Your Past is always going to be the way it was- so stop trying to change it!
(just a paragraph)
Perhaps you believe that there is great value in trying to understand the past so you can try to figure yourself out - why you do certain things, why you react certain ways, and why you create drama in your life. There is a slight catch in analyzing the past, however: Most people who spend alot of time dwelling on the past never do get their lives in order. In fact, the harder the mind struggles with the past, the greater the pain the mind experiences. You will not free yourself from that pain until you cease to dwell on the past, until you cease deriving your sense of self from past experiences.
It was a chapter I was not able to read for a long time cause it pissed me off but now that I can, I wanted to share it.
I know myself very well, but I did try for years to figure out my husband, the cheater. Definitely got stuck.