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User Topic: Betrayed Men- Part 8
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, May 18th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

and if you put you ankles behind your ears while somehow making me curry I will walk over hot coals for you....

The two of those really just don't go together. I mean, if nothing else, where do you put your beer in this situation?


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, May 18th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For example, if I fucked some slut with huge tits (which my wife doesn't have), would the real reason I fucked that girl be because of something my wife lacked and I needed or would it be something lacking in me? Obviously it would be something lacking in me.

Fucking a chick with huge tits is not an indicator that something is lacking in you.

It means you have a good eye.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, May 18th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why is tits such a fun word to say?

Will I ever be older than 9 in that part of my brain?


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, May 18th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I actually prefer to say "boobies", but I can't say it without making squish gestures with my fingers. Thank god I'm not an ornithologist.


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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, May 19th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by StillGoing at 12:15 AM, May 19th (Saturday)]


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

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dday3302011
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, May 19th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fucking a chick with huge tits is not an indicator that something is lacking in you.

It means you have a good eye.

LOL. True. My second wife will be a natural D at worst.

I actually prefer to call them yabos (sounds like Cabo) or horns.


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M 11yrs, together 14
DDay 3-30-2011
2 kids, 9 & 7
1 yr LTA w/MOM
Divorced 5-16-2013

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Coma
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, May 19th (Saturday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So here is what i gopta ask the guys here.

Has infidelity changed your perceptions of women in general?


BS-Me
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jjct
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, May 20th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think my perception has improved.


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Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, May 20th (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey guys, been awhile.


as per the Dr. Laura stuff, Yeah, guys need sex, women need sex. everyone has a libido. and it's all different, for different reasons. But sex isn't just about getting your rocks off. It's about that connection, and that physical connection is what's important.

I have a buddy who is about to lose a great girl because he isn't fucking her. But it's not really because he isn't fucking her, it's because he isn't being affectionate at all! (she opened up crying to me at the bar about this while he was outside smoking)

Dr. Laura is full of shit
Dr. Phil is full of shit
Dr. Drew is full of shit.
Celebrity doctors usually are full of shit.


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Married 1 1/2 years together for 5
D-Day: 4/11/12

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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

2814

How are you doing man? Finally detaching from your WW?


Infidelity sucks shit

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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

wert
Because it is over simplified crap. More to the point it is not what I need. It is a part of what I want is a relationship. And I don't want her teaching women that because if I come across one I would like to date someday, I don't want her thinking I am a wind up doll and if you put you ankles behind your ears while somehow making me curry I will walk over hot coals for you....

That is funny.. but I am sure you do want a woman like the one Dr Laura gives advice. Seems to me, she is totally misunderstood and taken way out of context by folk who don’t listen to her, or never read her books.

What man wouldn’t want the type woman she is say she should in her book?
- A woman who understand and wants to give he man time beyond the kids, her parents, her job.
- A woman who does not constantly nags, criticizes, complains..
- A woman who considerate of a man’s feelings. I am sure you know this kind of woman.. Tearing down everything you do.. Never complimenting on the good things you do. You want a woman who is kind, loving, tell you how important you are.. encourages you, cares about you..
- A woman who doesn’t make you read her fucking mind! You know the ones… “You should know I wanted blah blah blah” “why didn’t you pick up this or that you knew we needed ti.. blah blah… “ A man needs a direct woman not making you read all those signals
- Sex? Instead of you woman looking at sex as obligatory, look at is a fun, satisfying, something you want to do for your man. And romance your man too!
- Treat you man like a man. Not a house husband or slave.

StillGoing.. That was not me calling you gay. LOL... That was one of those women wanting to flame me because she didn’t like me trying to lay out facts about a book she did not even read. I do apologize for assuming you were a woman.


2814... Do you really believe woman needs sex like men need sex? I’m pretty sure that it is not the norm. During a woman’s cycle between 6 – 14 days and chemicals in a woman’s body tells her brain.. “I want sex.” Heck, most men look at any tits and our brain says I want sex… and happen’s everyday... and can happen in only minute.

Just looking at jjct pics makes me want to call my W and tell her to be ready tonight.


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tryn, Dr. Laura isn't saying that. I don't know how you extrapolate her very obvious push to feed and fuck men to manipulate them to that list. What you are doing is moderately insulting because you're setting up a total strawman argument with the "Who wouldn't want all this obvious stuff?" which isn't what anyone is contending at all.

What people are contending is that Dr. Laura pushes entirely contradictory ideas to the list you have there, not to mention she has never practiced what she's preached and has no real credentials other than a non-credit course certificate she picked up in family and marriage counseling. Dr. Phil may be a weird dude but the guy actually has degrees in the field he works in.

