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User Topic: Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 1:05 AM, December 23rd (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me


Posts: 6079 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, January 5th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS- Me (43)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

Posts: 2028 | Registered: Nov 2010
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, January 9th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, January 15th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me


Posts: 6079 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
2_4giving4_2long
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, January 15th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oooooooooh. I just asked about boundaries on another forum. This makes so much sense to me now. Thank you.


Me 52
He 49
DDay 11/06/11
Married 23 years
2 adult children.

Posts: 159 | Registered: Nov 2011
numbandnauseous
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Member # 34525
Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, January 15th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks - really helpful for us newbies!


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
AttemptStrength
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Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, January 23rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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BS me
WS him x2 A's
1 autistic DS

I'd never have spent the money on a wedding dress if I knew I was just going to a costume party.


Posts: 1992 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Wisconsin
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, January 24th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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BS- Me (43)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

Posts: 2028 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, January 24th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for Emily's


BS- Me (43)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

Posts: 2028 | Registered: Nov 2010
OnAnIsland
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, January 25th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you.


D-day: Christmas 2011
D-day 2: 3/28/2013

Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful sons

You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Maya Angelou


Posts: 1486 | Registered: Dec 2011
unarmbears
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, January 29th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


FBS-Me, 61
FWH-Him, 55
2 Sons 26 and 31
2 Daughters 29, 25 And 4 darling grandchildren!
"Love is an impulsive act, it's free. It's the story we tell about it afterward that's our poverty." Byron Katie

Posts: 4894 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: From where the trees lean east...
annb
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wonderingbull
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The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


Posts: 6048 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
LisaP
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, February 12th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me BS

Divorced!

~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown


Posts: 2200 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Oregon
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, February 15th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


BS- Me (43)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

Posts: 2028 | Registered: Nov 2010
nowiknow23
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You can call me NIK

"And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be."
- Sarah McMane


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al35118
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, March 1st (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Bh 48
FWW 31
Married Jan 24th 2012
D-Day June 17 2011
Then TT until Oct 19,2011

Posts: 79 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Bama
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, March 3rd (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me


Posts: 6079 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Texas
DixieDiamondfly
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, March 7th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for this post. I struggle with setting boundaries, so this really underscores the importance of it. I've just go to figure out what the boundaries should be.


BS: Me, 55 yrs. young
WS: Him, 58 yo...STBX
KIDS: 31 yo son, 30 yo son, 24 yo daughter...and three wonderful grandsons and a beautiful granddaughter.
Married 33 yrs.
D-Day #1: 2/8/12
D-Day #2: 7/16/2012
D-Day #3: 3/29/2015

Posts: 150 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Gulf Coast
SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, March 8th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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