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User Topic: Get your house ready to sell Support Thread
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So how's it going NIK?

You said closing was hopefully mid May and now we are end of May. Hope everything is still going ok!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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FinallyHappy
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Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Read the thread, foreverempty.


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~Ben~

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

forever - I am officially and happily no longer a home owner. The closing went off without a hitch on the 13th.

How's your house coming along?


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can't find the thread but glad your finally sold!

No movement on my house. Stopped work not long after my last lot of photos.

ExWW is being a ass hole about finances refusing to even acknowledge letters from my solicitor so this week we've applied to the court to get it sorted.

I'm thinking of keeping it now and as such don't want to add any further value to it.

In the process of "acquiring" another 2/3rds acre to add to the plot effectively doubling the size of the property and adding its own private access road which up till now has only been a historical right of easement.

I'm a little excited about the thought of keeping it although do wonder if the financial pressure is something I should really be getting rid of.


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fingers crossed for you.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, May 29th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crossing my fingers too and sending positive thoughts FE!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, May 30th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks ladies. I'll keep you posted


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The short sale has been approved by the bank! What a relief! Looks like I'll be out of the house in a month.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YAY!!! Congrats, h0peless!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Need mojo!!! Showing tomorrow,3 days after I buried Saint Joesph in the backyard. My agent tells me that it is a couple looking for privacy and a home where they can run their business.
Well... I am in the middle of 5.5 acres and there is an office with a private entrance!

Please! Buy my house!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a possible great fit, rising. Good luck!

I'm just starting this process. I had my real estate agent do a walkthrough to let me know what to do. Unfortunately I have to have the hardwood floors refinished. I knew it but it still is so much money.

I also need to:
1. get a quote on carpet for upstairs
2. have a leak fixed and some sheetrock repair
3. paint a few rooms and have woodwork painted
4. get windows cleaned (closer to putting on the market)
5. have flower beds turned (closer to putting on the market)
6. clean out the rest of the closets
7. Move items to storage once I have permission to remove things from the house
8. I guess I should list get quote and refinish hardwood floors :)
9. minimise amount of things in cupboards
10. finish dressing shelves properly
11. clean gutters
12. repair gutter
13. power wash flagstone
14. repair chair rail
15. touch up paint island in kitchen


Not much, right?


Divorced and beginning my new life.


2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rising - mojo mojo mojo!!!

Falling - you can do it! One bite at a time.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, June 13th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What NIK says is true, one bite at a time.

Three years ago my weekends were consumed with this stuff.

This weekend is all mine after condo closing today.

I've sold / bought two houses and the condo (with two rental apts in between), five moves in five years.

Glad to just sit still for a bit now...

You will get there!

@ rising: moJO

[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:38 PM, June 13th (Thursday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've started thinning out the stuff in cabinets that belongs to me. I packed seven boxes yesterday. It's a start and actually felt fairly good.

Unfortunately, WH is balking at refinishing the floors. It would make the house sell higher and faster. Truthfully, I'm not sure it's a smart move either. I just want to get things done and move on. I know when I look at a house if the floors are bad I pretty much say no. Sigh.

So I now have about a dozen boxes ready to move to storage once I get the go ahead.

More tomorrow!

Thank you so much for the encouragement. It really helps!


Divorced and beginning my new life.


2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you some positive encouragement.

I know how hard it is to get this bit done!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

falling, how bad are the floors? Last summer I sold my 5 br house that was all wood floors except 4 of the 5 bedrooms and the kitchen, the downstairs floors looked awful to me, a few damaged spots, very dull and dingy, but it was no problem at all - 3 offers after 3 days on the market.

As long as you disclose any specific damage in the disclosure, you're covered, and sometimes what bothers you may not bother someone else.

Area rugs can be helpful as well, though again be sure to disclose anything specific, and the house inspector may have an opinion.

