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User Topic: Long Term Affair - Part 27
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 3:33 AM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HI all

Big HUGS to those who are hurting a lot at present.

Tryn

LOOOOOOOVed your graph. Your thoughts always make me think.

I think I would place myself in a similar position for all fears.

As for the green crosses - I had virtually no fears. My fwh was such an arsehole that I was planning to leave him so I wasn't afraid. At least I thought I wasn't. But the one thing I never guessed was that he was cheating

Funnily enough the red and blues bars now fit. Mainly I guess because I have put my plans on hold - or maybe cancelled them. I am now investing in the M because he shown me that he can be a great H. So the fear factor has grown. But the fear is there now mostly because I don't want to WASTE any more of my life with someone who may cheat on me. I'm getting too F...ing old for that. KWIM or am I talking nonsense??

Strong

I hate to think that you feel cutoff from us because of your H. Maybe you could write your posts and copy/paste to pm us all!!!!

Then we could all pm our responses to you to each other
or maybe we could all say fuck you Mr Strong - this is our place so stay away!!!!!

I am SOOOOOO tempted to tell Mr Strong what I think of him - someone stop me please!!!!

I feel such an affinity with you - our ddays are close - I just hope he wakes up soon and shows he is man enough to do what it takes to R or has the decency to let you go.

At Laura's place

Had a lovely Father's Day with FWH's nephew (he was grilling boys ) and his fiancee and family.

FWH is once again falling into his obsession with the FDs but I am handling it better. At least it keeps his mind off his XOWs

Bit the bullet on the weekend and watched my first movie featuring - you guessed it - infidelity. Best thing I could have done. It was great. It's called "Revenge of the Middle-Aged Woman". From IMDB:

A middle-aged woman has what she believes is a great life. She's been married for 25 years, she is the book editor at a newspaper where her husband is the editor and they have a great family. That all comes to a screeching halt one day when her husband announces that he is leaving her for a younger woman. Not only that, but the younger woman is her assistant. Not only that, but he's taking the newspaper in "a new direction" and won't need her anymore. It's then that she finds out who her friends and the people who love her REALLY are, and she gets a surprise when she runs into a man from her past.

It is fabulous. I swear the person who wrote it has been where we are. I could relate to all the things she did and said and the best part is that the WH and his OW ended up looking stupid and she found her happy ever after in ITALY (well it's close to France!!!)

Really spooky that the BW's name is almost the same as mine and her daughter's name is exactly the same. As well, her son is a quiet gentle soul like mine and her daughter is very self obsessed like mine. The similarities including A with a work mate were amazing.

Unfortunately I can't find the dvd for sale. It was on cable here and is being repeated on Friday at 1.30 am. Since I cannot program the recorder I will have to stay up to get it going. I hope you folks in yank land can buy or rent it - I would highly recommend it.

Anyway - must go the gators are ferocious at present.

Speaking of which - Dip where are you?????

Love to all

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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njgal480
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Default  Posted: 5:03 AM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Laura-
I have also found that watching movies with an infidelity theme to be cathartic. But, they have to be movies where the infidelity is treated seriously...and as we know in those cases there are severe consequences for all.
I have even been able to watch Fatal Attraction and Unfaithful.An empowering movie for me was Obsessed-not an award winner by any means but getting to see the wife (Beyonce) beat the crap out of the OW was cathartic!
The worst movies or tv shows? The ones that romanticize affairs or make light of them...like everyone does it. So,ironically many comedies are triggering for me.
Looking back I realize now that both of my childhood fave movies- Gone With the Wind and Dr. Zhivago were all about affairs!
but..some movies can be cinematherapy...
I will look for this one.


Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Reconciled.


Posts: 3139 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 5:25 AM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi NJ

Thanks for the recommendations. This movie shows the BS as powerful. Even though she is hurt beyond belief and falls apart after dday she pulls herself together and gets on with it - just as we all have.

There's a great scene I loved. She phones a friend and tells her. Sometime later the friend arrives uninvited and they get off their faces on wine.

