message...


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, February 14th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So we got the card today! Part of me wanted to throw up, the other part feels good that I can now move forward. So my original letter will go in the mail TOMORROW when I get off of work. I expect fireworks to go off by this weekend. Good thing I'm off work next week (school break). You're right BMC, this is war and I intend to be a contender! Plus fwh is going to file his clarification tomorrow, and then going to file the paperwork for joint legal, plus to claim the kid on taxes. So it's "GAME ON"...


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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tryingtosmile
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, February 14th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Island)))
I have to say you are so strong and amazing! The sh*@t you have to deal with is ridiculous. Keep your head up. Good things come to good people.


B/S Me 37
W/S Him 37
OW Former Coworker OC born 5/11
4 DS 18,17,11,6 months

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, February 14th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks trying! We all are strong in our own ways, to deal with what we are.

Funny, I told our MC today that the financial part hurts more than the affair and OC part! Its like kicking you when you're down. The extra frosting on the cake. The "truth" of the affair, seeing my family's $ slip away to a greedy, money grubbing beast who is more than happy to live off of the state and her child's support.

Stay tuned, I'm certain we got more drama on the way...OW is going to get bombarded with mail this week and new court filings soon.

Hey have we heard from eyes lately? Thinking of you eyes! (((Eyes)))


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

Posts: 960 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Somewhere out there....
repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, February 15th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very glad last week was over. All 3 kids had a nasty cold. OC was mostly good, felt bad afterschool/weekend so didn't fight too much w/DS11. One bad thing was that I had to take both DS14/OC10 to store & OC behaved like a 5-yr-old. Sat on shelves btwn stock, sat/laid in floor, leaned on cart that DS14 was pushing for me, & kept going just beyond my sight so I'd have to go looking 4 her. I was so frustrated after the shopping. We had to take DS14 to doctor before going home & OC behaved there at least. She wanted me to drive home & back 30-min round-trip so she wouldn't have to go to store. fWH had to get on my cell w/OC to tell her to behave. OW had bought OC Valentine's, but she left them @OW's house & refused to get her little sis to bring them 2 school for her. So, we had to buy her some more for her V-day class party. It is difficult having another child @home during weekdays. Even though I had to see OW more, the old visitation schedule was less stressful. Oh well, if we can afford it, fWH is going to get the schedule redone @lawyer's to match the #days fWH actually has OC now & get the CS recalculated (just incase fWH owes OW $$$, don't wanna get stung w/back CS once OW has another COM - as she starts trying to get preggers this summer per OC).

P.S. V-day was good. fWH surprised me after work w/roses, ILU balloon, & chocolates.

AND, I'm still really scared, but DS14 is part-time school again. Worry that fWH has too much free time alone. Notice he was on web immediately after we left house yesterday. We have security cameras & they only boot up if the PC is on in our bedroom & I could see the cameras at 8:30AM yesterday. Ugh! Don't think he's chatting w/OW online, but still makes me uncomfortable.

[This message edited by repeatBS326 at 8:03 AM, February 15th (Tuesday)]


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

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repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, February 15th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Island,

They are really running you guys through the ringer on the $$$ part of OC situation. I hope the lawyer can resolve some of it & at least get it reduced a bit. Once OC goes to school, will OW have any excuse to not be working & providing for OC's needs? I think that there should be some part-time work requirement @least in OC situations once they are old enough to be out-of-house for most the day @school. I suppose that people used to complain that women (not ones that actually were trying to make ends meet) would live on welfare forever & never try to work. Now, maybe since the laws are more strict on drawing welfare (of course it depends on situation), that maybe some women see OC as a way of having an income w/out working. You think some women do that?

My best friend's xH had OW yelling OC, when she was lying. But, they found out that OW had 4 OC from married men & was receiving $$$ from them in some form or fashion. I think in that case, she really was some sort of serial OW & just gave birth for the $$$$. What a sad lifestyle to expose those OC to. What little respect you must have for yourself to let mOM take advantage of you & never have the opportunity to be in a loving one-2-one relationship. To settle for being OW all your life & even have children by mOM who end up being part-time fathers.


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, February 15th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The odd thing is other than WIC, food stamps, and state healthcare, OW didn't use any other welfare. That's why we think she is working under the table or selling dope (she always had weed). Or both. She has pretty much made a "career" out of living off of OC's child support. There's NO reason for her not working NOW.

So I put the insurance card in the mail today with my letter, and the post office told me she should get it by tomorrow. I sent it certified and return receipt. I put my name on it with my fwh's. He thinks she is going to cry harassment, but there's nothing harasses about my letter. And screw everyone, this is MY health insurance!!! Which we aren't even getting a credit on!

So my fwh didn't file anything today. He wants to contact the 1 female lawyer he met with and possibly retain her, to file the multiple items because he's not sure which forms to use. He is going to email her tonite...he said she was pretty tough and seems to have more balls than the last lawyer. In fact, we are going to file a formal complaint on the last lawyer.


