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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, August 30th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WasAlmostThere-

Who wants to bet she'll be on to baby #3 before 2014????

Our OW did this. OC#2 (different baby daddy) just turned 1. but this guy actually did leave his family for OW and married the pig.

And my SO's family not taking to our child and jumping in to side with OW/OC feeling like my SO has abandoned OC in some way for me. Time will tell.

I wish I could say this never happens, but this is exactly what my FWH's family has done. He has many FOO issues, and NONE of them have any boundaries. They all welcomed OC with open arms. OC was 6 months old when I found out I was pregnant. Do my inlaws have any interest in our DD, who was planned and conceived in a marriage out of love? NOPE! None.

Our MC gave the same advice Island did. You MUST go on with your lives as if OC was not affecting it, otherwise you will resent each other AND OC. It sounds callous, but it is what worked for our family.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
6 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 1954 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, August 30th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know at first I was so devastated with the thought of the OC and how my dreams of having more than 1 child were fading. My fwh found out because he had dumped cOW and then she called him to say she was pg (funny, only 3 weeks later...only someone trying knows that fast). He also let her know from the jump where she stood and that if she decided to go forward she was on her own (although he knew he would be court ordered to pay support). She attempted to get attention/etc. but in the end we think that helped fuel the rage, although he had said he broke it off because she was weird and said strange things (like she was jealous of how awesome he was with our son and how she wished she had that...that was what made him finally snap and realize she was getting too close talking about our son).

Fast forward I knew there was no way I was going to let this ruin my life, my family, my dreams, my aspirations, my goals. I wanted another child and I was going to have another child, and also went in knowing that if me and fwh broke up I would be able to care for my kids on my own because I put myself in the position to be self-sufficient.

My fwh's family at first was not pleased with his decision to NC, until they too learned how psycho she is with all of his war stories of court/etc. We know the cOW is purposely trying to hurt him financially. They have accepted my daughter with open arms (plus they were just ecstatic to finally have another baby girl added to the fam!) and know that we are trying hard to keep our family intact. Do I feel bad for the OC? Yes. I let it consume me for months, and I did feel guilt after I had my daughter. But I had to realize that I have no role in this whole mess, my children have no role in this whole mess, and while maybe not the #1 decision, my fwh is trying to deal with this whole mess that he played 50% of a role in. So with that I am moving forward.

(((WAT))) you take care of yourself and enjoy! Sorry I can't see everyone else's post, but (((everyone else))) as well!


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, August 30th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and when the cOW found out I was pg, I think it was on FB after she delivered and that's why I think I got a message, plus in court she got all huffy and pissy whenever our TWO children were mentioned. She even went as far as to file a motion to not have my daughter count in the CS because the OC is older than her (by only a few months). Oh which was denied. She YELLED at my fwh telling him he shouldn't be making children he can't afford, that since she filed first she should get the largest dibs (doesn't work like that in our state, COM get first dibs automatically), that since I work this is only about him and her and "their" child...oh it goes on and on and on. Moral of the post: cOW was P.I.S.S.E.D. that we not only had another child, that we planned her, love her, she has a sibling, and that MY child is the "baby". Livid. Evil


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

Posts: 960 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Somewhere out there....
IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, August 31st (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So wish us luck! My fwh is going tomorrow to file official NC/harassment paperwork at the courthouse; for ONCE he gets to be the plantiff! I posted in general about it a few days ago; we are both just sick and tired of her constantly doing something to get attention. She got her $ that she made that big ass stink about with my fwh and his lawyer (quick background it was the additional suppport ordered and we were out of town so he couldn't send it until he got back in town, the cOW had the NERVE to call his lawyer on her cell phone and bitch her out while our lawyer was on vacation with her family!!!); yet she still hasn't cashed this new check most likely because she is filing contempt on him again. So he's hoping this order will stop her from going to the courthouse for every little thing just to see my fwh or get some kind of attention. Although she has no life, WE do--we work, we are active in our community, we have our 2 COM to raise and do things with. We both don't have time for court or her silly games.

