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User Topic: Betrayed Men-Part 7
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, December 16th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey jj, what happened man? I hear you but that's out of left and sommat.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 5:52 AM, December 17th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I guess it was the third or fourth or fifth or SATAN'S BALLS HUNDREDTH story...the voice is a woman who is strong, kind, giving, amazing -

-
the kind most of us ummm *missed* -

...telling a story of the cheating father of her own children
and the so-called 'man'
- is twisting the knife in her soul out of cowardice
- exposing his children to crazymaking
(and making more crazymakers in the process)
- damaging everyone...out-and-out cruelty
- resorting to every cliche in the book to avoid, shift, deflect, and run from...hell, not only responsibility...but just. basic. humane-ness.

"I don't care who suffers - as long as I don't."

I remember back a bit, there was a guy that ended up walking on the street with bloody scratches and his shirt in tatters from his wife's abuse...it can get that bad...and we warn our buddies on here to watch out for those types of shenanigans, false accusations...
here, read some of these stories...it's enough to make yer toes curl...

http://www.heart-2-heart.ca/men/page6.htm

There's just something about 'men'...who abuse their betrayed wives and children...that makes my toes, teeth, and remaining hair curl.

I get all warriored-up.
Celtic Beserker.
Start diggin thru the closet, lookin for my ass-kickin boots.
& yeah...
end up coming in here and venting to the posse for help out there,
thanks sg,
thanks MEN!


Posts: 6019 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, December 17th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Spent an evening with real men, it was nice. I can still be a male. FWW has issues, too bad. I am not an ass just because I run on testosterone. It is also good to know there are women who appreciate men, not looking for a wimp.


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

Posts: 3967 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
Mypoorboys
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jjct,
What the hell type of drugs are you on man! Can't make head or tail of what you are saying in your last few posts, unless you are someone else pretending to be jjct.
This is a forum for men who have been betrayed. Good men that have been turned away, thrown out with the trash, as well as their kids.
We don't come here to listen to the sobbing of our adversaries!
Yes, there are certainly men who cheat, and harm their families, but this forum is not for them.
Please stay on track or, at a minimum, back off the Bad Acid Man!
Update;
My flight is taking me right up to the court date.
This past Sat. morning we both told the kids about the divorce, (3 and 7yrs old). She tried to make it vanilla, but I told the truth, ie. Mommy wants this, Daddy tried to convince Mommmy that she should not, but Mommy has made a decision and I can't do anything about it.
The 7 yr old cried, then listened as I told him that things will be ok and that he will eventually have two homes; one he spends time during the week with Dad and the rest of the week with his Mother. The 3 yr just wanted to continue to play.
So, I didn't let her manipulate the situation, (she tried and I stopped her).
I told the truth, gently and directly and reassured the kids that they are very much loved by both of us.
Then, the whore left for the day, went to a concert with her cop boyfriend and came back home at 3am.
This is the kind of woman I have to deal with. She pretends to really care about the kids, but her mind is focused all the time on this asshole boyfriend.
The kids are my life and it's now been 12 months. Trial date now Feb. 28th.$$$
Mandatory custody mediation Jan. 3, Mandatory Economic mediation Jan. 24th $$$$.
$20,000 and counting, but I'm not backing down.
If you don't know my saga, just read my profile, (a real nightmare and example of what happens when your WSlut/wife is someone spoiled rotten, narcissistic, and promiscuous).
I am not vengeful, but I do pray to GOD everyday that he deal out justice and help me and my boys get through this.
Mypoorboys

Posts: 176 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: New Brunswick, New Jersey
jjct
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mpb, I'm just glad I didn't have kids with the Narcissist 2nd stbxw...it's hard enough as it is to close the deal & D, so I'm sorry for all of the guys that have to deal with N's AND kids.

I just got pissed at the male of our species who abuse their wives and children and vented.
No acid,
though I get angrily incoherent at the stains upon our gender (other so-called men).


Posts: 6019 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
64fleet
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jj, I think we all pay for the sins of other men-I'm paying for the guy who molested my WW as a young girl.

I did nothing, except be born w/lots of testosterone, so I am to blame.


time wounds all heels

Posts: 5359 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: deliverance land
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't see a problem with ranting about abusive shitbags. If anything it's a way to vent the helpless frustration that comes from being legally barred from beating them into paste with a stop sign. Most of these guys are the kinda guys who are OM anyway so a little rage there is just another log on the fire imo.

Man, MPB. Divorce in NJ is like a special kind of hell. Hope that shit settles down for you soon.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Mypoorboys
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, Stillgoing,
Yes, in wonderful NJ divorce is a multi-billion dollar industry and thriving.
I can't see the end yet, but I'm not giving into her nonsense and I'm still going to shit on that SOB of a boyfriend.
His time is coming.
Is is no Hell as Hell on Earth.
What a joyus holiday season this is!
That's for all your support guys. Keep it coming. Your thoughts are valuable to me.
Sort of, additional counseling, but free.
Mypoorboys

Posts: 176 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: New Brunswick, New Jersey
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, December 27th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm free, but SI is not... Leonidas,
complaining about his knee pain
comes to mind...
I'm getting ready to stir up some massive menz shgit

because I love SI, and what it's done for me.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, December 27th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What are you planning?


