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Fathful123 posted 2/21/2012 08:32 AM

I got tested for everything the day after Dday. I had female Dr and told her exactly why I was in for testing. I made WH go twice for testing since he had unprotected sex with the ugly cow. All tests negative. Oh he said he didn't use protection because she said.....wait...she said she was separated from her H and hadn't had sex in 10 years! Except her H lives in the house with her. That's how they were busted.

painpaingoaway posted 3/2/2012 10:13 AM

Everybody OK?

As the tech was drawing my blood, I just kept repeating, MY H is a cheating fucking bastard, over and over.

The poor med tech probably thought I was crazy.

Polly4 posted 3/2/2012 10:26 AM

Is bacterial vaginitis always STD related?

When I found out about the OW I got tested for everything. They all came back NEGATIVE except bacterial vaginitis? It took 3 doses of anit biotics to finally rid myself of this. I tried to get WW to get tested and he told me that "she" would never give him anything! That it had to be me! I have continued to have issues and have gone back to the doctor, could there be something else going on here that has been dormant for all these months? My WW finally went to doctor and now he is on heavy duty anti biotics but said that it was his prostate? I am so confused, angry and discusted with myself for trusting that he would of atleast used a fricken comdon!

[This message edited by Polly4 at 10:27 AM, March 2nd (Friday)]

0115 posted 3/2/2012 16:23 PM

Polly I think technically BV is not considered a STD but its can be transmitted by others partners
I had it and I know it came from the wicked bitch.

Update. I'm neg for the cancer strains of HpV but had an abnormal pap...I go back in 6 months for a recheck. Stupid warts won't go away. I wish they were on her face instead

Polly4 posted 3/2/2012 22:41 PM

Yes, I know that I got it from WW via the skank. This sort of thing doesnt just appear after 17 years of having one partner.

It just pisses me off that he would blame me! but then i am the blame for all that he has done..

painpaingoaway posted 3/5/2012 15:06 PM

finally went to doctor and now he is on heavy duty anti biotics but said that it was his prostate?
This sounds like total bullshit to me, maybe one of our docs on here will weigh in on this. In the meantime, I would demand that he give his doc permission to talk to you, if indeed this is 'just' a prostate problem...there should be no problem with his doc explaining this to you. If your H refuses, then he is hiding something.

soverybetrayed posted 3/5/2012 19:05 PM

Well today I joined this club. I was tested back in August and was negative for everything. Went for retesting last week as it had been 6 months and I came up positive for Herpes. I thought I just had a yeast infection but the red spots looked like the measles. Even my doctor thought it was a yeast infection but we tested for all STDS again.

What I can't figure out is how I got it since we haven't had sex since the summer of 2010. I haven't had any breakouts till now. Can it be dormant for 1.5 years? Could it be popping up now because I have 2 autoimmune diseases? Could it be the stress of all this crap (learning of his cheating and leaving him plus the divorce)?

I am 53 years old and now I have another incurrable disease. And the whole damn time he has been telling me that he never actually touched another woman, that it was all cyber sex. Fucking LIAR!

0115 posted 3/5/2012 23:10 PM

Oh shit sovery...I'm so sorry!!!! Damn damn damn. Why are people so freakin selfish????? I don't know anything about herpes. I'm specializing in all strains of HPV currently. I've only been with one man and he's only been with me and 2 whores...hmmm wonder how I got it????

I hope Dr Purple comes on...she's always helpful.

Good luck. So sorry

painpaingoaway posted 3/6/2012 08:58 AM

I am so sorry hon. I am not a Herpes expert, but my understanding is that yes, it can lay dormant for a very long time, and that yes, other stressors could have awakened an outbreak.

And the whole damn time he has been telling me that he never actually touched another woman, that it was all cyber sex. Fucking LIAR!
^^^^^^^This is exactly the reason I tell all newbies to get tested regardless of what the wayward tells them. As we all now know: cheaters LIE!
Welcome to our sad little club.

