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Topic: Betrayed Spouse S.T. D. Support
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Fathful123
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Member # 34867 |  Posted: 8:32 AM, February 21st (Tuesday), 2012 |     |
I got tested for everything the day after Dday. I had female Dr and told her exactly why I was in for testing. I made WH go twice for testing since he had unprotected sex with the ugly cow. All tests negative. Oh he said he didn't use protection because she said.....wait...she said she was separated from her H and hadn't had sex in 10 years! Except her H lives in the house with her. That's how they were busted.
DDay-7/11/2011
Me(51)
WS(54)with ED!!!!
OW- 49, big manly looking, Amazon looking Ho ; works with federal government but in different state
Several EAs and one oovoo recorded masturbation chat!
We have been Married 18 years
3 kids youngest 17
Posts: 78 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Northern Virginia |
painpaingoaway
♀ Member
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 10:13 AM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012 | |
Everybody OK?
As the tech was drawing my blood, I just kept repeating, MY H is a cheating fucking bastard, over and over.
The poor med tech probably thought I was crazy.
me BS female 54/him WS 57
Married 32 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land"
Episode # 1
http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12278468/playgoz
Posts: 6009 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
Polly4
♀ Member
Member # 31015 | | Posted: 10:26 AM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012 | |
Is bacterial vaginitis always STD related?
When I found out about the OW I got tested for everything. They all came back NEGATIVE except bacterial vaginitis? It took 3 doses of anit biotics to finally rid myself of this. I tried to get WW to get tested and he told me that "she" would never give him anything! That it had to be me! I have continued to have issues and have gone back to the doctor, could there be something else going on here that has been dormant for all these months? My WW finally went to doctor and now he is on heavy duty anti biotics but said that it was his prostate? I am so confused, angry and discusted with myself for trusting that he would of atleast used a fricken comdon! [This message edited by Polly4 at 10:27 AM, March 2nd (Friday)]
BS 45
WW 46
OW old enough to be his mother
OW #2 Young and sleezy
He is on all of the dating sites, so I have no clue how many others there really are.
Not sure if she is the only one either?
4 boys
21,19,19 and 15
Married 17 years
dday- 13
Posts: 89 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Midwest |
0115
♀ Member
Member # 31740 | | Posted: 4:23 PM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012 | |
Polly I think technically BV is not considered a STD but its can be transmitted by others partners 
I had it and I know it came from the wicked bitch.
Update. I'm neg for the cancer strains of HpV but had an abnormal pap...I go back in 6 months for a recheck. Stupid warts won't go away. I wish they were on her face instead 
BS (me) 47
FWH 47
Married 27 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.
Posts: 967 | Registered: Apr 2011 |
Polly4
♀ Member
Member # 31015 | | Posted: 10:41 PM, March 2nd (Friday), 2012 | |
Yes, I know that I got it from WW via the skank. This sort of thing doesnt just appear after 17 years of having one partner.
It just pisses me off that he would blame me! but then i am the blame for all that he has done..
BS 45
WW 46
OW old enough to be his mother
OW #2 Young and sleezy
He is on all of the dating sites, so I have no clue how many others there really are.
Not sure if she is the only one either?
4 boys
21,19,19 and 15
Married 17 years
dday- 13
Posts: 89 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Midwest |
painpaingoaway
♀ Member
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 3:06 PM, March 5th (Monday), 2012 | |
finally went to doctor and now he is on heavy duty anti biotics but said that it was his prostate? This sounds like total bullshit to me, maybe one of our docs on here will weigh in on this. In the meantime, I would demand that he give his doc permission to talk to you, if indeed this is 'just' a prostate problem...there should be no problem with his doc explaining this to you. If your H refuses, then he is hiding something.
me BS female 54/him WS 57
Married 32 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land"
Episode # 1
http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12278468/playgoz
Posts: 6009 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
soverybetrayed
♀ Member
Member # 32948 | | Posted: 7:05 PM, March 5th (Monday), 2012 | |
Well today I joined this club. I was tested back in August and was negative for everything. Went for retesting last week as it had been 6 months and I came up positive for Herpes. I thought I just had a yeast infection but the red spots looked like the measles. Even my doctor thought it was a yeast infection but we tested for all STDS again.