I was worried it would hurt that the upstairs wood floors looked great, not as much kid, dog and traffic wear and tear, but I think that actually helped because they could see what it originally looked like.

We also had a tub replaced in the downstairs master bath, which I thought looked awful and was a mess. We disclosed it, expected it to be a $$ trade issue, but it was never even mentioned. You just never know.

Plus, the market is amazing right now, so houses are going incredibly fast, but when I sold my house that was just barely getting started.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Heavy Sigh
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We sold our 3/2 older starter home (- not a fashionable kind of home at that moment) in the middle of the real-estate crash and made a profit, even after agent's commission. I'll share the inexpensive ideas that sold our home successfully, if you also have a starter home that's older. It's all about clean, clean, clean and camouflage. I'll break it into sections so won't be overly long.

TOP IDEA - DO THIS: We also rented the storage unit - an indoor one without concern for mold or mice ruining paperwork or upholstery. Best idea for having house uncluttered.

SECOND BEST IDEA: I looked at Pottery Barn catalogs and copied the basic ideas of the looks and neutral color schemes with "pop" only in accessories. Inexpensive changes in each room. You may or may not like Pottery Barn but their "rooms" always look fresh without being stark or cold: It's buyer-safe. Remove clutter just as catalog rooms have removed it.

Kitchen:

Problems: Starter house. We weren't going to get a fortune for it from young buyers, but could profit if we did it right. Already had tan floor, but had white countertops and we needed to underplay them or to make them work somehow for a starter family to like kitchen, even if one day the buyers hoped to replace countertops. So I sort of "inspired" that idea by buying a new little granite-topped island/cart that worked as our trump card. yours might be some other touch that can imply upscale but won't cost you a fortune.

1. We had unfashionable type of wood cabinets in the kitchen. This was not going to work for picky young buyers who watch too much HGTV. We painted cabinets black. (Cost - the paint). The backside of our dishwasher panel was black, so we flipped it over. (no cost - just luck).

TIP FOR ALL : Don't jam a lot of groceries and cookware in the cabinets or in pantry. New dishtowels or bleached old ones - stain-free - are the way to go. No nasty sponges in sink area. Go pioneer for a while with a few pots, pans, coffeemaker and go light on groceries - no stocking up.

2. Changed cabinet hardware from copper to a chrome/silvery style. (Cost - under $30 for us since we found the hardware at the Habitat for Humanity resell store. A friend used spray-paint for metal to change hers for almost nothing.)

2. I purchased that small kitchen island/cart on wheels that had a top of black, tan and white granite. The granite pattern tied in the tan floor, white walls/countertops and black cabinets in kitchen. Why it worked: House lookers walked into our kitchen and saw granite as first impression - seemed new and remodeled when it wasn't. Amazing what that little island did for us. ( A little cart, really, and was $80 several years ago. Buyer wanted it, so it ultimately cost us nothing when added to buyer stipulations at the end.)

3. CHEAPER IDEA: We used leftover paint to paint the legs of a modest wooden kitchen table and to paint three inexpensive kitchen chairs black to match the black cabinets. The black legs and black chairs tied in with granite island, since it was an eat-in kitchen. We used three chairs only. Pulled round table to the wall in front of the window of eat-in kitch to make kitchen seem larger with more walking room. (Cost - zero. profit - $100. The buyers wanted the table and chairs since they matched rest of decor.)

3. Added chair cushions and a table runner in a fabric pattern to tie in the same colors of black, white and tan Walls were white, so weirdly, the room seemed more bright with the black cabinets than it did before. (Cost - kitchen chair cushions are about $12 each, runner was $15. We left them in kitchen to be nice to buyers - a gift.)

3. Over the kitchen table, we hung a wrought-iron light that had a little chrome highlights in the black iron to tie-in with cabinet hardware. (Cost - $60).

At this end-point, it looked as if we had installed a brand-new kitchen for the cost of two gallons of paint, three chair seats, table runner, one light fixture and a granite-topped cart with cost was returned at sale. A friend balked at changing anything and their home stayed on market for months and months, so they lost more by not doing small improvements than by doing the little things.

