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User Topic: What was I thinking buying Twilight???
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, December 18th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's interesting to hear all the different reactions to this book. I've just lost friends and a sister to this kind of addictive passion where only 'the one' is like a real person to them and every other person is kind of meaningless now that they have their guy.

Crossbow - what a husband - now that's sacrifice! Were the movies awful too?


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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9years
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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, December 18th (Sunday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have read and watched them all. Not the best books or movies, but once I started (mostly cause of the hype) I had to finish. I watched the second before I had read or seen anything else, so then I had to backtrack and catch up. I will be watching the last one, but wouldn't ever read them again.


Just say yes to the rest

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circe
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My sister and I read them along with her then-7th grade daughter. My sister read them first to pre-screen for her daughter, and in the process was hooting and snorking so much about their awful-ness that I begged her to pass them to me before her daughter. I also thought they were awful, but enjoyed snarking on them immensely.

The fangirling kind of reminds me of how I thought Heathcliff was the most romantic character ever when I was a young teen reading Wuthering Heights. I was a bit horrified to read the Wuthering Heights references the author kept making in Twilight, since the "romance" was so ridiculous and the books IMO so bad that their comparison to Wuthering Heights was kind of insulting.

But I did get a laugh over how at a certain age, an angsty, angry, troubled, tragic, abusive and controlling guy *with a past!* can be so romantic and compelling. Since I felt it so acutely myself, I know that feeling from the inside and it's powerful.

I wonder what it is about that age girl and that type of guy that is like a match to gasoline? Anyone know the psychology of it? It's so interesting!

[This message edited by circe at 8:19 AM, December 19th (Monday)]


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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I stumbled across the term "LOLfan" in reference to Twilight. I'm a LOLfan. I love to make fun of them. I have to be careful because my sister-in-law, mother-in-law, and niece are die-hard true fans, so when I watch the movies with them I have to keep the snark to myself.

I did actually worry about my niece for a while - she was really into Bella and said she wanted to be just like her, etc. etc. I tried to get her to read some YA books with strong female leads, like the Trickster's Choice series by Tamora Pierce, but she had zero interest. She doesn't really like to read but she looooved Twilight. That makes me want to cry!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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ladyvorkosigan
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Vampire Academy, I'm telling you. Or you could also try Hunger Games.

Look, she wants the boys, not the strong female lead. At least 2 boys so there can be a Love Triangle. That's why you sell her on the romance (Team Dmitri vs. Team Stefan, Team Peeta vs. Team Gale) and just know that along with feeding her blossoming fangirl need for that sort of thing, she's also getting strong female leads.


It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's like shredding vegetables in your spaghetti sauce.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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Tiger
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read them all. I agree they are addictive. The story was ok but honestly they could have been written in one whole book. I will never watch the movies.


Me BW
Him WH
Two kids
Dday sept 28 2011
Together since 2000, married 2005
On our way to ??

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caspers1wish
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have read and watched them all and mostly enjoyed them. I thought the first movie was just terrible, horrible acting. We watch it quite often on my ipod before going to bed so we can laugh at our favorite bad lines. I do not go to the movies to see shirtless Jacob or sparkly Edward and am embarrassed of my friends who most obviously do, but don't bother with the books.

My husband refuses to claim any interest and yet when the movies are out on DVD, funny that he'll sit and watch it with me. I made him read all the Harry Potter series, he put his foot down with Twilight.


Me - FWW (35)
Him - BH (34)
Kids - Ages 6, 8, 10
Married 13 years, together 18 years.
Last D-Day - November 2008

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But Dracula had 3 boys. Granted, one is a Texan but he fights vampires so that's all cool, and the other ends up engaged to a vampire but he stabs her with a bit of wood, so it's all properly romantic, except for the light saber duel between Renfield and Harker and Renfield got saved at the last minute by Lord Soth and his trusty werebadger sidekick, that was more of a nod to William Shatner.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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Crossbow
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

William Shatner is a were badger? 'Bout damn time he came out of the closet!


DDay 7/4/07 found out about online/sexting EA with OM
DDay 7/25/07 found out about OW
In R

2 DSs, ages 8 and 6
DD, 1


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Crossbow
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, December 19th (Monday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And yeah, I think the movies are pretty bad.

I actually like *one* character from the books, and that's Alice. Her good-natured (especially for a vampire in this series) quirkiness is refreshing and entertaining.

Horribly, when I accompanied W to the midnight release of "Breaking Dawn," *I* won a raffle prize - nameplates autographed by the authoress herself.

Boy did I get the stink-eye from the hundreds of tweens (and their moms!) packing the bookstore that night!

Don't know if W ever used them though.