What I can't figure out is how I got it since we haven't had sex since the summer of 2010. I haven't had any breakouts till now. Can it be dormant for 1.5 years? Could it be popping up now because I have 2 autoimmune diseases? Could it be the stress of all this crap (learning of his cheating and leaving him plus the divorce)?
I am 53 years old and now I have another incurrable disease. And the whole damn time he has been telling me that he never actually touched another woman, that it was all cyber sex. Fucking LIAR!
Me-53
DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011
Divorced 8/23/2012
I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is....
Posts: 1136 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Learning who I am again! |
0115
♀ Member
Member # 31740 | | Posted: 11:10 PM, March 5th (Monday), 2012 | |
Oh shit sovery...I'm so sorry!!!! Damn damn damn. Why are people so freakin selfish????? I don't know anything about herpes. I'm specializing in all strains of HPV currently.  I've only been with one man and he's only been with me and 2 whores...hmmm wonder how I got it????
I hope Dr Purple comes on...she's always helpful.
Good luck. So sorry 
BS (me) 47
FWH 47
Married 27 years
Very Long LTA
DD 01/15/11-6/30/11
The hard work is done...let the healing begin.
Posts: 967 | Registered: Apr 2011 |
painpaingoaway
♀ Member
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 8:58 AM, March 6th (Tuesday), 2012 | |
((((soverybetrayed)))
I am so sorry hon. I am not a Herpes expert, but my understanding is that yes, it can lay dormant for a very long time, and that yes, other stressors could have awakened an outbreak.
And the whole damn time he has been telling me that he never actually touched another woman, that it was all cyber sex. Fucking LIAR! ^^^^^^^This is exactly the reason I tell all newbies to get tested regardless of what the wayward tells them. As we all now know: cheaters LIE!
Welcome to our sad little club. [This message edited by painpaingoaway at 8:59 AM, March 6th (Tuesday)]
me BS female 54/him WS 57
Married 32 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land"
Episode # 1
http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12278468/playgoz
Posts: 6009 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
soverybetrayed
♀ Member
Member # 32948 | | Posted: 12:04 PM, March 6th (Tuesday), 2012 | |
Thanks everyone, this was one club I did not want to join. I got tested in August and was 100% clear but was told I need to get tested again in 6 months to be sure. I started having some itching but thought it was a yeast infection. I secretly worried that it was herpes but he kept telling me that he never physically touched another woman. I never really believed him and that was why I got tested the first time.
Now I have to face this mess alone and with all of my other illnesses it is just getting to be too much. I am now to the point of there is no point of hoping for a relationship with a man. Who will want a woman who is ill but also has herpes? Crap, I was only with one man for 12 years and I know I didn't have them when I met him. I got tested after my last divorce and was clean. Why is the karma bus hitting me when I didn't cheat? I had the opportunity to cheat but I chose not to so my did I get hit by the karma bus and not him?
Don't mind me I am just ranting and angry.
Me-53
DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011
Divorced 8/23/2012
I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is....
Posts: 1136 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Learning who I am again! |
sadnmad
♀ Member
Member # 34847 | | Posted: 12:53 PM, March 8th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Last night I was talking to a friend about the recent events of the betrayal, breakup, etc and confided in her about the fact that I now have herpes thanks to my XSO. I was hoping for at least a little support, but instead I got, "Oh my god, that is horrible! I am SO glad I don't have any STDs - if I had herpes I'd absolutely die" Seriously!? Uh, thanks for the encouragement.
Onward & Upward!
Posts: 54 | Registered: Feb 2012 |
Polly4
♀ Member
Member # 31015 | | Posted: 5:59 AM, March 9th (Friday), 2012 | |
I would demand that he give his doc permission to talk to you,
I have been 180 him for 2 weeks, he would never agree to my talking to his doc.
I guess too at this point I dont give a shit anymore, it is what it is. He is being served on Tuesday with divorce papers. I feel like I am living some fricken reality show! WTH?
He discusts me, I cannot stand to look at him!
