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brkn_heartd
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Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1719 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
mamajen00
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Member # 43810
Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, July 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH still has no remorse. Not sure if he ever will. I am moving forward with D, without his knowledge.


BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA

Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2014
littleflower
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Member # 42673
Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, July 26th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


DD 13/1/14
Him WH
OW - what a cow
3 kids under 4

Posts: 101 | Registered: Mar 2014
Jpapageorge
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Member # 31800
Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, August 2nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1764 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
brkn_heartd
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Member # 30396
Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, August 4th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

Posts: 1719 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Northwesten US
jjct
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Member # 17484
Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP!

Posts: 6841 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Headunderwater
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much for posting this. As hard as it is to accept I realize that my wife has been the absolute embodiment of rugsweeping. As much as she says that she's sorry she constantly has been proving otherwise with her actions.

Posts: 13 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: United States
blindsided81
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for bumping. I hadn't seen this and it is important.

My WH spent exactly 7 days in a false reconciliation and if I had known some of this it wouldn't have lasted one day!

So thanks again.


Me, BW 51
WH, 47
OW, ttw (trailer trash whore)
DD, 7/21/14
Separated, divorcing his ass as soon as I possibly can!!

Posts: 167 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: North Carolina
BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, August 29th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


Posts: 2612 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
yearsofpain25
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Member # 42012
Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, September 8th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

Posts: 2484 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
UpInTheAirNow
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, September 11th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


ME 45
WW 50
DDay 6/13/12
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

Posts: 235 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NY
UpInTheAirNow
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Member # 37777
Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, October 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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ME 45
WW 50
DDay 6/13/12
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

Posts: 235 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: NY
mchercheur
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Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, November 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BUMP


Me: BW
Him: WH --Had 7 mo. PA with COW;
Married 20something years with kids
Trying to R

Posts: 1465 | Registered: Dec 2012
Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, November 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5249 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
completelylost29
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, November 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

-Fighting2Survive-

Thank you so much for posting this. I didn't know what rug-sweeping really was until I read this. My WS is truly doing this, now I know. What do you do when WS a doesn't feel they have anything to workout and is just fully ready to move on??? I just peeked at his iPad (he changed his password to his phone after I found out about the A) and I saw that he had been to Ashley Madison website. This is after he told me he doesn't go to dating or chatting sites anymore! This AM site is a new find to me, I've never known he's gone there! My D-Day was a month ago, and I've been thinking of a separation. Since my recent finding this morning, I'm fuming! And thinking definitely going to say I want a seperation, but the thing is we will have to keep living together until we can afford 2 separate households. Why would he be telling me he wants a R and still go to these sites!?!? He's only forthcoming with info if I ask and even then I don't trust he's being honest.


Posts: 7 | Registered: Nov 2014 | From: Bay area
completelylost29
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, November 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What is a BUMP.?

Posts: 7 | Registered: Nov 2014 | From: Bay area
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, November 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump moves the thread to the top of the 1st page, so it doesn't get lost. This thread shouldn't get lost.

Bump.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10763 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Skan
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, November 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bumping for weekend


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5249 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
imagoodwitch
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, November 30th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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I am just your ordinary average everyday sane psycho supergoddess - Liz Phair

Don't keep dancing with the Devil and wonder why you are still in Hell.

It's all shits and giggles until someone giggles and shits.


Posts: 5510 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Munchkinland
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, December 3rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced!


Posts: 1596 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
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