[This message edited by Crossbow at 7:15 PM, December 19th (Monday)]


DDay 7/4/07 found out about online/sexting EA with OM
DDay 7/25/07 found out about OW
In R

2 DSs, ages 8 and 6
DD, 1


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ladyvorkosigan
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Default  Posted: 3:30 AM, December 20th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm still waiting to find out what happened to the third son. Unless Lord Soth *is* the third son. If so, never mind. He got that nasty STD from that Silvanesti OW of his.


It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 6:30 AM, December 20th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, no, William Shatner is T.J. Hooker.

I guess Soth had an STD if you swap out the D with "Death" but STU would be cooler sounding.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, December 20th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh mah gawd y'all!

Breaking Dawn Drinking Game


OFFICIAL DRINKING GAME RULES:

Take One Drink When:

Edward bites a human
Charlie makes you cry
There’s a toast at the wedding
The movie tries to justify Jacob’s impending imprint
For each of the bruises Edward finds on Bella the morning after (Bella just fell down the stairs is all)
The pro-life vs. pro-choice theme makes you uncomfortable
The camera pans to Jasper
Seth Clearwater is adorable
You feel deathly afraid of being pregnant
The Cesarean Dentata occurs
Michael Sheen appears

Take a shot when:

Charlie declares his own hotness.
Stephenie Meyer appears.
Edward breaks the headboard.
The getting-ready-for-sex montage occurs.
You see the ‘science!’ of Bella’s insides.
Chug for the duration of:

The wedding kiss
The Volvo commercial
Any vampire sparkling
The wolf telepathic pow-wow (This one might kill you)
Bella drinking blood


Empty the bottle/glass for:

THE IMPRINT


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, December 20th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my opinion? No. They don't get better.

I have a long, long list of problems with those books.

I'm a sucker for a good vampire story. These are simply trash.


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, December 20th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my opinion? No. They don't get better.

I have a long, long list of problems with those books.

I'm a sucker for a good vampire story. These are simply trash.


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

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want_to_forgive
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, December 20th (Tuesday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Twilight books were a guilty pleasure of mine. My teenage daughter was reading them so I did too... hooked after the first one.

The second book dragged for me, but I loved the last one. I have never been a crazed super fan of anything, and Twilight was no exeption, but they were fun, quick reads.

I hate the movies though. Bella walks around with her mouth hanging open all the time looking like an experiment in artificial stupidity.


M 11 years
Me: BS 38 Him: WS
DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
Not making a decision is making a decision.

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jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, December 29th (Thursday), 2011View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a weakness for trashy books...either simple trash like Twilight or trash with erotica in them especially historical romance books. I am a sucker for anything that has history in it. I think it goes along with my nostalgic view of men in the past. Yes, this is straight out of my need for more IC I know, but there is something about that whole "chivalry" thing that makes me swoon like Scarlet O'Hara. I know, I know, I know...it is all BS and women had no power back then etc etc etc. It just seems to me that people today, both male and female, have no sense of manners, honor, chivalry, etc. So I am hopelessly in love/lust with Mr. Darcy, Capt. Wentworth, Colonel Brandon, Elizabeth Gaskell's Mr. Thornton, Dicken's Allan Woodcourt because they are "gentlemen". I also enjoy the reformed rakes in Regency romance books like Lord St. Vincent(total swoon), all the Cynster men, and Viscount Calverton (Luc). So in following all this I read Twilight because of Edward's old fashioned values... and let's face it not many young men today have these values however it is my goal to teach my sons how to respect women and treat them gently while viewing them as equals. Yes I got sucked into the world of the Vamps in the Vampire Diaries, True Blood, and others.

Hey give a girl a break! I have a hubby who has severe ED and is very ill. I gotta get my romance and jollies somewhere!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
"You can't control how others behave, you can only control your reaction."

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luv2swim
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Default  Posted: 5:40 AM, January 2nd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tonight, my 21 yo son reported that his father is now reading these books... and told son that he "should read them .. they are pretty good".

Dear son is having a field day ... saying "SEE SEE... I TOLD YOU DAD HAS CHANGED!!! THIS COULD EXPLAIN A LOT!!! MAYBE HE SPARKLES NOW TOO!!!

Any men in your life recommending this series to their sons?


Me: BS
Him: NPD WS
Married 24 years
incredible kids
D day: 2006 ... he left to live with OW.
Divorced: 2009
WS + OW: Married 2011

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poopylala
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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, January 16th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WHy read Twilight when you can read this post instead?


Oh man y'all had me laughing so hard! I refuse to read it not because of anything other than I am loyal to Harry Potter (I was 10 when Harry was 10!!) and my focus was all on that, not Twilight. Plus Robert Pattinson has always just kind of annoyed me? So it gave me even more reason to not see the movies. The books, you ask? Because I would be picturing RPat as Edward, I decided not only did I not want to waste the time reading it, I didn't want to imagine his face and creepy hair while wasting time reading it.


BGF (me)- 25
FWBF (him)- 24
Was in a LTR but it's complicated now

forgiven and in R :)

"To err is human.
To forgive,
divine"


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