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A great post. LOVE it, can still be applied!
Another reminder on how I wished I had found this site, when I was in denial/shock at the very beginning! My 1yr of hell TT, that I wasted!
I never looked up the word "infidelity" was always looking up "betrayed"
Family and friends on boths sides of our M knew about the A and did not tell me.
So, I don't consider them friends of our M.
One, to this day, continues to let WH spend overnights at her house and he told me during false R, "I chose her cause she lets me do what I want". She is also someone who thinks so differently than me that I can't consider being "friends" right now, never mind later.
WH does not understand this, but its not a surprise.
A few boundaries that I put out that I don't see on the list atop this thread:
-NC with me from OW's house where he has lived for a year;
-NC to OW if he has to come to "our" house;
-no trading resources between OW's family and "our" house; yes, he realy thought this was ok.
-limited texting/electronics when WH visits with DD, shouldn't time be one-on-one with her?
I think the key here is "detach".
I do, then I get all happy when its working, we get close, he gets stupid again.
I'm thinking my next boundary just may be that there is a limit to the number of times I'll through this cycle with him.
When I say he gets stupid again I don't mean he cheats again its all the other stuff - mean with words, impatient, treating me like the enemy - what we were even BEFORE the EA.