She then proceeds to spend days in bed. She suffers as we did but then gets on with it. What I love is her WH who says all the fucktard stuff - it's amazing. As I said, I'm sure the writer has BTDT or else has lurked on SI.

cinematherapy

Yep. There are funny parts but they are funny in how they depict the WH and OW. The heroine is also able to laugh at herself in an appropriate way. I just love it.

I'll keep an eye out for the ones you suggested. She aslo goes through all the self esteem stuff too. And SHOPS!!!!!!

As I said this is the first time I've been brave enough to deliberately watch a movie about infidelity and I'm glad I did. (I read the info about it carefully first). The programs which really annoy me are those like murder mysteries where the BS kills the WS or OP. I hate them. I want to cheer for the BS!!!!!

The worst movies or tv shows? The ones that romanticize affairs or make light of them...like everyone does it.

Yep. I particularly hate those movies/shows where it's a great story/mystery and then you find out there's infidelity involved. Most of the time I switch off!

Anyway, take care honey.

Hugs

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, all. UKgirl, the things you said about your FWH about waiting in the wings for you... it was spooky, so close to what I'm going through that I had to go back and make sure I didn't write it!

tryn,
Love the chart, as always!

Laura,
I stick to kick-ass movies and shows. Never liked that stuff much before, but now that feels cathartic to me. (The good guy always wins, and if there's a nasty girlfight, even better.)

miracle,
YMMV is from this site... "your mileage may vary." I see it every once in a while but had never used it before.

My weekend was busy... I cleaned all day Sunday and we had some people over yesterday. I drank too much wine and now have to get ready for work. Yikes. Having people over was good... WH and I moved in separate circles. Then we got the boyos to bed and had a drunken make-out session before I fell asleep on the couch.

dp, thinking of you.

mitz, thanks for opening this place up!

Allgood,
Wow... I'm glad you survived the single mommy vacation. Sounds like a good test.

strong,
I don't think you should leave. I like the "deal with it or stick it" advice, but then that's my attitude lately.

I think WH has a job interview today. I need him to get a good salary!!!

Sorry, thoughts are all over the place. I need coffee. Nell out!


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

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Laura28
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Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey Nell

Can't remember if you have watched the Millenium series - The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo etc. If not you must. You really must. You would love them.

Hugs

Laura


Married 30yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 59yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA til dday).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2729 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

strongish,
I am so sorry that you have lost one of your safe spaces. I too have a FWS who knows my username and reads my SI posts. Because of this, there are some topics I no longer post publicly, but others on LTA and elsewhere on SI have been very supportive and responsive using PM when I have reached out. At first I felt defensive when FWW read my posts and commented on them and what my "purple people" had said. Now I am just frustrated when she reads my SI posts to see how we are doing rather than talking to me. Between words I use in the heat of venting, or the self-editing I use to maintain some privacy, it does not serve FWW to read my posts for information. OTOH, her reading other posts early on after I registered was her first indication that part of the problem might be hers to own. Hopefully if your WS is reading your posts, his curiosity will lead him to read other posts too, and they may be therapeutic.

deeppurple,
We all move along our own path, I am happy that it sounds like you are seeing your course. As others have posted, I support your telling the BS as soon as you can. It does not need to be perfect knowledge. Mine certainly was not, I never heard from the OMís BW again, but NC was not an issue from the moment I notified her (and his adult daughter) forward. My anger started out towards the OM, then I realized that indeed they could have been (and were) just anyone available and willing. Any action I took towards them was just giving them attention and creating the type of drama they thrive on. Through NC and ignoring the OM I work with and BIL, I starve them of any future emotional involvement with me and my life. As I learned more, my anger shifted to my WW. Eventually, I have been able to resolve that anger. I can still trigger, but the anger is no longer a part of my daily life. Having my FWW maintain NC and taking the necessary steps for me to feel safe in our relationship was a large part of my being able to resolve the anger. I hope that you are able to eventually reach such a space.

honesttoafault,
Recently I am seeing more and more resolve and strength in your posts, good for you. It is terribly hard, but you are doing the work that you need to do.