Please stop with the "How could you not like a woman who respects you???" stuff because that isn't what the argument is about, it's about "Dr. Laura telling women that their men are simpleminded idiots that can be controlled with beer and cootch."

I mean coming around from the other side it's easy to say "How could you like Dr. Laura when she says:

- You're fat
- Your mom
- Pi is a whole number
- Vegans are right"

Obviously none of that shit is true, but I can guarantee you I can draw a logical flow from something that crazy woman has said into any of the above ideas. Since none of that is reasonable, to actually stay relevant to what she is saying we have to stick to what she is literally writing: Men are simple and easily manipulated if you know how.

That is damn near a direct quote.


eta:

As for men and women wanting sex? Not exactly the same. Women want dick. Men want scooter pies. The frequency of that desire, however, remains entirely dependent on the individual, not on gender or gender preference.

eta again:

Well, some women don't want dick and some men do. So I guess even that's just out the window.

[This message edited by StillGoing at 11:33 AM, May 21st (Monday)]


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whatever it is, a big thing I've learned is what love isn't.

I'm glad I'm no longer in a faux-loving relationship. No longer doing the arduous work of trying to fix someone.

Feels good and free and real. I would want that for all of us in our lives, whether in a relationship or not.

Took some pummeling, some hard painful lessons, but it's a security, this sense of self. I like that.
I think chicks dig it too.


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Red  Posted: 12:16 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

trynhard...


That was not me calling you gay. LOL... That was one of those women wanting to flame me because she didn’t like me trying to lay out facts about a book she did not even read.

No one flamed you and really, talking about the women here on an exclusive Men's thread is pretty rude.

Please be respectful, even when you don't agree with what someone has posted.

Thank you.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My GOD,
Have I missed something here?
This thread has turned into an afternoon interview with the girls from, 'The View'.
I'd rather join jjct and move on with the proper venue.
Especially since there may be some newbies lurking in the corners.
Let's take a step back, if we can, and tell it like it is. Some of us have been really taken advantage of and others are living day to day, not knowing the truth or how to really deal with it and may be just a few of us have found the truth and have moved on.
Let's get back to the healing. We are the examples to be set, not the TV evangelistic, paid-for-performance crowd.
Venting is good, humor is good, reality sometimes bites, but we here are reality. Let's make good use of it.
MBPS
Judge Decision in a few weeks.

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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only observation I'd like to make is, man, jjct is living the life, isn't he?

Good for you, brother.

May your sailing be smooth and your harbors deep, everywhere you roam.


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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please don’t take this the wrong way. I have been mostly lurking on this thread for a few reasons (it is fun for one and it is good to get some feedback that is not the mainstream “the woman’s been cheated on” infidelity advice). So who belongs here on this thread? What are the guidelines?

My GOD,
Have I missed something here?
This thread has turned into an afternoon interview with the girls from, 'The View'.

I would hope that just because this thread is men only that topics and opinions from men would be appropriate here.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with guys being guys (he said boobies, hehehe) but also nothing wrong with guys being men (Guy #1 Dr. Laura has some good things to say like… Guy #2 well she has a couple of points but she is a cheating unremorseful whore… Guy #3 WTF you gotta be kidding me she is full of shit and this is why…).

I think there is a big difference is between disagreeing and shutting someone down. Yeah this is a place when we disagree we don’t have to hold back and we can say “yeah I think you are full of shit”. But that’s not shutting a man down and saying he does not belong here or he is girly. Maybe there is a need for a venting thread for guys who have had their shit sandwhich shoved down their throat so hard they are choking on it. It sucks and I am lucky that my shit sandwich came with some PB&J – at least so far it seems like it (if you can call it lucky).

So tell me, is this a place a man can throw shit down or is it just to raw for some who needs this place to vent?

And yeah - jjct it looks like you are having some fun - after looking at that pic a few times I noticed you were there smiling.


Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The only observation I'd like to make is, man, jjct is living the life, isn't he?
Good for you, brother.

May your sailing be smooth and your harbors deep, everywhere you roam.


WORD!!!! JJCT has the world by the short hairs. Keep it up.

[This message edited by lordhasaplan? at 1:02 PM, May 21st (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey foundout, you can throw almost anything out on here. I think you'll find the guys here very supportive and honest.

If you need an overall gist of what I'm talking about, go back and read the previous threads (assuming you haven't already).

I come here because there are some really experienced, smart people who give me great advice, there are other men out there looking for support through all of this shit, and sometimes I come on here because there's a lot of funny shit going on.

[This message edited by dday3302011 at 1:05 PM, May 21st (Monday)]


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DDay 3-30-2011
2 kids, 9 & 7
1 yr LTA w/MOM
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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, May 21st (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jj where the hell do you live, anyway, Hy Brasil?


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