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User Topic: Memoirs of a Widowed MIstress: A Love Story
widowedmistress
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by kdny at 5:26 PM, January 22nd (Saturday)]


Xo-Megan

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: near Seattle
GroundZero
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow. Your outright blameshifting:

my husband refused to love me. He rejected my sexual needs and told me that my emotional needs were just too much for him. He wanted nothing more from me than a clean home and dinner on the table at 6:00.

and shameless self-promotion (which is against the guidelines of the board, by the way) make me want to

And I am a fWW myself, by the way.


Out of clutter, find simplicity; out of discord, find harmony; in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. Einstein

Posts: 1777 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Land of the Sweet Lovely Kiddos
widowedmistress
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


[This message edited by kdny at 5:27 PM, January 22nd (Saturday)]


Xo-Megan

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: near Seattle
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Soooo you registered for this site the same month you published your book?

And how does your husband feel about you referring to your affair partner as the "love of your life?"

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 3:49 PM, January 22nd (Saturday)]


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6908 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Kaci
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously?????


Me-BS-38
FWH-40
M-08/95
DDay-08/08
3 children - 11,9,5

Posts: 57 | Registered: Aug 2010
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Call it what you like—illicit, forbidden, even wrong—but falling in love outside of marriage happens every day.. . . your average suburban mom with a good husband, two beautiful kids, and a nice home. A reunion with college friends puts her on a plane to Hawaii next to Carlos, an attractive older married man. Phone numbers are exchanged. She thinks better of following up with him, but her curiosity gets the best of her. With one phone call, followed by a casual lunch, a five-and-a-half year love affair was born. The dynamics are powerful, messy, and even dangerous, but . . . leaving it all behind isn’t an option. The animal attraction she and Carlos share is unlike anything she’s ever experienced. The adulterous love they find is the truest love she has ever known. But in the end, when Carlos is diagnosed with Amyloidosis, a rare blood disorder, she is hit with two hard truths: mistresses are always outsiders and sometimes all the love a person has to give isn’t enough to save a life.

I think you might have better luck hawking your book on a forum for mistresses, not in a place where betrayed spouses are REELING from the pain of infidelity and wayward spouses are trying to heal as well.

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 3:58 PM, January 22nd (Saturday)]


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6908 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
widowedmistress
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by kdny at 5:27 PM, January 22nd (Saturday)]


Xo-Megan

Posts: 4 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: near Seattle
Rise And Shine
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know this won't sound very romantic but you're not a mistress, you're a whore.

It's the plain truth of the matter.

A whore.

And there's no soliciting on this site.


April 25, 2009

Posts: 3263 | Registered: Feb 2010
Ready_to_run
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was indifferent. I had an affair and he retreated further. We each made our mistakes.

He may have made mistakes. But, yours was not a mistake...It was a selfish, premeditated decision to piss all over your wedding vows. Nothing remotely romantic about it and certainly not a love story.


BH
Divorced


Posts: 750 | Registered: Sep 2008
Fighting2Survive
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only thing I have to say about this is:

I agree with all the other posters. It's one thing to come here to seek support for doing the internal work of recovering from your DECISION to have an A. It's beyond believable to be here to profit from it.

The A might not make you a whore if you were honestly owning your shit, but seeking money for sleeping with someone definately does.


Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces


Posts: 7279 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: NC
SierraGrace
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Yikes, mods will be here shortly I'm quite sure.

It's one thing to want to come here for support since you BETRAYED your H, your children and your marriage, but to flaunt and promote a book about having been a mistress....the numbers of BS'es feeling gutted by this must be astronomical.

This site is for the deeply betrayed and those who did the betrayal that want HELP and SUPPORT. It is NOT a marketplace for flaunting and selling your betrayal.

When I saw your handle, I had a feeling this was not going to be a good thing...

[This message edited by SierraGrace at 4:41 PM, January 22nd (Saturday)]


BSO(me): 50-ish! How did THAT happen?
~♥~ Fur-kids: 5 Cats ~♥~
Adopt a pet! Save a life!

Posts: 1577 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Sunrises to Sunsets
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Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As you are new here, you may wish to familiarize yourself with the guidelines, especially this one.

NO SOLICITING: SI.com does not allow soliciting of any kind, publicly OR via Private Message. This includes threads with links to other relationship sites and charities and self serving voting sites, social networking, etc. If you have a product, service or Website you believe to be in the interest of SI.com, please contact an Administrator.

[This message edited by Rise_Above at 5:06 PM, January 22nd (Saturday)]


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Posts: 14226 | Registered: Apr 2009 | From: Chrys a lis
oceanwaves
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Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my gosh.

Are you freaking serious?? What a slap in the face to your betrayed husband and your affair partners wife.

You know what? Go check out the Just found out forum...... take a look at what your "true love forever" does to the other people.

Talk about self indulgent and selfish... the affair was for you, the book is for you and of course the reconciliation is for you.....

wow.


“More than anything else, I believe it's our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny.” -Anthony Robbins

Posts: 1606 | Registered: Aug 2010
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, January 22nd (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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