INN,

I will be lining up my remaining ducks and watching WH closely.

Ditto, my M will end not with a bang, but with a whimper.

iwam,
I think it was a real aha moment when you got that pfm will never get it. Good for you. In some way, maybe this helps you to understand that it is still not about you. It is not pfm intentionally being a way that hurts you, it is just his nature, and something he is unable to address and change. This does not make it OK, it just, maybe, depersonalizes it a bit for you.

Tryn,
I loved the fishing picture. What do you catch with that type of bait? You make a good case in your recent posts for looking at the overall relationship, not just the portions that struggle.

Hi to mitzi, njgal, ukgal, soul, Laura, SATT and the rest of our Tribe.

FWW saw some of herself (especially her younger self) in her older DD's behavior during the whole wedding process, and did not like what she saw. Her behavior the last few weeks has been attentive, affirming, and appreciative. I am tempted to rush back in to love with her during the last two weeks, but remind myself it could be her feeling vulnerable during her recovery, and the Percocet. I also belive that I have passed a point where our M and loving FWW is the "default". They are certainly options, but will take new commitment on my part to make them again the presumed course in my life.

--Ats


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

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trynhard
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DeepP... It is about courage. I know it is hard. Keep your boundaries for happiness.

From the book, Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum.

Here are some diagnostic points from the book you may find valuable (these are my summaries, not the authorís exact words):

1.If God or some divine being told you it was OK to leave your relationship, would you feel relieved that you could finally leave? If your religion is the only reason youíre still together, your relationship is already long dead. Drop the self-torturing beliefs and choose happiness. Living together physically but not in your heart isnít going to fool any divine being anyway, nor is it likely to fool anyone else around you. Leave the hypocrisy behind, and take off.

2.Are you able to get your needs met in the relationship without too much difficulty? If it takes too much effort to get your needs met, then your relationship is doing you more harm than good. Leave.

3.Do you genuinely like your partner, and does your partner seem to genuinely like you? If you donít mutually like each other, you donít belong together.

4.Do you feel a unique sexual attraction to your partner? If thereís no spark, thereís no point in staying.

5.Does your partner exhibit any behavior that makes the relationship too difficult for you to stay in, and do you find your partner is either unwilling or incapable of changing? Results matter far more than intentions. If your partner behaves in a way thatís intolerable to you, then permanent change is a must, or you need to leave. Example: ďQuit smoking for good in 30 days, or Iím gone.Ē Trying to tolerate the intolerable will only erode your self-esteem, and youíll see yourself as stronger in the past than in the present.

6.Do you see yourself when you look in your partnerís eyes? A metaphorÖ if you donít sense a strong compatibility with your partner, youíre better off with someone else.

7.Do you and your partner each respect each other as individuals? No mutual respect = time to leave.

8.Does your partner serve as an important resource for you in a way that you care about? If your partner does little to enhance your life and you wouldnít lose anything important to you by leaving, then leave. Youíll break even by being on your own and gain tremendously by finding someone else who is a resource to you.

9.Does your relationship have the demonstrated capacity for forgiveness? If you canít forgive each otherís transgressions, then resentment will gradually replace love. Leave.

10.Do you and your partner have fun together? A relationship thatís no fun is dead. Leave.

11.Do you and your partner have mutual goals and dreams for your future together? If you arenít planning to spend your future together, somethingís terribly wrong. Take off.

Now you see my struggles too... see Q #4. I am asking my W questions and getting mixed answers. I guess it is a yes for now. See, I know my answer. It is not up to me. All the other parts of our relationship are pretty good. It's hard for her to tell me she just has no physical attractions. Maybe it is this one item holding us back. That is the problem with folks that are cheaters. They don't know what they want in life. The want it "all."

Anyways.. I hope to give you some strength to move on to a new chapter in you life without anger toward your W or OM. How to do that? I have read that once you commit to a new relationship, the old feelings go away. They become just past minor feelings. This is verified by 5 men I know AND all have new partners and all say they don't think about the hurt from thier failed M. 100%!

