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User Topic: Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post.

Up thread someone asked for examples of consequences of boundaries. I could use some examples too.

Thanks.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, February 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Neorb,

Consequences can range from deal breaker divorce. To additional IC, sleep on couch, separation, setting up MC, additional gives like chores, planning additional date nights, scheduling couples weekend, etc. not everything needs to none a deal breaker, but they should engage and give more. Hope that helps.


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

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Me: BS 53 Him: WH 51
M: 28 years (30 now)
DDay 11/25/12 TT 9/9/13
OW:20 yrs younger McOW
Kids: 2

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Me: BS, 40's.

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Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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BS(Me) 32
SAWH (Beaker) 35
Married 11 Years
Dday Oct 06 2012
Dday 2 February 19 2014
Confessed to getting blow jobs from
prostitutes in 2006 and while living with OW
PA/EA 1 year
In r
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Me: FBS
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Kids: 15 & 17
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D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Me: FBS
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Kids: 15 & 17
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D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


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Me: FBS
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Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


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