So wish us luck! I think he gets to go immediately in front of a judge, then they allow her 10 days to respond, and they go to court together for a court date. Depending on the day I may go; but I may not be able to because my son starts school soon and I'm already taking time off for that. But we'll see...


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

Posts: 960 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Somewhere out there....
debi9kids
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Sad  Posted: 1:41 PM, September 2nd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi everyone.
New to this group and thread.
Sadly.

Confirmed last month that OC is infact WH's. Might have been the worst day of my life.
I can forgive the affair, but OC is harder to accept.

I haven't read through the entire thread. Will need to d that on a night I have more time, but needless to say, I am sad to see there are SO many of us in this same situation :(

WH and I are in R, much to OW's dismay. She HATES me. HATES and I can only assume because WH didn't leave me for her.
The feeling is mutual. I HATE OW. She is a nasty bitch who we are quite certain planned to get pregnant to trap WH. (she later blackmailed him out of thousands of dollars before D-Day) UGH

Anyway, my question...
anyone else OBSESSED with having a baby?
As you can see, I have 9 children with WH (5 adopted & 4 bio). Our kids are our life.
I clearly LOVE children, but have HORRIBLE pregnancies so after my twins were born, I had my tubes tied.
I would've happily had more babies but knew my body couldn't handle it :(

Anyway, fast forward to 2 months prior to D-Day when WH and I were discussing the distance in our marriage (I could tell something was "off" and he was playing me and buying his time. Sadly, he tells me now he was hoping OW would miscarry OC so that he'd only have to tell me about the A.)
Anyway, WH & I were discussing our life and challenges (our youngest twin, our ds, had been diagnosed with CP and autism) and were discussing our future and WH says, " What if we adopt a baby some day?"

I hadn't been thinking about babies but when he said it, it of course sparked my bio-clock.
We talked about adopting a baby from Africa... (little did I know, he was preparing me for OC. ugh)

5 months later OC was born.
I can't tell you how much hatred I felt for that poor baby, WH and OW at the time.
They stole MY life. MY dreams . Shit on my feelings.

OW is raising OC, with us paying CS. WH has not seen OC because I can't stand the thought of him loving a baby that didn't come from us. (believe me, I get the irony that we have adopted kids not from either of us... God is ironic sometimes. ugh)
WH would LOVE to see OC but we also have 9 other children to consider and our oldest kids want to vomit whenever we discuss OC. They want nothing to do with OC or OW.
I feel like we (WH & I) need to respect their wishes & WH agrees.

Anyway, my issue...
I am OBSESSED with having another baby.
I HATE that MY HUSBAND's last baby is with that bitch.
I hate it.
I hate that WH got my heart thinking about another baby only to crush me on D-Day.
I wasn't thinking about it until he put it in my head and now, it's ALL I think about.
Every day.
I've even looked into having my tubal reversed.

I feel crazy.
I'm going to be 40.
I have 9 kids.
I have no reason to feel SO desperate to have a baby.
But here I am...
desperate :(

[This message edited by debi9kids at 1:43 PM, September 2nd (Friday)]


Me: 42 Him: 41
OW: 43 (crazy stalker)
Married: 18 years, together 22
Children: 20 ds, 19dd, 18dd, 16ds, 15ds, 15ds, 12ds, twins: 7dd & 7ds
confirmed OC 3ds

Posts: 163 | Registered: Aug 2011
debi9kids
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, September 2nd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just having one of those days where you think. Why do these OW really get pregnant? All i know is yes i have adopted the OC in my situation but since then the OW has went on to have a 5th child yes i said 5th. Well the plot thickens i find out she is homeless has no where to live no belongings and has a 2 week old in all this and is now going after that man for CS. Do they not ever learn from this? Just mad that there is so many of these women out there and they care for noone but themselves and money.

#1,
This sounds exactly like WH's OW. OC is child #3 with a different man, each paying CS while she dances on tables and collects welfare to pay for her fake boobs.


