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Skan
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4713 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Dyinghere
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Need to read this




Posts: 132 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: the inside of my head
Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4713 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
damaged1
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for this post! It will help me find my footing. If I see my WW on the right hand column I'll know where I currently stand.


Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.

Posts: 6 | Registered: Dec 2013
damaged1
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Member # 41651
Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, December 13th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks so much!


Me: 43
WS: 51
D-Day: 11/26/13
S:13
Married 14 years
Where I'm at: Trying to get through this life altering event and keep my marriage but not blind to where this road might lead to.

Posts: 6 | Registered: Dec 2013
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, December 14th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


If you can't learn to enjoy your life when you have problems, you may never enjoy it because we'll always have problems. - Joyce Meyer

Posts: 16969 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Simple
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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, December 16th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, January 3rd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Simple
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, January 8th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, January 10th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8145 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
brohl5
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, January 16th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.

You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.

Breathe, just breathe.


Posts: 5641 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Indiana
spond
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, January 17th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First time seeing this.


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

Posts: 389 | Registered: Dec 2013
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, January 18th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4082 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Kitty70
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me: BGF, 43
Him: WBF, 35
Together 9 years, moved in 8/15/2013

Posts: 98 | Registered: Jan 2014
DLP50
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, January 19th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most of the right side is us.

However, I've heard "I'm sorry for hurting you".

I guess since he never admited to an A, why apologize for hurting me? What did he do to hurt me?

He's a pro at rugsweeping. He should be nominated for the rugsweeing award.


Me BS-50ish
WH (not according to him)- 50ish
M - 18 yrs together 21
No kids together- DD and DS from my 1st marriage
5 Beautiful GD's

Posts: 57 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Out West
shatteredapart
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, January 20th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm booking marking this to show WH. I think he may be turning the corner ever so slowly. But afraid to hope much should I be devastated once again.


Me-BS
Him-WS
EA(PA?) 10 months with COW
3 ddays-Sept '13, Oct '13, Dec '13
Attempting Reconciliation...time and actions will tell

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: USA
ascian
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, January 22nd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Me - BH 39
Her - FWW 36
D-Day: 8/13
Working on R

Posts: 281 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
totallyconfused1
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, January 25th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a great thread. I'm glad I can see my ws in the remorseful side.


Me - BS
Him - WS
DD Jan 8 2014

Posts: 77 | Registered: Jan 2014
Simple
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.


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