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, December 28th (Wednesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

another menz fund-raiser...
we'll see when...

Posts: 6019 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, December 30th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guys, this has been my healing...my safe place.
The place where I can vomit it all out there, and be ok...

I wish for you all a precious season, moving toward closure, healing, growth.

I know this near apocalyptic shitstorm has made me a better person. More introspective. More understanding, More beentheredonethat and
here
letmetrytohelp.

I post pictures of my funny flirtings, my new life, I enjoy my new life after all this.
My new year wish is simple.

That you may gather yourself.
And enjoy yours too.


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Coma
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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, January 18th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So i am thinking about taking some insurance type of action for my protection.

My WW moved in to my house with me when we got married. Since then i have made all the household payments and bills. She works and keeps all of her paycheck for herself. The action i am thinking is to have her start paying her way for expenses since i am not sure R is going to work.

What are your opinions on this guys?


BS-Me
WW-Her
"Love, look what you've done to me"

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deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, January 18th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Coma - my WW does the samething. My view - if she's checked out of the M then my financial obligation has stopped. She can pay her own way - but at times it would be easier extracting hens teeth.
Its all part of her selfish NPD behavour.
Good luck - sometimes I get my rent money other times I dont - cant force a chicken to lay eggs


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

Posts: 522 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Where the sun is shining & the surf is pumping
Mypoorboys
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, January 18th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Coma,
I'm in the same position, but my lawyer threatened a court motion to force her to start contributing to the household expenses. It worked, but you still have to keep a close eye on all the accounting. Never trust a Wslut spouse after they have physically or mentally left the roust!
Read my profile and see a real nightmare. 14 months and still in the house. Court date after court date, nothing resolved. Trial set for Feb. 28th.
Mypoorboys

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Coma
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, January 18th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MPB

I read your story. I am amazed at what they cn do when they dump us.

Spoke to another friend today that suggested a post nupital if i can get her to sign it. Basiclly what i am looking for is for her to pay half the expenses. Since there are not any children involved. He said that should make things less complicated. We are trying to recocile so i don't want to be too hard until i know what will become of us. If she agrees to pay her half of the household expenses, then i am looking at a few extra hundred a month. Rough estimate is about 6oo and that is only the houshold expeneses.

I have spoken to her and she says that she is sort of willing to do this but lso wants to protect herself.

What's to protect? She is living here rent free and i pay for everything. Like most guys i don't mind putting myself out for my wife but i will not start all over again if we split. I do have children from a previous relationship but they are grown and out the home.

I was thinking that soon i will change my insurance policies to go to my children. Only a loyal wife should profit from my death. My friend said i must leave her a little something so she cannot contest my will. I'm going to put all this on the table and see what she will or will not agree to doing.


BS-Me
WW-Her
"Love, look what you've done to me"

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Mypoorboys
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Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, January 19th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Coma,
Sounds like a reasonable plan, but each state has it's separate laws regarding wills.
In NJ, I cannot change the beneficiary on any will unless it is 90 days prior to a divorce complaint. Too late for me now, so I have to wait until the divorce is finalized, then disown her completely.
Also, in NJ both parties have to carry enough life insurance to cover educational expenses for their offspring.
I'll tell you, for me, this process has been a nightmare.
It's a multi-billion dollar system complete with all the leeches and bottom feeding lawyers.
$20,000 and counting. Trial could cost upwards of $50,000.
What a mess, what a slut and poor decision I made to marry this whore 9 years ago.
Mypoorboys

Posts: 176 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: New Brunswick, New Jersey
Coma
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Default  Posted: 5:34 AM, January 20th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In NJ, I cannot change the beneficiary on any will unless it is 90 days prior to a divorce complaint. Too late for me now, so I have to wait until the divorce is finalized, then disown her completely
.

MPR
Are you serious? That's outrafeous in today marital climate. As the owner of sid polocies i would take out a loan or cash that policy in ASAP.

[This message edited by Coma at 5:34 AM, January 20th (Friday)]


BS-Me
WW-Her
"Love, look what you've done to me"

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Mypoorboys
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, January 20th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Coma,
With term life insurance, there is no, cash out value.
For me, now I'm fighting back and forth; we take two steps forward, she reneges, we take 3 steps back.
It's all designed by her and her amoral Father to debt me and wear me down.
Mpbs

Posts: 176 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: New Brunswick, New Jersey
Coma
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, January 21st (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Coma,
With term life insurance, there is no, cash out value.
For me, now I'm fighting back and forth; we take two steps forward, she reneges, we take 3 steps back.

MPB
I just checked all my insurance and things to see if i am bound like that. Glad to say that i can switch and/or collect as i see fit.


BS-Me
WW-Her
"Love, look what you've done to me"

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