FLOORS: We had hardwood in most of house, so all was easy there. Small dark water stain was on wood at our front door, but with a runner rug on it, and since we disclosed it, this was no biggie. We chose a neutral woven grass rug to visually imply uninterrupted hardwood floor.

FRIEND'S SUCCESS: She had oak floors refinished with a mahogany/cherry darker finish to minimize the contrast with a few water-stain spots.

BEDROOMS: Get rid of the florals or bold geometrics in bed comforters or bedspreads in the master and guest rooms. Put solid spreads on the bed and use print throw pillows on bed in trendy colors for a cheap color tie-in. Please don't just throw the covers over your pillows and leave bed lumpy - I see this often in real-estate listings and it reminds me of owners having just rolled out of bed with dirty sheets. Make up the bed properly and crisply. Buyers don't want to think of a sweaty you sleeping in that bed or in "their' future room.

Same with family photos - hide 'em in that storage unit or in a suitcase. Female buyers, especially, want to feel they're buying a lifestyle for that budget level and don't want to see your husband's photo holding a beer with his ZZ Top T-shirt, or you showing off your stomach's lizard tattoo while pregnant. It's no longer YOUR home to do as you please, but is a product to sell.

Buyers understand kiddie bedspreads as long as clutter is minimal. But buyers are more shallow and lazy than you think, and will balk if walls are Barbie pink or a favorite sports team color. Get rid of Disney stickers or wallpaper borders, and get Justin Bieber posters out of there.

BATHROOMS: Make sure all plumbing works and nothing looks disgusting. Make it sparkle.

(Best grout cleaner - better than the stuff that burns your skin, and this is "green" and won't kill your lungs or skin: 7 cups water, 1/2 cup baking soda, 1/3 cup lemon juice and 1/4 cup vinegar - throw in a spray bottle and spray your floor, let it sit for two minutes or so - that part is key or it won't work - then scrub :) Make sure shower doors don't have rust or grunge in the door runners or edges, if you have those, Get a squeegeefor glass doors or mirrors.

Buy cheap, pretty decorative hand towels. Go to dollar store and buy them for two for a dollar. It's not like you're going to use them yourself- just for show to put out before a showing.

General decorating tip: You want three colors tied into a room to avoid being too washed out if no darker accents or too contrast-y if there is no middle color. Darker, middle and lighter shades. Dark can be a shade darker in accessories, background in a rug or just a lamp. Darker shade doesn't have to be black or brown.

Best if walls and floors can be neutral, and any colors are in accents and accessories buyers know they won't have to repaint or strip, like wallpaper. White walls can seem "cold institutional" in a family room, unless home is more of a beachy, New England cottage-like home. Most subdivision-like homes need the middle-tone neutral on walls, lighter trim, or will look like generic apartment rooms if stark white.

Yard - Pots of flowers. near front and back door. No weeds or overgrown shrubs. Lawn mowed more often than you want to do it.

Wash the dog - often - and dog beds too. Grandma babysat our dog during the week. That helped. We put dog in car with us and drove away to a park when lookers arrived on weekends.

Hope that helps.

[This message edited by Heavy Sigh at 1:09 PM, June 16th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 16th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post Heavy Sigh! I used many of the same techniques - especially declutter and clean, clean, clean....

Love the natural grout cleaner idea - I'm going to try that!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Heavy Sigh
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Persevere -

I saw the grout cleaner on PinIt and was shocked when it actually worked. I poured it on a white tile floor rather than sprayed it, left for 15 minutes to unload dishwasher, then used a sponge mop and was astonished. It's also 'green' for the environment, but i mainly cared about the clean part.

That scary, burny tile stuff had not done half as good of a job.

[This message edited by Heavy Sigh at 7:51 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, September 16th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*Bump*


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Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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