Ats.. Bass on plastic worms... ultralight poles and a whole lotta fun.

[This message edited by trynhard at 11:21 AM, September 6th (Tuesday)]


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Allgoodnamesgone
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Where is everyone today?
Hope y'all are well.


Me- BS
DDay- 8/26/09
Separated after failed R effort.

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atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Right here, staying out o the rain.


LTA BS 53
FWW 60
M 1990, dday 10-5-09
Reconciled

Posts: 3967 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
UKgirl
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can watch movies with an infidelity theme Ė but on my own!! But what I donít get is how WH could sit there and watch those kind of movies with me. I mean, where was his sense of guilt?? Sliding Doors, Unfaithful, Love Actually, Separate Lies, The English Patient, The End of The AffairÖÖ Oh, what about Regarding Henry? Yeh. Watched that one with its unexpected infidelity sub-theme. Now he watches me and usually suggests turning it over or off if it is a main story line.

I see Revenge of the Middle Aged Woman is also a book, I might order it next time I get some stuff from Amazon. Put it on my wish list.

UKgirl, the things you said about your FWH about waiting in the wings for you...
it was one of the images that came to mind early on in MC. It always seemed to be focused on me, so much so that being on the stage was what it felt like. And fWH watching my performance and just not being involved. >sigh<

and had a drunken make-out session before I fell asleep on the couch.

Ats, thatís good, isnít it? That WW can step back and recognise parts of herself that she hasnít really acknowledged before? Well, it sounds good and another step forward. She is making some really good progress. Just a shame that it is taking so long, but I guess that goes to show just how deep her tangled and multiple issues go. Thereís nothing wrong with loving and showing love, but with open eyes and awareness that you didnít have before. You can still protect yourself.

Tryní Ė great excerpt. It was one of those books that I was going to get, but I already had a list as long as I am tall and decided that unless I was oscillating between R and D, I would do better to read books on relationships and reconciliation. But Iíve copied saved your passage. Good reading. A bit like SerJRís 10 questions to ask yourself post.

FWH has stayed away again tonight. I'm not sure how I feel about all of this. I'm not suspicious, I'm just not comfortable. Hey ho. Glass of wine and bed. Night all.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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iwantamiracle
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

nell:

hmm...your mileage may vary....that is the phrase that came up on a google search and my brain seems to be on brain freeze cuz i dont get it...


cinematherapy:

well i find and found myself drawn to these movies...and i always find myself watching pfm for reactions...and needless to say...his reactions....seemingly unphased....

there have been times where i have watched a movie and have been surprised that infidelity was in it...at these times i find i get somewhat annoyed, i guess cause i feel unprepared and all i want to do is yell cause i cant seem to get away from it....oh well...


i start school tomorrow and i feel so damned resentful....very much so.....


i wish i could say all else is quiet but alas with manchild the quiet never seems to last....

nite all

((((tribe))))


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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honesttoafault
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Miracle; I wish you luck on your first day back at school. You never know, you might absolutely love it and meet new people!! You'll do great!

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deeppurple
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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, September 6th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ummm WW always gets uncomfortable when A's come on TV. Wouldnt even discuss with the kids on why Camelot was destroyed - a kingdom lost due to infidelity.

WW - avoids avoids avoids

[This message edited by deeppurple at 11:45 PM, September 6th (Tuesday)]


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

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trynhard
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Well deeppurple, I would say that every cheat is an avoider. My W was and still is an avoider. Cheaters are always too afraid to face us and tell us, "You are not what I want".. So the go get what they want. Then they get it, and guess what? thatís not what they need either.

Hollywood makes it seem so romantic. When the movie ends it ends.. Real life keeps on going.

A high school friend and Facebook friend of mine committed suicide. The hurt he was facing must have been too much to take. It's sad.

Iwant... The best feelings in my life are things I have accomplished at school and work. It's going to be fun!

Make a good day of it today.. peace.

