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User Topic: Long Term Affair Part 23
honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wanted to say welcome to Henny. Keep coming here to SI and read the Healing Library. It helps to journal too. One suggestion that I found helpful is when I was overwhelmed with emotions was to journal for 10-15 minutes and then go on with whatever I was doing. I might be ok for an hour or just a few minutes, and then I would journal again. This is just free-writing to get out all those feelings and it's just for you. It doesn't matter whether or not it makes sense, just get those emotions out.

Tryn, it may be true that Allgood's WH may seek out this OW for now, but it is within her rights to ask that the children be not exposed to her, especially now. If, in the future, they marry, that is different and time would have passed. But now, her children do not need to be exposed to the OW.

They always say that kids are resilient, but they still can get hurt deeply by divorce. It can take a long time to adjust to new things. It's hard enough to have to adjust to the breakup of the family but to have to immediately be introduced to the OP??? That's more than they should have to bear!!!!

My parents are divorced. I know.


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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While I cannot control my H's choice to bring OW near my kids, I can certainly choose my reaction to it. She will not be welcome EVER near me. EVER.

All I am saying is that he is not going to rub salt in the wound without me grimacing. I'm not gonna sit here like an idiot, with everyone saying what's wrong with Allgood, she's jealous, she can't let go, etc. I'm not going to be able to conceal my hatred for this woman and the thought of her near my kids makes my skin crawl. While, I may have to learn to conceal it should she have a significant place in my H's life, only because I don't want my kids to have unnecessary drama, at least people will know that my reaction to her is not just a result of my H getting a gf, but much, much more.

Damn the thought of that just gets me really riled up.

When people ask why we broke up, we both plan on telling them that it's between us and it was something that was not decided lightly, etc.

Telling family members, etc why we divorced WILL lead to my children knowing.

So, I'm not lying, I'm refusing to answer.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Allgood,
I get the skin-crawling, mama bear "get the F away from my children, you skanky piece of sick twisted gutter trash" feeling. I've got a nice, big dose of it myself. In fact, one of the big reasons I stayed in the house with WH after DDay was to make sure that he didn't give his OW access to my children. I even had the one-year timeline (still do... no way I'm letting him out of the house before end of May, 1 year after their last "i wuv woo" conversation). She fucked over her own child to get what she wanted; there is no way in hell I am going to stand by and let her near my children if I can help it. And he would have run straight to her, that stupid POS. Now he claims he won't, but he might. He might whether we're in "R" or not, frankly. There's nothing I can do about it. My decision to bear Mr. Nell's children will affect the Boyos for the rest of their lives.

WH is completely unable to own his shit, which includes any possibility that his ignoring our children for two years and the subsequent broken-down mommy they've been dealing with has or ever will have any affect on them whatsoever.

honest,
I have an enormous amount of guilt for my kids, even knowing that I couldn't have known what I now know... you know?!

Dip,
If you'll notice, I called you out DAYS ago. But, fine, you go ahead and give the prize to someone else. That's juuuuuuuuust fine.

L4L,
how was your evening?


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

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old dipstick
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nell.

I can see that I am in trouble now. Deep trouble! I knew I should have gone along with Allgood's story that the MIA boys were off on a gator hunting, ass kicking, and grilling adventure. Her version was much better anyway. I guess I need to hide out a day or so while I figure out a fair solution to this problem.

Hugs to the tribe.


Her WW 60
Me BH 60
M 36 yr
D-day#1 fall of 76 OM#1 2NS
D-day#2 summer of 89 OM#2 LTA 8 yrs OM#3 Short Term A


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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nell -
I get the skin-crawling, mama bear "get the F away from my children, you skanky piece of sick twisted gutter trash" feeling. I've got a nice, big dose of it myself.

Glad to hear it!
I don't like any of this "acceptance" stuff - it's unacceptable!!!

And Dip you are in
T-roouubble.... dam!


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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njgal480
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Allgood-
Did I miss something? Did you find out the your H is seeing the OW?
Yuck!
That would be very very tough for me!

I am different from you- I told everyone about the LTA! and I mean everyone! I was crazed...
my kids know about it, my family, friends, some co-workers, H former boss and co-workers (he no longer works there but OW stil does).
Everyone has survived.
At first my kids were very angry with their dad and very supportive of me.
Next they were very wary of our reconciliation but....with time as they see the effort that my H is putting into R they are now his #1 fans and are very supportive of our R.
They are alos very proud of his work to get sober etc. (eventhough my H was a functional alcoholic and my kids did not have a clue as to the severity of his alcoholism... they found out all about after d-day).
As you can tell.. I'm a big believer in the truth ...IMHO..the truth will set you free...

and,it also makes the WS have to face up to what they did and face the music...but that's my opinion.

welcome to the newcomers on LTA..you've been getting some very good advice!


Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.


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honesttoafault
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Allgood, isn't there a way to put in the agreement that OW be not around the children? I know I was able to do something like that with my separation agreement with xWH. I forget what it's called.

Nell, no need to feel guilt. You are doing everything you can to save the marriage.

What I'm talking about is that kids need time to adjust to the divorce, period. They don't need to have an OP shoved down their throat. In time, it gets better.

When my parents were divorced for over 2 years, I was encouraging my mother to date (I was in my teens). I knew my father left.

Another thing too,is that the visitation should be about the parent spending time with the kids, not about having to share the parent's time with an OP.

As I said, it changes with time, like a year or two.

Look, I told my xWH I didn't want the kids to be anywhere near the OW. I had it put in writing. I told him repeatedly if the OW was a person who believed he was single and then found out the truth it was one thing. That could happen to any of us. But it was not the situation. She knew damn well he was married with kids. I told xWH, if he met another person, after he left, it was a different story. But this OW who broke us up????No way in hell.

xWH has remarried to a lady he met many years after we were divorced. She had nothing to do with us. I am lucky that she was always good to my kids, and is a good person. But this is 23 later.

These OW who knew they were dating a married man, or were even married themselves have no business around our children!

ok, rant over......

Just having a bad day. WH calls about some financial stuff and then I hear the OC's crying in the background.
I got off right away. I have told him not to call me from that house or email me.
Talk about shoving it down your throat!

{{{{tribe}}}

[This message edited by honesttoafault at 2:23 PM, March 5th (Saturday)]


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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nell

I remember quite clearly shortly after dday thinking "I'm not sure how this is going to pan out. He wants to stay so I'll follow the advice on SI and wait at least 12 months. Even if all that happens is that he and OW2 and OW3 "break up" it will be worth it." The bitch in me was determined not to have him leave me (after all the years of shit I put up with), take half of out property and shack up with one of them. The thought of any of his whores near my kids made my skin crawl. A "new" UNMARRIED gf would be different - but not one of those POS.

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok -
NJGal- no I didn't catch H with OW again - I guess the conversation developed because OWs in general came up when we were trying to help answer Henny's questions. If it wasn't that - I don't remember how it came up. But, since it's absolutely over between H and myself and we are in the negotiating phase of our separation agreement, I'm sure he will contact OW at some point in the future, and as she was single, she may still be available, it's just not that hard to imagine that she will be something I need to deal with in the future.

Honest: I could write something up in the agreement that neither of us will have a significant other around the kids, and to be honest, that is what I expect anyway, but that really is just so the kids can get used to this in phases, get used to us being apart before they get used to us being involved with someone else. And, of course, there's no need to involve kids with transient relationships in my opinion at all. If it isn't at least 1 year in the making, I don't see why they should be near my kids unless my H is basically getting engaged.
Anyway - these kind of provisions have no balls. So it's there in black & white. You can't do it. SO, Nogood does it anyway. Then what? Nothing, that's what. If I brought him back to court he'd get yelled at. Big fn deal. Probably wont stop someone who's gonna do it anyway, it would just lead to the "dont tell your mom OW was here, ok, she doesnt like her, etc." kinda nonsense.
It's not the kind of thing that would affect his right to see the kids.
Well, H should be home soon after working all day on 3 hrs sleep after a night of drinking. I plan on leaving the second the door hits his ass. Muah ha ha ha ha!


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Laura,
I'm glad I'm not the only one who stayed to punish OW (and WH). Seriously, she has PROBLEMS. And stupid WH has said on many occasions that the whole "lets bring the child into our relationship and pretend to be a family even though we're all twisted and horrible and we're only going to break up and rip them away from a person that we've shoved into their lives" is perfectly okay. In fact, the words he used were, "the kids don't get a vote." grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. Still makes my blood boil. And my kiddos are young, and the older one especially is sensitive and hates change.

WH is alternately avoiding me and asking what is wrong. I am trying to figure out how to tell him that I am currently hanging by a thread, and am in fact playing with the idea of asking him to move out. But that would be a very bad idea (for the Boyos) unless I am sure about D. Which I am not. What I do know is that yesterday WH worked really late (until 10 p.m.), called me repeatedly from his desk so I would know where he was... and while I appreciated the effort, I just didn't care. And when I heard the garage door go up, I quickly turned out the light next to my bed (I was reading) and went to sleep so that I wouldn't have to talk to him.