Me: 42 Him: 41
OW: 43 (crazy stalker)
Married: 18 years, together 22
Children: 20 ds, 19dd, 18dd, 16ds, 15ds, 15ds, 12ds, twins: 7dd & 7ds
confirmed OC 3ds

Posts: 163 | Registered: Aug 2011
debi9kids
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, September 2nd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Furthermore he is under the full and utter belief that the only reason she got with my SO in the first place was to get back at him for dumping her and marrying someone else after she had their child. (my SO and her BD#1 used to be best friends over 10 years ago when we were all in HS together ) All signs point to that being truth; it explains why she accepted so little interaction and attention from my SO when they were screwing, her easy acceptance of he and I staying a couple, her immediate strong desire to induce labor of OC prematurely when she found out BD#1 was now single, the fact that she talks to him waaaaaaaaaaaaay more than my SO despite having just had his kid.

WasAlmostThere,
WOW. THIS is my WH, OW & my WH's HS BFF's triangle as well.
OW had an A with WH's HS BFF 2 years ago. He broke it off when it destroyed his marriage & then OW found my WH... HS BFF is now single and OW seems to think he'll go for her again (he won't) so she's ALL over him like white on rice and leaving WH alone, thankfully.

Just wish she'd leave me alone too....


Me: 42 Him: 41
OW: 43 (crazy stalker)
Married: 18 years, together 22
Children: 20 ds, 19dd, 18dd, 16ds, 15ds, 15ds, 12ds, twins: 7dd & 7ds
confirmed OC 3ds

Posts: 163 | Registered: Aug 2011
#1survivor
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, September 2nd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just cant fathom why any women would have a child with someone other then there wife. I just know my OW is dirty sleazy and trashy. i mean come on she signed over rights after the judge told her she was unfit and ordered her to pay CS and medical. These women are trash and need to learn to support themselves cause this is ridiculous that there is so many of them. well what can we do.


Taking it one day at a time.

Posts: 41 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Virgina
renee21
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, September 2nd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Ladies,

I've read more than I have posted but I guess I am officially joining the group now.

We have been NC thus far, its a really long story...he and I talked over 6 months ago about having contact with the OC and I told him when we were on the same page, I would send her a letter and I would deal with her first....so I just found out that he started contacting the OW at her job in order to try to be able to at least talk to the OC over the phone for now....but he didn't even tell me....he made calls in June and July and I am just now finding out. And not because he told me ....

So I don't know if I will end up in the S & D forum, but its looking that way. He broke a huge boundary that we established a long time ago.....I feel like I just got hit by a truck again.


BW(me) 36
WH-36 SA
Three kids 18, 16 and 9
Married 18 years.
Multiple D-Days, multiple OW and an OC
12/19/03,5/13/2004,12/5/2009, 2/20/2014
I am no longer a guest on the Jerry Springer Show.

Posts: 1256 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Florida
debi9kids
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, September 2nd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMGosh renee21!
I'm so sorry.

That is my biggest fear... finding out my WH contacts OW without telling me.

(((hugs)))


Me: 42 Him: 41
OW: 43 (crazy stalker)
Married: 18 years, together 22
Children: 20 ds, 19dd, 18dd, 16ds, 15ds, 15ds, 12ds, twins: 7dd & 7ds
confirmed OC 3ds

Posts: 163 | Registered: Aug 2011
WasAlmostThere
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, September 3rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hello luvs, just checking in. i hope everyone is enjoying their holiday weekend.

my SO went to see OC for the second time since they've been out of the hospital. OC has a diaper rash and thrush already and it totally put him in a horrible mood after the visit. we went to breakfast the next day and dinner last night and talked about our decision to keep our child and the future and how things may change when OW finds out, financials, logistics, etc etc. He told me his heart is telling him he needs to just focus on us and our family and let everything else fall in place as it may, but that also makes him feel like a bad parent to OC to not be able to put his focus there. I understand completely, it's not the OC's fault she's in the mess. Bleh! Still having a ..not as hard but still not the easiest time being 100% happy and enjoying this but I'm getting there. We both are.

