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20/20 Hindsight: What I should have done when I J F O
This is such a wonderful post. I hope it gets bumped often. So many could use it.
It make me sad I didn't find this or a site like this sooner. I only found out about these sites a few years ago.
My second DDay was 9 years ago. But I put up with TT and withholding for 5 years and so much damage has been done that for the rest of my life I will wish I had married someone else. So sad, like my user name - I deserve more
[This message edited by IDeserveMore at 10:37 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)]
what is 'TT' please? I see it often but it's not in the abbreviations list
Also, would it not be an idea to 'pin' this post or include the list in the library so members don't go dizzy bumping it
TT means Trickle Truth...when the truth trickles out over a period of days, weeks, months and ,let's face it, years.
Wanted to bumpety bump this awesome thread for some new newbies.
Take care out there x
THANK YOU for this. I feel like number 5 is truly what I needed to read, and will help me stay strong and know when my WH is truly remorseful.
The 180 in a non-infidelity context (at least that the author knows): http://theweek.com/article/index/99512/he-said-he-was-leaving-she-ignored-him
I wish I had done this on my DDay 11/23/12. I ended up pregnant during HB and now have a 2 month old. Plus tonight while he was in the shower I tried the pass code that he gave me for his iPhone and it's not working. I can't even confront right now with no evidence. Sad, sad, and sad.
I'm a long way past D-day, and it took a long time to finally recover from the trauma of betrayal/infidelity …
And I still find that this 20/20 list is excellent advice for dealing with the chaos that follows D-day.
So … bumping for just-found-out newcomers to SI.
I don't believe I have ever seen this thread. I wish I had. I think there is some great advice in there that I am just now starting to realize, accept and implement. I'm not that far out so I'm hoping it's not too late for some of it.