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Topic: Before You Say Reconcile...
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brkn_heartd
♀ Member
Member # 30396 |  Posted: 8:49 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014 |     |
Bump
Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Posts: 1818 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US |
mamajen00
♀ Member
Member # 43810 | | Posted: 11:23 PM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
My WH still has no remorse. Not sure if he ever will. I am moving forward with D, without his knowledge.
BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA
Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2014 |
littleflower
♀ Member
Member # 42673 | | Posted: 2:15 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Bump
DD 13/1/14
Him WH
OW - what a cow
3 kids under 4
Posts: 101 | Registered: Mar 2014 |
Jpapageorge
♂ Member
Member # 31800 | | Posted: 10:06 PM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014 | |
Bump.
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
Posts: 1800 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California |
brkn_heartd
♀ Member
Member # 30396 | | Posted: 7:18 PM, August 4th (Monday), 2014 | |
bump
Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Posts: 1818 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US |
jjct
♂ Member
Member # 17484 | | Posted: 7:58 AM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014 | |
BUMP!
Posts: 7007 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas |
Headunderwater
♂ New Member
Member # 44484 | | Posted: 5:41 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Thank you so much for posting this. As hard as it is to accept I realize that my wife has been the absolute embodiment of rugsweeping. As much as she says that she's sorry she constantly has been proving otherwise with her actions.
Posts: 13 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: United States |
blindsided81
♀ Member
Member # 44206 | | Posted: 7:31 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014 | |
Thanks for bumping. I hadn't seen this and it is important.
My WH spent exactly 7 days in a false reconciliation and if I had known some of this it wouldn't have lasted one day!
So thanks again.
Me, BW 51
WH, 47
OW, ttw (trailer trash whore)
DD, 7/21/14
Separated, divorcing his ass as soon as I possibly can!!
Posts: 167 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: North Carolina |
BtraydWife
♀ Member
Member # 42581 | | Posted: 9:14 PM, August 29th (Friday), 2014 | |
Bump
Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
Posts: 3300 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States |
yearsofpain25
♂ Member
Member # 42012 | | Posted: 3:31 PM, September 8th (Monday), 2014 | |
bump
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Posts: 2750 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US |
UpInTheAirNow
♂ Member
Member # 37777 | | Posted: 12:34 PM, September 11th (Thursday), 2014 | |
Bump
ME 45
WW 50
DDay 6/13/12
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
Posts: 252 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NY |
UpInTheAirNow
♂ Member
Member # 37777 | | Posted: 2:12 PM, October 29th (Wednesday), 2014 | |
Bump
ME 45
WW 50
DDay 6/13/12
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
Posts: 252 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NY |
mchercheur
♀ Member
Member # 37735 | | Posted: 6:27 PM, November 1st (Saturday), 2014 | |
BUMP
Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 7 mo.EA/ PA with COW;
Married 20something years with kids
Trying to R
Posts: 1536 | Registered: Dec 2012 |
Skan
♀ Member
Member # 35812 | | Posted: 2:57 PM, November 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
bump
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 5561 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California |
completelylost29
♀ New Member
Member # 45498 | | Posted: 3:42 PM, November 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
-Fighting2Survive-
Thank you so much for posting this. I didn't know what rug-sweeping really was until I read this. My WS is truly doing this, now I know. What do you do when WS a doesn't feel they have anything to workout and is just fully ready to move on??? I just peeked at his iPad (he changed his password to his phone after I found out about the A) and I saw that he had been to Ashley Madison website. This is after he told me he doesn't go to dating or chatting sites anymore! This AM site is a new find to me, I've never known he's gone there! My D-Day was a month ago, and I've been thinking of a separation. Since my recent finding this morning, I'm fuming! And thinking definitely going to say I want a seperation, but the thing is we will have to keep living together until we can afford 2 separate households. Why would he be telling me he wants a R and still go to these sites!?!? He's only forthcoming with info if I ask and even then I don't trust he's being honest.
Posts: 7 | Registered: Nov 2014 | From: Bay area |
completelylost29
♀ New Member
Member # 45498 | | Posted: 3:43 PM, November 8th (Saturday), 2014 | |
What is a BUMP.?
Posts: 7 | Registered: Nov 2014 | From: Bay area |
sisoon
♂ Member
Member # 31240 | | Posted: 5:14 PM, November 14th (Friday), 2014 | |
Bump moves the thread to the top of the 1st page, so it doesn't get lost. This thread shouldn't get lost. 
Bump.
fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 70 (22 in my head), Married 45+, together since 1965, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I'm not an exemplar. I share my own experience because it's all I know.
Posts: 11141 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area |
Skan
♀ Member
Member # 35812 | | Posted: 11:23 AM, November 22nd (Saturday), 2014 | |
bumping for weekend
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 5561 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California |
imagoodwitch
♀ Member
Member # 23375 | | Posted: 11:38 AM, November 30th (Sunday), 2014 | |
Bump
I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair
Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.
It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.
Posts: 5668 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland |
cantaccept
♀ Member
Member # 37451 | | Posted: 5:58 PM, December 3rd (Wednesday), 2014 | |
bump
"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
Divorced!
Posts: 1915 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut |
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