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Skan
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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Dyinghere
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Need to read this




Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4799 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
damaged1
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for this post! It will help me find my footing. If I see my WW on the right hand column I'll know where I currently stand.


Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.

Posts: 6 | Registered: Dec 2013
damaged1
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks so much!


Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.

Posts: 6 | Registered: Dec 2013
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17292 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Simple
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, January 8th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump bump bump


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8461 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
brohl5
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.

You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.

Breathe, just breathe.


Posts: 5650 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Indiana
spond
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First time seeing this.


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

Posts: 399 | Registered: Dec 2013
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4151 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Kitty70
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me: BGF, 43
Him: WBF, 35
Together 9 years, moved in 8/15/2013

Posts: 98 | Registered: Jan 2014
DLP50
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most of the right side is us.

However, I've heard "I'm sorry for hurting you".

I guess since he never admited to an A, why apologize for hurting me? What did he do to hurt me?

He's a pro at rugsweeping. He should be nominated for the rugsweeing award.


Me BS-50ish
WH (not according to him)- 50ish
M - 18 yrs together 21
No kids together- DD and DS from my 1st marriage
5 Beautiful GD's

Posts: 57 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Out West
shatteredapart
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm booking marking this to show WH. I think he may be turning the corner ever so slowly. But afraid to hope much should I be devastated once again.


Me-BS
Him-WS
EA(PA?) 10 months with COW
3 ddays-Sept '13, Oct '13, Dec '13
Attempting Reconciliation...time and actions will tell

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
ascian
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 299 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
totallyconfused1
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, January 25th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a great thread. I'm glad I can see my ws in the remorseful side.


Me - BS
Him - WS
DD Jan 8 2014

Posts: 81 | Registered: Jan 2014
Simple
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


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