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User Topic: Codependency in the Marriage: A BSís common mistake
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2010
littlemrsV0813
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by littlemrsV0813 at 10:54 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)]


Posts: 44 | Registered: Oct 2013
crazynot
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Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's great that you've got to the point of realising this. Now you need to work on getting respect and love from him, and making those dealbreakers dealbreakers!


Me - 50
Him - 51
DDay 21 March 2009
Divorcing and delighted!

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it.


Posts: 839 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, December 17th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2010
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, December 18th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official in 7/2014

Posts: 1803 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, January 7th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2010
Blobette
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, January 29th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bumping for flayed


BS (me): 49
WS: 50
Married: 25 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1051 | Registered: Aug 2012
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, April 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

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thisissogross
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, April 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love." -Friedrich Nietzsche

i edit frequently because i have to


Posts: 232 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: southern us
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7785 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, May 1st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2010
lordhasaplan?
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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, May 30th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

Posts: 1855 | Registered: Nov 2010
Merida
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Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK re-reading this as I kick myself in the butt for getting more wrapped up in WH's business than my own

ugh

right = I can only control me

not God's business
not other people's business


"The Will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you."

WH is katumus and I am not reading his posts but we talk a lot and working on listening better!

BW 45
WH 46

married 17 years
3 kids


Posts: 139 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Maryland
totalheartbreak
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Default  Posted: 2:18 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump for m'self.


Me: BH (30s)
Wayflost: WW (30s)

"Sacrifice is a choice you make, loss is a choice made for you."

"The opposite of love isn't hate; it's indifference."

ďCourage is the price life exacts for granting peaceĒ


Posts: 108 | Registered: Dec 2013
12yearsloyal
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Default  Posted: 6:57 AM, July 4th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, I see myself in here a bit. Great post, first time I saw this one. My tendency is to value the M more than myself. This is wrong. I can't fix it by myself, need a willing partner.


"What will it profit a man if he gains the whole world but loses his own soul?"

Posts: 137 | Registered: Apr 2014
Jomarion
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, July 6th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks,Lordhasaplan, for this post. it is a lot both intellectually and emotionally to take in. I am trying hard to heal. Your words are helping.


me:BGF, 54, American immigrant. one son. me and my ex get along great, the most amicable split imaginable!
him:WBF,43, Polish immigrant
together since 2006,
DDay:October28,2009,after his 3 teen kids push him to cheat with OW.
5 betrayed me

Posts: 149 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: UK
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