The better I felt the easier it was for me to begin to look forward to books like that again.
Not going to lie, it took me over a year.
You want funny or three hanky reads? You want to commit to a series? You want more or less dialogue? How much sex is too much/little? Do you think cocks should be called cocks or something else? You want to stay historical or would you read modern or paranormal? You have an ebook reader?
Do you want to avoid things about reuniting couples, troubled marriages that work out, etc? Want to go with the assumption that the woman is starting over midlife? Must she have been divorced, or could she just have broken up with a boyfriend and never married? Or not breaking up at all, just midlife transitions?
For Crusie, try Anyone But You.
Tell us your favorite heroes/ couples, and also what you've read from this list:
Oh NA, you want to play which ones on that list we've read? Let's do! I'm missing 17.5 of them. Basically take out all the modern Kleypas, several of the SEP, all the Nora Roberts, and all the Howard except Mackenzie's Mountain, and half of To Have and to Hold because it felt rapey, and this isn't the 1970s, people, stop being rapey.
I read romance when I was younger, then stopped when I was 27 or so and read other genres with only sporadic romance reading like Crusie and Kleypas, then started romance again heavily this past year (I am 41 now). Have you lost interest in reading, period, or just this genre? If you've lost interest in several things you used to love you're probably depressed. You could also be cocooning and saving your mental and emotional reserves. Reading should add to those reserves, not steal from them, kwim? There was a period of time during R when lots of reading would've been draining. Now it's energizing to me.
Another thought is a lot of e-books, moderns, particularly in stuff that might be called erotic romances, are about heroines who are late 30s, early 40s. There's just more freedom in publishing that way, so you find that kind of diversity there.
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All of them except for seven. The Sherry Thomas, the Judith Ivory, one Kinsale and a couple of Baloghs and Ivorys.
Private Arrangements was *amazing*. Everybody says Not Quite a Husband is better but...both are great, and Private Arrangements had a conflict at the center (the why of the breakup and separation) that was just...original, very true, the whole process was fantastically done.
Balogh, Slightly Dangerous...now see, that's how you make me...
...(wait for it)...
*wait for it*. The little lessons Wulfric learned in each of his siblings' books was so well done and elegant, with no inner monologue from him, just the observations of others that you just knew you shouldn't take at face value...the only other one of the Bedwyns I liked was Freyja's, but they were all stellar when considered as background for Wulf.
I have never in my entire life read a Nora Roberts book. Saying that is to romance like saying you've never watched an episode of The Simpsons -- also true for me, fwiw.
there can be only ONE RATCATCHER HERO EVAR.
Keith, the teenage piper?
I will check out the list tomorrow on my day off. I loved all kinds of historical romance as a younger woman, but as I got older I chose mainly the erotic and trashy (aka lots of sex where a cock is called a cock)books!
One of my favorite books is Devil in Winter...asshole husband becomes loving devoted husband. I don't know what I am looking to read now...I just know that when I get to the part about how the hero wants to pour out his heart it just makes me want to roll my eyes and say "yeah right! that kind of crap just doesn't exist". Just something I have to work through I guess. Maybe I will believe in happy endings and love again someday.
Now if only there was an romance book about a 40something BW who is an overweight mother that is sick of working night shift! In the book she would get lots of money, a full staff of servants, a devoted hot and extremely wealthy husband, AND a slamming body because she would have time to take care of herself for once! That is a book I would buy for sure!
Thanks for helping me find a new author. There is so much wisdom here on SI I knew there had to be some other historical romance fans out there that could offer suggestions on books!
If you're just trying to escape I don't know that I'd pick her. Currently my husband is on the ladyvorkosigan re-education program and has just completed Kresley Cole's Immortals series. That's a lot of fun. Now he's reading Lord of Scoundrels!
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