The SO has gone to visit his sister with his parents today and I'm wondering if he's going to tell them. (his sister already knows) Anxious to get their reaction out of the way.

[This message edited by WasAlmostThere at 9:14 PM, September 3rd (Saturday)]


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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, September 3rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Everyone)))

WAT, I worried about that too, if we had visitation with the OC, how he wouldn't get my fwh's attention as he should. Then I realized that unless the OC lived with us full time, he will always get less of my fwh because...well my fwh lives here with me and COM! Now of course being NC the OC really misses out, but nothing we can do about that now since OW is a nutjob. But really you can't compare the COM to the OC, the COM get more period since dad lives with them. Its the unfortunate reality of an OC situation with COM involved.

I remember when the OW tried to complain that the OC was entitled to more $ because our COM have so much more. Ummm its because I work and make almost as much $ as him.

Focus on you and yours...and don't feel guilty.


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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WasAlmostThere
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, September 3rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Island. I'm trying not to feel guilty but at some moments it's hard because I know everyone else is thinking it. But the way I see it this is OW fault and I shouldn't be held accountable to thinking/caring/sacraficing more for her child than she did herself. If having a dad around for her child fulltime was really important to her she'd have had her children within marriage or relationship or at least a guy that wanted to be bothered. But she didnt so I'm not going to care about this more than she did. I just feel for OC

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IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, September 3rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If having a dad around for her child fulltime was really important to her she'd have had her children within marriage or relationship or at least a guy that wanted to be bothered. But she didnt so I'm not going to care about this more than she did. I just feel for OC

You know, it took me to realize that even if we all ended up the BEST of buddies and whatnot...the OC would STILL see less/get less than the COM just by simple logistics...my fwh lives with me and my COM. What you said is important though. As a mother it hurts me to know a child has to grow up this way...but there has to be a "line" drawn and a level of disconnect so you don't take away from your own family and your own sanity. It's ok to feel bad...and it's ok to move forward and do wonderful things with your family, have wonderful memories, and NOT feel guilty. It takes time. I beat myself up for MONTHS until one day I realized that the OW/OC just cannot be allowed to take up free rental space in my brain because it takes away from focusing on my family and life.


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

Posts: 960 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Somewhere out there....
Want2help
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, September 3rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't beat yourselves up too bad about OC "not getting as much as COM".

One day, OW will have to get off of her ass and get a job, and MAY even find someone to marry her awful self. Albeit, they probably won't make as much as you and your H (because they are trashy), but you never know.

For a bit we dealt with Ow and her AP/husband making more than my FWH and I (I am a student and he got laid off) AND OW getting CS, so OC was living quite a bit better financially than us. However, they can't budget, and it didn't last long. somehow, Ow lost @3 an hour and her AP/husband got laid off as well. Not that I think that's karma for lying to welfare and CS, or anything.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
6 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, September 3rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't beat yourselves up too bad about OC "not getting as much as COM".

One day, OW will have to get off of her ass and get a job, and MAY even find someone to marry her awful self. Albeit, they probably won't make as much as you and your H (because they are trashy), but you never know.

For a bit we dealt with Ow and her AP/husband making more than my FWH and I (I am a student and he got laid off) AND OW getting CS, so OC was living quite a bit better financially than us. However, they can't budget, and it didn't last long. somehow, Ow lost @3 an hour and her AP/husband got laid off as well. Not that I think that's karma for lying to welfare and CS, or anything.

ETA; 10 months ago, during an over the phone CS hearing, OW was knocked up and living with some other girls fiance and lying about it to CS and the welfare agency. Now, at the most recent hearing (a mere 10 months later) she is spouting off about having a husband who wants to adopt Oc, how they have another child to support, boohoo. Lying bitch.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
6 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 1954 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
debi9kids
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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, September 3rd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I beat myself up for MONTHS until one day I realized that the OW/OC just cannot be allowed to take up free rental space in my brain because it takes away from focusing on my family and life

These are words I need to live by, as I allow myself currently to obsess over OC living with the horrible OW with us have NC.
but, it's necessary....

