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Before You Say Reconcile...
Thank you for this post. My Dday was Feb 8th and the day I confronted him (I call it "fan" day for "stuff hits the fan") was Feb 24th. He has apologized and says it is in no way my fault and has said he would do anything I want him to do. He has done the few things that I have asked. When I ask him questions he answers them...but how do I know that he is answering honestly and completely? Honestly, I'm feeling the red flags again...and I've learned to go with my gut.
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So glad this was bumped..I would of never saw it. Here's a question...my spouse has done everything in the first column aside from actually backing his words with actions. He is transparent, hads had NC, and says he is sorry and it will never happen again..he is mindful of my triggers and answers any and all questions I have...but...he doesn't go above and beyond to show that he still wants me. I get I love you's but honestly that means little anymore. I cannot look at him and say I love him as much as I did before the A. Is this me blocking the R? If he is doing everything else right should I be expecting more remorseful actions??
Definitely a rug-sweeper here. POS WH shows no remorse what-so-ever. Unless HE does a drastic 180 on his actions as well, there will be no reconciliation here. I failed miserably at the 180 yesterday when he was in town. He's not around enough to even see me 180 anyway. Doesn't call. Just goes on with his merry life with the OW.