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, February 16th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AUGH. So we found out that she can claim to be "poor" and get FREE legal help, which is most likely how she is getting legal help in dealing with all the paperwork/etc. Of course since on paper fwh looks upper middle class, he gets ZERO help from the courts.

So she got the letter today! The USPS delivered it at noon but no one was home (she has no life so where could have she gone?), but when I got home later this afternoon and checked I saw it was redelivered. My fwh had sent her a text when I called him on my lunch break to let him know it was delivered but she wasn't home--I wanted him to tell her that it was the insurance card just in case she decided to not pick it up from the post office. Instead of acknowledging it, she started to ask him where HER money was (the bonus check money), and that if he didn't respond by mid-march she would take him to court for contempt and modification. Whatever. He has the money, he doesn't want to pay her directly and have her cry foul that she didn't get it. So he's going to the CS office tomorrow to talk with them. They said they won't take it, that they don't deal with "bonus check money", and that he would have to pay her direct. The COURT ORDER states that he is to pay thru the CS office. He said he's just going to offer them the damn money and then OW can deal with them in regards to getting it then. Stupid COW. And the money is for THE OC, not HER. Gah this GIRL is ridiculous...oh and he told her to be on the lookout for HIS modification since she calculated the gross and not the net, and also for visitation. LOL he didn't get a response after that. And odd this was after she got the letter/insurance card, and she didn't say anything about it. Didn't give us the name of the PCP like we requested. So now we wait and see what happens. Stupid, fat, greedy, money-grubbin COW. We also decided instead of giving her a lump sum of the $, to make her wait out getting her arrears. The increase won't be for too long, and fwh said it's really not that bad. So no shopping spree for her LOL, going to make her get her little extra $50 a week vs. getting a nice lump sum check. I spend $50 a week on gas. Pathetic creature.

I hope everyone is having a good week. A little quiet around here, so hoping everyone's doing fine.


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, February 18th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Posted in General--made contact with OW today! For all of about 10 seconds LOL, she hung up on me! She is one nutty nut let me tell you!

Fwh and I are actually going to see her and OC next week...


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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stretch13
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((islandwahine))

i just sent my WH links to your posts, this forum and your profile. i believe he's remorseful and trying. i was writing in response to him sending me the post on What every WS should know about their BS in the WS forum. he wanted my opinion on a few things in there and i gave it. then i told him to read your story(ies) so he would know how bad he really f-ed things up and what he's not facing or dealing with yet. i'm so tired of hearing "i'll take care of it, you won't have to deal with this at all" or "i won't involve you in any of the financial stuff" or "i only care about THIS family, my real family" etc. he doesn't get it and never has understood this part. the OC part. the OW connection. how much this involves the BS FOREVER if R is the goal.

i'm rootin' for you. i'm sure WH will be too...he's a dreamer, he wants to see success stories. i suppose we all define that differently. maybe he'll start redefining his toward being a good father to his kidS. that would impress me.


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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's fine stretch. NC or C either way there will be some element of C, and this has totally involved and impacted us all directly. I knew posting in general some wouldn't be able to understand why we are NC, and I didn't mind explaining. Right now priority #1 is our family, fwh has made sure OC is taken care of on his end financially. That's the best that can happen for now.


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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stretch13
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

btw - i completely support your NC decision. i've read many pieces of advice on this topic and it's truly individual to each couple and can really work out in favor of the COM and OC if it helps tamp down the drama until they are older, you guys are R, etc.

i am disturbed by his lack of understanding of the process and where he's put himself. i am disturbed because i think he would forget it all if i let him. like i care about OC more than he does. i'm sure OW would at that too, frankly.

we are all different, all our situations finely tweaked. i don't want you to feel like i'm judging at ALL.


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http://hardheadpress.com/

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. We are both hoping this small contact that was made doesn't have OW think she can contact whenever she wants. Bad enough she texted him an hour after the phone convo (he was on his way to work and called to tell me). She seemed to really crave the attention, telling fwh what she thought he wanted to hear ("I'm so sorry for your family, I don't want to take away from your family, blah blah blah). For a split second I thought she may have been being rational...until a few more minutes later in the call. Oh yea all rational went out the window. Esp when she snuck in how she "thought" the CS calculation was too low, how fwh's stock options should be considered how its "not" about money when she then made it about money. Saying "all this court stuff, it doesn't have to be this way"...um yea ok she has done nothing but haul him to court! This was the first time fwh took a stand against HER, and that triggered this "oh let's be adults for OC sake". I call bull.shit.