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 8:59 AM, March 6th (Tuesday)]

soverybetrayed posted 3/6/2012 12:04 PM

Thanks everyone, this was one club I did not want to join. I got tested in August and was 100% clear but was told I need to get tested again in 6 months to be sure. I started having some itching but thought it was a yeast infection. I secretly worried that it was herpes but he kept telling me that he never physically touched another woman. I never really believed him and that was why I got tested the first time.

Now I have to face this mess alone and with all of my other illnesses it is just getting to be too much. I am now to the point of there is no point of hoping for a relationship with a man. Who will want a woman who is ill but also has herpes? Crap, I was only with one man for 12 years and I know I didn't have them when I met him. I got tested after my last divorce and was clean. Why is the karma bus hitting me when I didn't cheat? I had the opportunity to cheat but I chose not to so my did I get hit by the karma bus and not him?

Don't mind me I am just ranting and angry.

sadnmad posted 3/8/2012 12:53 PM

Last night I was talking to a friend about the recent events of the betrayal, breakup, etc and confided in her about the fact that I now have herpes thanks to my XSO. I was hoping for at least a little support, but instead I got, "Oh my god, that is horrible! I am SO glad I don't have any STDs - if I had herpes I'd absolutely die" Seriously!? Uh, thanks for the encouragement.

Polly4 posted 3/9/2012 05:59 AM

I would demand that he give his doc permission to talk to you,

I have been 180 him for 2 weeks, he would never agree to my talking to his doc.

I guess too at this point I dont give a shit anymore, it is what it is. He is being served on Tuesday with divorce papers. I feel like I am living some fricken reality show! WTH?

He discusts me, I cannot stand to look at him!

forgivingnow posted 3/9/2012 07:34 AM

I'm sorry. That is not a good friend...

Polly4 posted 3/9/2012 07:36 AM

My hands are shaking right now.. WW is still proclaiming that the antibiotics are for prostate infection? I sent him an email on the causes of BV STD and I sent it to all of his known email addresses including his work one.
Why is that I am ashamed and humiliated by this and he doesnt see to care and passes it off as something else? This is the 4th time in a year that I have been treated for this! WTH????

Confused19 posted 3/10/2012 17:15 PM

I'm sorry if I missed it, but I'm' new anyone in an "after" stage with their post-divorce STD? I'm going through the divorce now and have herpes. I'm trying to imagine a life after this, but it's pretty difficult.

Broken hearted61 posted 3/29/2012 10:42 AM

I am going to have my tests done in a few weeks. I have already contracted HPV of the cervical kind from what I thought was from his former girlfriend. This will be my second colposcopy, 6 months after my first diagnosis and original colposcopy.

Since I've recently learned of multiple women he's had affairs with (ouch) I am also going to request the whole shebang.

He does have both types of Herpes virus and, admittedly, we don't always use protection. I know, I know...dumb.

Question: I have individual health insurance and worry about getting cancelled or rates raised horribly if I were to have contracted anything else. Would anyone recommend I see a physician from a place like Planned Parenthood and have it done anonymously? Or just go straight to my regular doctor?

painpaingoaway posted 3/29/2012 17:34 PM

(((hugs))) to all of us. I just can't respond right now, too much other hell going on in my life right now, but I think about all of you, and sending hugs.

painpaingoaway posted 4/6/2012 15:17 PM

Sadly bumping for a new comrade:(

whensitover posted 4/10/2012 10:04 AM

I have a questin about Herpes. Does a herpes outbreak occur in the exact same spot everytime? I have a spot that is not on my vagina directly, it is more on the mons pubis or just the part that pubic hair grows about midways down. It doesn't hurt, it does itch. But it always occurs in the same exact spot. Could this be herpes? Also I have had hand/mouth/foot virus 3 times in the past 3 years. Doctors have no idea why because normally, in children, hand/mouth/foot only occurs once and they don't get it again (sorta like chicken pox) Any info is appreciated!!

lost family posted 5/7/2012 12:38 PM


painpaingoaway posted 5/7/2012 13:10 PM

Whenitsover, please be checked for syphilis immediately. What you are describing sounds worrisome to me. The secondary stage of syphilis can present with rash on palms of hands and feet. Please see a doctor.

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