[This message edited by trynhard at 7:33 AM, September 7th (Wednesday)]


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ImNellNow
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miracle,
Even though the "why" you are back in school is not good, I hope you enjoy your classes. I love learning new things. It's one of my needs. I should send WH and his COW thank you cards... I've learned a helluva lot in the last 20 months!

Avoidance, fear and entitlement. The trifecta of cheating. I'm trying not to let that middle one affect my decisions. Easy to give in the the fear, but that's not Nell. (cue Hit Girl theme song)


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

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UKgirl
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your mileage may vary
LOL! Iíve just bought a car!! A neat VW Polo sto DS16 (nearly 17ÖÖ) can learn to drive. And my, how the mileage varies!! Anyhooo, I kinda get it, but donítÖ.

And doesnít miracle work in school? Iím booked for night classes this term Ė body massage for a year ( ) at one college, reflexology followed straight on with aromatherapy at another college. Should be fun. In my dinky Polo and not my 3.0L Subaru

Still, Iím thinking with my post-d-day head. A 1.4 Polo is a much better car if we should ever separate. And I kept my Subaru for six and a half years when I would normally have chopped it in for something else a couple of years ago Ė something fairly expensive and sporty. Not a good choice if you have to manage on a budget. Enough prattling. Iíll end up talking myself into seeing a solicitorÖ..

Hit Girl Ė still havenít seen it, but I like the theme song trailer on youtube! Hahahaha!


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 56 y/o Him, WS, 57 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 18 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

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worst-year-ever
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Hi there...first time posting down here, but I figure this is where I belong. His affair was just shy of 3 1/2 years long.

Still in the early stages, I know. Dealing with pieces leaking out. He claims that he just can't remember all the details I need "because it went on for so long". :(

My issue is this: part of me knows he is right. It did go on for a ridiculously long time, but that is his damn fault.

How am I ever going to make peace with the likely reality that I will never know everything?


Me: BW
Him: FWH
4 kids & 20 years together
DD: 7/7/11
OW1: 3yr+ LTA
OW2: My xBFF
Trying to R

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deeppurple
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Worst - welcome to the Tribe. Sorry that you are here ...you are amongst friends who understand & care.

(((Worst)))


Me - BS 49
Her - WS 43
Married 16 yrs (together 17 yrs)
DD13 DS10 DS8 DS6
DDay 1 6.4.2010 dday 2 7.25.2010
Heading for divorce.
"Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up"

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iwantamiracle
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worstyear:

welcome to our little corner of si.....i see you only registered here last month...so if your d-day is fairly recent that makes you a newbie and means your emotions will be all over the map, none of them good either....it means you are overwhelmed by it all and it means you question everything there is, was and will be....

if you have not already done so please read the healing library...its filled with so much helpful info, advice and genuine warmth...

please also take care of yourself, eating, exercising and in general trying to be a functioning person....

as for whether or not you will ever know everything...the answer is no...you won't....depending on your ws though there is quite a bit of info that you can indeed be informed of, should be informed of and only you can decide how much you need and what content...once you hear it you can never unhear it, see it, learn it.....

ok..survived my first day....and r u ready although i think you wont be the least bit surprised...turns out i am not the oldest in class, there are 4 others older then me...and one of them i connected with because of where we both sat...and here it comes now....turns out she needs to do this because......

her cheatin husband was a no good man.....


no fucking escape!!!!!


i did also sit next to this young man...who turns out i think to have some sort of learning disability....he couldnt seem to grasp some stuff..... ....

gotta run for now...


(((tribe)))


i am taking my life back, one step at a time!!!!!

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trynhard
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worst-year-ever... Oh yeh, I got all kinds of "can't remembers". I know today it is a lie.

Can you imagine having to tell someone to die? I told my grandpaw, "it is ok to let go" when he was so weak he couldn't talk. An hour later he died. I compare that to my wife having to telling me "things."

It's hard for someone you care about to give details about adultery.

You know, I don't know everything my W did. It is left to my imagination. I'm OK with that 3 years past. It's acceptance.


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