Why the confession? Because honest tried to give credit where credit wasn't due... I'm not working on my M right now. If anything, I'm doing exactly what WH was doing while in his A (minus the porking a pathetic needy co-worker and acting like a loser 14-year-old). I'm ignoring our M, I'm rewriting our M history, I'm only seeing WH's bad points and I'm not trying to make our M better. Just can't seem to get myself out of my funk. Boo for me. But I see what I'm doing and know I have to change. Yay for me.

Plus my IC is not calling me out on my shit. We just sit around and agree that WH is a big jackass and that I am angry. She does to EMDR therapy and that might come in handy.

Dip,
Listen, we all make mistakes. Just don't do it again.

tryn,
Still waiting for you to give me the manspeak translation.

And I really have to remember "skanky piece of sick twisted gutter trash" the next time I'm throwing a tantrum. I can never remember anything but "whore" and that loses it's edge after a while. I did use "arrogant prick" the last time WH and I got into it; it was a nice change from a$$hole.

Okay, off to walk the dog now. Hugs to all.


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nell

"the kids don't get a vote."

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi all

Episode 5 of focussing on the positive

H came home with these for me yesterday

I'm off to the hospital now. H rang me from work this morning and told me that OW2 is looking after my aunt today. This will be the first time I have seen her face to face since a week after dday.

Wish me luck

HUGS to all

Laura

[This message edited by Laura28 at 5:42 PM, March 5th (Saturday)]


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
brokenpromise
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm still about and reading everything - just haven't been posting much.

I am feeling a lot like Nell. Not sure what to do about it if anything at all... is this common just before the big 12 month antiversary?

Why the confession? Because honest tried to give credit where credit wasn't due... I'm not working on my M right now. If anything, I'm doing exactly what WH was doing while in his A (minus the porking a pathetic needy co-worker and acting like a loser 14-year-old). I'm ignoring our M, I'm rewriting our M history, I'm only seeing WH's bad points and I'm not trying to make our M better. Just can't seem to get myself out of my funk. Boo for me. But I see what I'm doing and know I have to change. Yay for me
.

Laura... I can just imagine your cold stare turning her into a pillar of salt or something else that begins with an S.

Allgood - I admire your resolve.

As always.. thanks to the tribe, it is good to have this sanctuary


BW- Me 60 FWS - 65
M 43 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi all

BP

Laura... I can just imagine your cold stare turning her into a pillar of salt or something else that begins with an S

Oh how I wish I had had a video camera!!!!

OW2 was in my aunt's room when I walked in and scuttled out with her head down

She then stayed right away. After about a half an hour my H came to the room. When he was leaving I walked out into the corridor with him. As he walked away she asked him a very stupid question "Did you turn the woman in palliative?" to which he replied "NO" and kept walking. I saw the exchange but didn't hear as it was a little way down the corridor. Firstly he is not working on her floor today and only came up to see me and my aunt (she would have known this) and secondly SHE has to be present when this is done!!!

He told me later the words exchanged and we agreed that she spoke to him to try to rattle me!!!

After he passed her she came charging down the corridor towards me trying to stare me out. I held her gaze until she dropped her eyes about 12 feet away. She then charged past me into my aunt's room. Stroked her forehead and said "Are you alright sweetheart" and then charged out again. She did not meet my eyes once

Clearly she planned to try again to rattle me without success. I rather enjoyed looking down on her 5 foot plumpness from my 6 foot SI diet slimness . I watched her the whole time and she didn't once look at me.

Lisbeth would have been truly proud of me.

I so enjoyed the POWER

I also got a good close look at her and the resemblance to his mother and sister is spooky No wonder he didn't argue when I pointed it out months ago

My dear old aunt is barely conscious so would have no idea.

Anyway, in spite of my bravery I am rather tired and have lots of jobs to do. Nice to hear from you BP. Don't worry about keeping up with us, just let us know how you are feeling and vent when you want to. Still worried about the LTAers MIA (BTW Dip I ASKED FIRST!!!!!! and don't you go hiding out to avoid me - I've forgiven you already )

Take care all. Thinking of you

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ats

You made a comment aways back that I meant to respond to. You said something about being married to an OP.

For many of us our Ss were not just WSs but OPs in As with other WSs (how's that for abbreviations??? )

In my response to Henny I said (talking about my H's OWs)

Yes I compare myself with them. I am honest, trustworthy, faithful and generous.

They are dishonest, not to be trusted, unfaithful (they all had Hs) and selfish.

I recognise that the latter also describes my H during the A. I believe he HAS changed. I certainly hope so.

Whether THEY have changed is irrelevant to me. I just don't care and will continue to think of them as being like this. (OW3's behavior this morning strongly suggests she has NOT changed).

