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Topic: Men are from Mars...
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hummingbird8
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Member # 25086 |  Posted: 9:55 PM, March 14th (Wednesday), 2012 |     |
Women are from Venus.
Has anyone read this book? Is it worth the purchase?
Posts: 212 | Registered: Aug 2009 |
InnerLight
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Member # 19946 | | Posted: 12:44 AM, March 18th (Sunday), 2012 | |
Sure. It's a good basic book that's easy to read on how men and women communicate and think and respond to things differently. I found it helpful and food for thought.
If you want more science I have heard The Female Brain and the author's second book, The Male Brain are excellent.
Here's to A New Life of Excellent Health, Financial Abundance, Nature's Beauty, Amazing Art and Personal Creativity, with Love, Beauty and Peace All Around Us.
Posts: 4964 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: United States |
traicionada
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Member # 10310 | | Posted: 5:17 AM, March 18th (Sunday), 2012 | |
Ages ago...I don't remember much about it which in my bookworm world is code for ok but not impressive 
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
Posts: 3021 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas |
Melody3
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Member # 33591 | | Posted: 12:13 PM, April 6th (Friday), 2012 | |
Great book. I love John Gray.
BS (me): 37
WH: 36
Separated: 9/2/2010 (he abandoned us right after our 2nd child was born)
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 12 yrs, Together 18
Two kids, 7 (daughter) & 2 1/2 (son)
Talk of R in 2012--didn't happen--Divorcing in 2013!
Posts: 684 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Midwest |
Melody3
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Member # 33591 | | Posted: 12:15 PM, April 6th (Friday), 2012 | |
It's a good basic book that's easy to read on how men and women communicate and think and respond to things differently
Just the basics. It's quite informative.
BS (me): 37
WH: 36
Separated: 9/2/2010 (he abandoned us right after our 2nd child was born)
DDay: 10/2010 PA with OW. Married 12 yrs, Together 18
Two kids, 7 (daughter) & 2 1/2 (son)
Talk of R in 2012--didn't happen--Divorcing in 2013!
Posts: 684 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Midwest |
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554 | | Posted: 12:49 AM, April 12th (Thursday), 2012 | |
I thought it was awesome. I even bought a set of videos by John Gray since WH wasn't a reader. I wanted to watch them together so we could have a good foundation for our new marriage.
Turns out he wasn't much of a non-porn video watcher. I should have realized then that his refusal to watch the videos or even discuss any concept was a red flag that our marriage was doomed.
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = WS (abusive NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
Separated & Divorcing
Posts: 5033 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA |
rumorhasit
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Member # 38943 | | Posted: 1:32 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
Bumping an old thread, sorry...
I read this book back in September after Dday#1.
Am I the only one who found it shallow and not very helpful? I don't feel like I got anything out of it that I couldnt have gotten from a cosmo article.
BGF- 29 (me)
WXBF- 29 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 2yo, Him- 1 DD 6yo
Mrs. Robinson- 40, S but still M
"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin
Posts: 144 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California |
authenticnow
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Member # 16024 | | Posted: 5:51 AM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I found it to be extremely helpful. It made me look at things differently and to understand male/female communication better.
Anyone can love a rose, but it takes a great deal to love a leaf. Its ordinary to love the beautiful, but its really beautiful to love the ordinary.
Posts: 25166 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
rachelc
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Member # 30314 | | Posted: 12:04 PM, May 2nd (Thursday), 2013 | |
I just read it this weekend... found it at an old bookstore...
loved this: Vesuvians (women) all study psychology and have at least a Master's degree in Counseling.
I shared this with my husband - about how women talk about things they would with their therapist and he was shocked.
If you are a couple where the gender roles are traditional I think this would help you a lot.
Last week I was quietly crying as my husband and I talked. He referred to it as me "going ballistic." Men interpret any criticism shamefully, according to the book.
his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
"Stop trying to win over the haters. You're not the jackass whisperer."
Posts: 1752 | Registered: Dec 2010 |
StillGoing
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Member # 28571 | | Posted: 2:25 PM, May 3rd (Friday), 2013 | |
Well, I'm from Jersey.
eta:
There is a book called The Myth of Mars and Venus that explains why this is damaging for relationships and how playing to the stereotype can just reinforce them as "correct" so if you actually want better communication with your husband, this might not be the way to go. [This message edited by StillGoing at 2:39 PM, May 3rd (Friday)]
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Posts: 5861 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA |
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