Thank you!


Me: 42 Him: 41
OW: 43 (crazy stalker)
Married: 18 years, together 22
Children: 20 ds, 19dd, 18dd, 16ds, 15ds, 15ds, 12ds, twins: 7dd & 7ds
confirmed OC 3ds

Posts: 163 | Registered: Aug 2011
IslandWahine
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, September 4th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((debi))) I saw (and posted) on your other thread in General. An OC situation is hard for others to understand...and adding the dimension of NC to it makes it even that much harder to understand how can someone do that to an innocent child? It's not like NC is an easy situation. My fwh feels immense guilt that his actions put the OC on this planet to live this life/this existence. It's not like we haven't tried to figure out how to make C work. THANK GOODNESS for BMC--she has really been instrumental in helping me to realize that C or NC...both avenues have their own unique challenges based on many different factors, and there is no right or wrong. Sure the OC deserves to know his/her half-family and bio-dad/mom, but when the OW is just out for blood and is determined to make everyone miserable (including themselves and the OC), well sometimes NC is the safest and believe it or not the best for all involved. The OC doesn't need to witness all that (bad enough they will eventually figure out what happened), the COM don't need to be dragged through that, and the BS shouldn't have to put up with that. I applaud those who have been able to work out something so there can be C. I think that's awesome and honestly one of the best outcomes for this type of situation. But that isn't the case all the time, and one shouldn't be pushed to guilt for their decisions. If you own your decision and have made even just a tiny bit of peace with it, then do you and do you well.


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you donít know what youíve got until itís gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought youíd never lose it.-B.Scott

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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 3:35 AM, September 4th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OC DESERVES to have both parents. It's true. There is no denying that.

Guess what is also DESERVED?

We DESERVE to have partners that don't cheat.

We sure as hell DESERVE to have partners that don't have children with people outside of our marriage/relationship.

COM sure AS SHIT DESERVE to have parents who are committed to the commitment they made to the family, and not be sharing attention/affection/finances/resources with a unplanned child outside the family.

Guess what, no one got what they deserved, did they?

Grrr, I am so sick of judgement. Walk a day in our shoes. I dare you. Then tell us what we are morally obligated to do.

I will be shocked if the comments on that thread didn't send lurkers and newbies scrambling for the shadows.

(Sorry, just pissy. Vent over).

(((Debi9kids)))

If NC is best for you, your FWH, and your 9 kids, we here all support you. We know. We've been there.

[This message edited by Want2help at 3:37 AM, September 4th (Sunday)]


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
6 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

Posts: 1954 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
debi9kids
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, September 4th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks IslandWahine & Want2help.

It's not a decision we've come to lightly and I hate being made to feel selfish or basically anything other than confused and hurt.

I actually wrote a blog post about the court order for child support (before I made my blog private) and was ATTACKED by so many people telling me what a selfish bitch I was that I didn't want to be at least financially supporting OC.
I couldn't believe it. ALL I was doing was venting as the BS and I was being told "suck it up."
(I was venting about the fact that the amount the court ordered is higher than we expected and it's hard when I have SO many kids, with our youngest being severely disabled.)

I get it. I decided to stay with WH and go into R, but that will never mean I am happy about the A, OW or OC.

Well, turns out, OW left a comment using her own name and when she did, ALL of my suspecting she was reading was confirmed because I had her IP address.
Guess who left ALL the nasty comments on that thread?
Yep, crazy ass OW!
Just kept changing the name but using the same IP address.

Here I felt like I was under attack and it was ALL her.
Yeah, I and I want to have that involved in my life with my COM? I think not.


Me: 42 Him: 41
OW: 43 (crazy stalker)
Married: 18 years, together 22
Children: 20 ds, 19dd, 18dd, 16ds, 15ds, 15ds, 12ds, twins: 7dd & 7ds
confirmed OC 3ds

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