Laura

[This message edited by Laura28 at 9:19 PM, March 5th (Saturday)]


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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Yay Laura!!! I am so proud of you for NOT backing down with OW2!! If I ever have to come in contact with OW in my sich I can only hope to have your strength!! Hell to the yeah!!
I have an enormous amount of guilt for my kids, even knowing that I couldn't have known what I now know... you know?!
Nell, I have been struggling with this for 8+ mos. My parents got a D when I was in college and it is creepy how similar the sich will be for our DD21. For the first 6 mos. I was adamant that they not know about the infidelity, but as time has passed, and FWH remains in his semi-fog state, I have come to realize that if I ever hope to be happy, they will have to know. Believe me, I don't intend to go out of my way to tell them AND I hope that I will be in a healthier place by then so that I can help them, but I didn't create this mess and I am VERY uncomfortable with the lies. I've never been good at hiding my feelings and these past few months have been sooooo hard on me. For their sake I have not said anything to our kids, but as it becomes more and more apparent to me that we cannot R, well, they'll have to be told something....and I'm not taking the blame for this fiasco.

FYI - I am about 25% through the book, "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" by Mira Kirshenbaum. It has been very helpful to identify some of FWH's behaviors and how they may impact my decision to stay or leave this M. There are very specific examples that I have found very enlightening. I would recommend it to anyone that is currently "on the fence." Having said that, I feel more and more confident that I cannot be happy staying in this M. I'm just not patient enough or kind enough to do as Miracle has done and stay together as roommates. I feel like I'm dying a little bit every day that I have to keep up the pretense that everything is hunky-dory. I'm really, really bad at keeping secrets and at the end of the day I'm wiped out trying to "play the game." I am working with my IC to make sure that my head is in a good place before I make any final decisions, but unless FWH has a personality transplant, I don't see us being able to R. As recently as two days ago, he was opining that if/when our kids find out about his LTA, he estimates that our oldest, DS24, will be "over" being angry with FWH in a weekend. Need I say more??

Had a birthday dinner for a friend tonight. It was so fun to be with my friends, even if I was the only one not part of a couple. It's okay, that part I'm used to....but the chardonney sure did help!


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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strong

BIG HUGS

Wish I could send over some of my "power". I feel STRONG now and would love to share that with you.

I looked at your pic again and your kids are not that young. How old is your youngest?

I told my kids a week after dday. I was convinced from what I knew that he was planning to leave me and wanted to tell them in person in a quiet way. They were 20 and 24 at the time. They both were excellent. I told them that in spite of what their father had done, that he was still their father and I knew they loved him. That I did not expect their relationship with him to change becasue of his probs with me (I almost choked but anyways). I said that I was very upset and needed their support but that when he left me for OW3 (I didn't tell them about 1 and 2)that they should continue with him as before.

When he said he wanted to stay they were fine too. Their response was that they wanted whatever made me happy and would support whatever decision I made. They were wonderful.

They have been very good with him. He has been to visit and chats and texts them as before. However, they have both told him that they are happy he is staying with me but that he should leave now if that's what he wants to do. They have said that if he stays and pretends to R but cheats again they will CUT HIM OFF - aren't they adorable

I suppose I am saying that your kids may surprise you and handle it better than you expect.

HUGS

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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strongish
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Laura,

I am coming to the realization that my kids are probably much more capable of handling this "drama" than I have been!! (BTW - my youngest is DS17. Older two are DS24 and DD22...both are out of the house.)

That I did not expect their relationship with him to change becasue of his probs with me
I am in awe of how you were able to communicate this to your boys. Slowly but surely I think I'm getting to the place where I can set the anger aside (most of the time but not always ) and tell my kids a similar message. I admire that you were able to keep your rage to yourself and say what was really important for them to hear.

My parents divorced when I was in college. It wasn't the actual D that was so difficult, it was their shenanigans during and after. Both my M and F tried to manipulate me and my siblings and that created a barrier between us that persists to this day. My kids have grown up seeing the animosity between my parents and I could never, and would never do that to them. While it may not work out between me and FWH, that's not their fault and they should not be punished because of it.

My oldest is in the military and I worry about him finding out that his Dad is not the man that he has looked up to his whole life, at a time when he will be deploying for duty overseas. DS24 is an "old soul." Always has been more mature than his age...frankly he's usually more mature than I am! I want to make sure that I'm strong enough to convey to him that he doesn't need to "take care" of me but that I'll be okay on my own. He needs to be able to do his job without worrying that his mom will fall apart! For them, I can do this...and I will with the help of the Tribe!


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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, March 5th (Saturday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Strong

HUGs honey.

Your kids can help you through this. I understand your concern for DS24. So hard for a mum. I know that you need to wait for the right time.

I look at your family pic and want to cry. I look at your h and want to slap him!!!!

Prayers for you and your kids.

Love

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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strongish
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Feel free to slap at him anytime!! I don't mind a bit!!

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