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User Topic: Cutting Loose: Why Women Who End Their Marriages Do So Well
boudicca
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, June 23rd (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I saw this book at a friends house last week. She got divorced last year at age 47.

I have not read it, but she said it made her feel much more positive about her future and about getting a divorce in general.

I thought I would share the title since there are a lot of women going through divorce on this site.

The author is Ashton Applewhite.

[This message edited by boudicca at 10:27 AM, June 23rd (Thursday)]


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uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, June 23rd (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've read articles and studies that show that women tend to be happier and more emotionally healthy after divorce, not rush into another marriage, reconnect with family and friends and view it more as a fresh start then some men.

I know the breakups I've seen with my friends the man either had a plane on the tarmac or was in another relationship very quickly while my friends took their time and branched out either with school or hobbies.

I have no idea if that is true across the board or just reflective of my experience but I found it very interesting.

I know I'm doing much better than my ex. Much!


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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boudicca
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, June 23rd (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I know the breakups I've seen with my friends the man either had a plane on the tarmac or was in another relationship very quickly while my friends took their time and branched out either with school or hobbies.

The same happens in my circle of friends. The women seem to really blossom and the men just trade in one relationship for another.

My friend who showed me this book changed careers, traveled to India, and is really connecting with her grown kids in a fantastic way. Her X is remarried, had a heart attack, never sees the kids, and has gained a ton of weight.

[This message edited by boudicca at 11:15 AM, June 23rd (Thursday)]


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Skye
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, June 23rd (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There was a segment on NPR recently about marriage and happiness.

Married men are happier than unmarried men.

Single women are happier than married women.

And single women with girlfriends are the happiest of all!


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boudicca
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Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, June 23rd (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Skye,

I agree with the NPR segment.

Having wonderful women in our lives makes everyone happier. Male or female.


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boudicca
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, June 24th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had to come back to this thread today.

I have been flipping through the book and I want to let you know that if you are at all considering reconciliation, you probably SHOULD NOT read this book.

This book makes divorce seem so liberating and empowering, I can imagine if one were on the fence, it would quickly throw them from R to D.

If you feel in your heart you should D, but are worried about the consequences, it will be a very helpful read.


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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, June 24th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the recommendation


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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, June 24th (Friday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you for this one...this is the first title that's really interested me. the rest all seem like better reading for FT or someone who would stay in the fucked up family he made.


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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, June 28th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So... the unhappiest men are the players, and the happiest women are the ones who only date the players?

Who be playing whom?

[This message edited by Red Sox Nation at 2:23 PM, June 28th (Tuesday)]


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uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, June 28th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and the happiest women are the ones who only date the players?

Where do you see on this thread the mention of women dating anyone?


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, June 28th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All them years of schoolin' and refinin', completely wasted...

I think I'm gonna move out to Deadwood and stake me a claim.


When someone tells you who she is, listen; when someone shows you who she is, listen carefully.

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capri
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, June 28th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I absolutely believe that in my case I will be happier divorced. I'm already much happier now that I'm well on my way, doing new things, meeting new friends. But I don't blame that on marriage itself, rather on marrying someone who was controlling and emotionally and verbally abusive.

But a blanket statement that single women are happier than married women really saddens me. I would like to believe there are lots of really good guys out there who would make marriage a joy.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, July 18th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@ Capri...and I would like to believe that, too, but....


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