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User Topic: 50 Shades of Grey
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, March 5th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone read 50 Shades of Grey by E.L. James?

It is said to be and Adult Romance and is a 2011 goodreads choice award and a 2011 Best Romance Finalist.

I think I want to read this trilogy but am worried about it being too triggery.

Anyone read it and want to share your thoughts?


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 8934 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
smith
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, March 5th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've read the whole trilogy, there isn't really any triggery stuff in there but there is some intense BDSM stuff and graphic sex scenes.

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, March 5th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Did you enjoy it? Dumb question if you read all three books!!

I am not a prude and am adventurous, but not into BDSM. Is it way over the top BDSM or more mainstream?

I am afraid that there may be affairs in the book and I really couldn't handle that above anything else. Graphic sex is fine with me.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 8934 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
smith
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, March 5th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did enjoy the books, the first 2 more than the 3rd. There aren't any affairs in the books but most of the sex scenes are BDSM in nature.

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starrysky
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, March 9th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've read all three and LOVE them!! Here's a tiny bit of info for you; originally "50 Shades of Grey" was written as a Twilight fan fiction story called "Master of the Universe" Christian = Edward Anastasia = Bella ; of course the names had to be changed once the author was invited to publish the story but I actually read the fan fiction story before the published version.

At any rate, there is no infidelity in all of the 3 books but definitely lots & lots of steamy, yummy sex (and yes, BDSM situations).


"The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it"

Me(37)-FWW/BS
Him(36)-BH/WH The love of my life
2 Daughters: 15,11
Married 14 years Together 17 years
11 Month EA & PA
Beautifully Reconciled


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starrysky
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Default  Posted: 12:59 AM, March 9th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also wanted to add one thing; while there is no infidelity in the 3 books, Anastasia (the lead female) does worry about Christian still being friends/business partners with the lady who introduced him to the BDSM lifestyle. At times, Anastasia feels she won't be able to fulfill Christian's needs (she isn't into the heavier part of the BDSM lifestyle) & on occasion worries that Christian will "visit" this other lady. I suppose that could be triggery so I thought I'd mention it but there is NO infidelity.


"The grass is not greener on the other side, it's greener where you water it"

Me(37)-FWW/BS
Him(36)-BH/WH The love of my life
2 Daughters: 15,11
Married 14 years Together 17 years
11 Month EA & PA
Beautifully Reconciled


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ladyvorkosigan
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Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, March 9th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I find BDSM stuff really cheesy, but I actually liked this and the sequel. I don't read Twilight but could not discern its roots until after I read it and someone told me.

It felt kind of late 80s/early 90s to me, like one of those Jayne Ann Krentz books with the corporate hero and the Seattle setting. I kept picturing Patrick Bateman as the lead, since his name was Christian and he's a suit.


It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls hed known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, March 23rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This book was being talked about, again, on CBS This Morning. It is in the top 10 ebooks. It is being talked about becoming a movie.

I still haven't read it. Thanks for everyone's comments. I will be reading it.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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ArialRose
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, March 23rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read the first 2, loved the 1st one. Not so much the 2nd. Not in a hurry to read the 3rd. I can get mushy ILY forever, soulmate crap anywhere. I wanted to read about the whole Dom/Sub stuff because it was different and interesting...okay arousing.

The second one just didn't do it for me like the first.


ArialRose-BS
in our 40's
M 28 years, together 30 years
3 DSs (adult)
D-Day: 3/23/09, Major TT 2/10/10 5/24/10,10/30/10, & 12/12/10.
Inappropriate online conversations on my part- 10/2011

FOR FUCKS SAKE!


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ladyvorkosigan
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, March 23rd (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another thing that I think is interesting is that these really aren't books about a sub finding a Dom and living HEA in D/s relationship.

They're about a woman finding a man who is a Dom and over time they end up living HEA in a vanilla relationship.

So it's a "virgin reforming a rake" story, just set in Seattle, with a billionaire.


It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls hed known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

Posts: 14220 | Registered: Sep 2005 | From: Florida
wannabenormal
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, March 26th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm curious why this paperback was $30 at the bookstore! I don't mind buyign books, but I can't pay $30 for a paperback. LOL!

I'm got tons of other stuff to get through first, so I can wait until it's a little cheaper.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:05 AM, April 9th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm only 1/4 through the first one, and I just have to say that Crazz is in for some TROUBLE later!!


For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 1/3 the way thru #1. Just read about their first time together.
No triggers except for the fact that I have not had sex for a very long time. This reminded me of that.


There is life on the other side of hell.

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hurtinghearts
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, April 27th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am about halfway through and am loving it.


Dday: Jan. 8th, 2010
OW#1 6 month PA...she is remorseful and forgiven. OW#2 The "therapist"... played head games with me. OW#3... loved to give blow jobs in her office. OW#4 the couple from Hell

Posts: 66 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Illinois
livvylou
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, April 27th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I read all 3 of these dang books last weekend. Yes, ALL 3. I guess I liked them


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The only thing more impossible than staying is leaving.

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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, April 27th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://now.msn.com/entertainment/0427-ellen-reads-erotic-book.aspx

this is soooo funny ... Ellen trying to narrate from one of the books ...

BTW no I have not read them, but this made me lmao ...


I am fiercely independent and I wont apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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punky
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, April 27th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What's HEA?


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Nicole5
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Default  Posted: 4:59 AM, April 28th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

punky...it had me stumped too. Maybe Happily Ever After?


divorced my WH on Nov 4, 2011
(see my profile for "the story")


Posts: 338 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: TX
INeedMoreCoffee
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, April 28th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just finished #1
Loved it!!!! Didn't find it at all Triggery.

Amazon here I come for #2 and #3



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jadedheart
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, April 28th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is on my list for audiobooks! I listen while driving to work etc. Can't wait to get it!


Me 45
FWH 47
DS11, DD18, DS21(they know nothing about A)
Married 23 years together 25
Dday 09/24/2010
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