BS 45
WW 46
OW old enough to be his mother
OW #2 Young and sleezy
He is on all of the dating sites, so I have no clue how many others there really are.
Not sure if she is the only one either?
4 boys
21,19,19 and 15
Married 17 years
dday- 13
Posts: 89 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Midwest |
forgivingnow
♀ Member
Member # 33549 | | Posted: 7:34 AM, March 9th (Friday), 2012 | |
sadnmad
I'm sorry. That is not a good friend...
Me-BS 50
FWH-50
M 30 yrs
dday 3-19-11
R
Posts: 399 | Registered: Oct 2011 |
Polly4
♀ Member
Member # 31015 | | Posted: 7:36 AM, March 9th (Friday), 2012 | |
My hands are shaking right now.. WW is still proclaiming that the antibiotics are for prostate infection? I sent him an email on the causes of BV STD and I sent it to all of his known email addresses including his work one.
Why is that I am ashamed and humiliated by this and he doesnt see to care and passes it off as something else? This is the 4th time in a year that I have been treated for this! WTH????
BS 45
WW 46
OW old enough to be his mother
OW #2 Young and sleezy
He is on all of the dating sites, so I have no clue how many others there really are.
Not sure if she is the only one either?
4 boys
21,19,19 and 15
Married 17 years
dday- 13
Posts: 89 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Midwest |
Confused19
♀ New Member
Member # 34880 | | Posted: 5:15 PM, March 10th (Saturday), 2012 | |
I'm sorry if I missed it, but I'm' new here...is anyone in an "after" stage with their post-divorce STD? I'm going through the divorce now and have herpes. I'm trying to imagine a life after this, but it's pretty difficult.
Posts: 37 | Registered: Feb 2012 |
Broken hearted61
♀ Member
Member # 34931 | | Posted: 10:42 AM, March 29th (Thursday), 2012 | |
I am going to have my tests done in a few weeks. I have already contracted HPV of the cervical kind from what I thought was from his former girlfriend. This will be my second colposcopy, 6 months after my first diagnosis and original colposcopy.
Since I've recently learned of multiple women he's had affairs with (ouch) I am also going to request the whole shebang.
He does have both types of Herpes virus and, admittedly, we don't always use protection. I know, I know...dumb.
Question: I have individual health insurance and worry about getting cancelled or rates raised horribly if I were to have contracted anything else. Would anyone recommend I see a physician from a place like Planned Parenthood and have it done anonymously? Or just go straight to my regular doctor?
BGF (50) me
WBF (50) him
DD#1 02/23/2012
TT 03/19/2012
Working on R (03/21/2012)
It's over: 5/5/12
Posts: 211 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest |
painpaingoaway
♀ Member
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 5:34 PM, March 29th (Thursday), 2012 | |
(((hugs))) to all of us. I just can't respond right now, too much other hell going on in my life right now, but I think about all of you, and sending hugs.
me BS female 54/him WS 57
Married 32 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land"
Episode # 1
http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12278468/playgoz
Posts: 6009 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
painpaingoaway
♀ Member
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 3:17 PM, April 6th (Friday), 2012 | |
Sadly bumping for a new comrade:(
me BS female 54/him WS 57
Married 32 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land"
Episode # 1
http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/12278468/playgoz
Posts: 6009 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
whensitover
♀ Member
Member # 31207 | | Posted: 10:04 AM, April 10th (Tuesday), 2012 | |
I have a questin about Herpes. Does a herpes outbreak occur in the exact same spot everytime? I have a spot that is not on my vagina directly, it is more on the mons pubis or just the part that pubic hair grows about midways down. It doesn't hurt, it does itch. But it always occurs in the same exact spot. Could this be herpes? Also I have had hand/mouth/foot virus 3 times in the past 3 years. Doctors have no idea why because normally, in children, hand/mouth/foot only occurs once and they don't get it again (sorta like chicken pox) Any info is appreciated!!
Posts: 371 | Registered: Feb 2011 |
lost family
♀ Member
Member # 32578 | | Posted: 12:38 PM, May 7th (Monday), 2012 | |
bump
Posts: 76 | Registered: Jun 2011 |
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