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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, May 7th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just ordered this book from Linda McDonald in hopes that it will help me & my situation. I love this man & just want the healing process to start. Feels like such a long road.

Thank you for your comments. I have read MANY books & I agree most are CRAP. SO its nice to hear that this is a good one.

Not Married-felt like we were married-high school sweethearts.
Me: 29 BS
Him: 30 WS
DDay: April 2013 - EA with COW-she is so insignificant & not worth MY precious time; I can't even go there.
Been together 14 years, I hope we can recover now

Posts: 26 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: San Diego, CA
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, June 19th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bought this the morning after DDay. My husband read it in a couple hours - it's a short book but is really spot-on. I read it too and felt it really showed my experience well.
My husband's communication changed 180 degrees after reading this book. He started talking. He'd been apologetic since almost the very beginning, but now he started communicating and realizing the depth of what he'd done. He read the book a 2nd time the same weekend, then 2 more times over the week. I think it helped lead to his crisis-click moment where all his defenses finally fell away and the staggered truths just became a waterfall of them.

We are now reading NOT Just friends, which was a really good book to follow-up this one to. This one helps get things rolling and understand the emotional side, and NOT Just friends seems to be more about helping understand the whys and what to dos now

"Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul." - William Ernest Henley

Posts: 527 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, June 19th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How to Help You Spouse Heal from Your Affair was absolutely by far the best book I read, and I read at least 30. I highlighted practically half of it, and then gave to WH to read. That book "got me", quoted me, knew me, knew what I needed. My H turned the pages, don't think he really gave it the proper respect. Then I talked to him one day about how very very important it was to me, how well it described how I was feeling, and he bought his own copy. Hopefully, he'll really read it this time. Not Just Friends is a good follow up to this book. Everything else I read was pretty much crap.

Me - BS, Him - WS
Her - POS WB Fake Friend
Married - 22 Years, together 25
One 21 yo DD
DD - 4/28/13, TT since then
Trying hard for R
"Life might be a little simpler if we just got over it"
"It all seems so clear in hindsight"

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