[This message edited by IslandWahine at 7:52 AM, February 19th (Saturday)]


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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stretch13
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and you call it right. this is going to be hard...thank God for SI...i know i'd probably have a tough time keeping a cool head and my dignity, and that it would be IMPOSSible for me to do it without the sanity check of this site.

stay good to yourself, be someone you like. try not to let this creep get too far under your skin.

have you thought about taking up something like kickboxing? with paper cutouts?


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http://hardheadpress.com/

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol once I see what she looks like, I will make a dartboard :) oh but the kickboxing sounds like an amazing idea!

I am trying to live with myself and everything else. Thanks for your kind words (((stretch))). One of the reasons why we haven't really told anyone is because of the judgement issue. But I too will say that SI has been absolutely amazing and honestly I would have gone off the deep end if it weren't for y'all, esp here in the OC thread!


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, February 19th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here is my post in case it gets buried under new ones

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=396121


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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repeatBS326
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, February 22nd (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, the drama of another OC week starts again. Found out OC played 'sick' again & missed another day of school. She's now missed so many days, she is required by county rules to have Dr. excuse for any other missed days. All of them have been @OW's house. Funny how when someone else in OW's house is feeling ill (especially OW), that OC gets a 'stomach ache' or 'headache' that somehow is cured by end-of-day. OW & BH#2 had flu & OC's little half-sis had ear infection. OW was supposedly so ill, she had to call her sister to get OC afterschool and take her to work w/her until around 6:30PM until she could bring her back to OW's house. Hmmm. We live 5 min from school. fWH could've gotten OC if OW/BH#2 were too ill to leave the house and kept her extra days. I suppose her sister didn't go to school @all that day. Here was fWH's comment "I just never though OW would've been a parent like that." You think? It's obvious that OC was an attempt to destroy our M, not that OW really wanted OC @all. That's what you get you dumbass for impregnating her on purpose!!! A shitty OW who has no parenting skills. And, I told fWH that I pitty OC when OW births another child. That she will be helping raise another COM! OW will do her thing & sleep all the time & let OC diaper & bottlefeed the tiny newborn. What on earth will she do when OC is w/us? I suspect OC's 5-yr-old sister will be caring for newborn (just like OC did when she was 5 for her little sis). What moron (BH#2) would give OW another kid, knowing how she is? His desire for a son (male heir) is so strong, that he doesn't care I suppose.

Oh well. Got OC @2PM yesterday. OW hadn't fed her all day because OC slept until 12noon (okay, I get that). But, guess what they did b4 going to park to meet me. OW wanted Subway, so she made OC go into Subway (she's only 10) and buy OW a sandwich. Then they drove through BK's drivethru to get OC's little sis some lunch. And then through McDs to get OW/OC a drink. WHY didn't OW force OC to get some food? Or, maybe there's no $$$ left from OC's check that came on 2/9 so she doesn't get fed? Funny how OW can run roads to go to her momma's while she has the flu (eat dinner Saturday only days after her mom got over flu), but cannot pick up child @school or ask school to send her on bus or something.

DS14 was so good yesterday. He actually invited OC to play video games w/him most the afternoon (he generally hates playing games w/the two younger kids).

I'm thinking about everyone & hope you had an uneventful President's Day (and maybe had the day off work?)


Me/BS:39(former cybersex addict 1992); fWH:41; DS:15; DS:11; OW:34; OC:10
Together: 22yrs; Married: 18yrs
D-day#1: Jan99, then FALSE R (subsequent conception of DS#2)
D-day#2: Told about OW/WH pregnancy July2000
D-day#3 (same mOW): 19sep2008

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, February 22nd (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello Repeat! It was so slow over here I posted a few things in General. Here is my most recent post:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=396681

This OW is freaking nuts. CRAZY. She is asking for things she has no right to, she is pissing off the courts because she is apparently trying to file something different every week, she is trying to get every.single.penny.crumb she can get her fat, grubby hands on!!! Fwh is TIRED of going back to the courthouse, he just wants to pay and get on with our lives! OW actually said she wanted the CS reviewed ANNUALLY for over/underpayment!!! Um, she's not special...the state says it's THREE years when they do a review!!! My fwh gets a bonus 2X a year; they would have to review 2X a year because the amount is almost never the same, since it fluctuates. She wants what she was trying to get before, the bonus money rolled into the weekly payment. However, what she is neglecting to remember is that the judge ALREADY RULED ON IT. 24%. NET INCOME. Her gripe? She has been "lied to so much" that she doesn't trust a WORD fwh says! NEVERMIND that he offered to show her the paystubs with the bonus income on it (with everything else blacked out, of course...none of her damn business)!!! It was her way or the highway! Stupid cow!!! So luckily this was all via text message today, he printed it out so he can show at the future court date (because we know her fat ass will be at the courthouse tomorrow filing)--show that he tried to work it out with her, and that she was the one being impossible, asking for ridiculous crap.

Hope everyone is doing ok, I'm thinking of everyone...


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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