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User Topic: Non-Dating NBs
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump for Jo2Love


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today is the one year anniversary of my fabulous new job. My coworkers put signs up around my office and almost everyone stopped by to thank me for being part of their team.

Interestingly enough, about half of the people said something like, "A year already? I can't believe it's been that long!" and the other half said "It's only been a year? Feels like much longer!" I told both groups of people I was taking their comment as a compliment

Also, I have found a wonderful house in my price range. Perfect location, tons of charm (stained glass windows, beautiful built-ins, fabulous fireplace.) I'm trying to keep my emotions in check since there's still lots that could go wrong, but I am hopeful it will work out! (If not, I'll find another house, but I am so ready to get away from this apartment and my loud, college neighbors and their wild parties.)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of the most amazing aspects of my NB (which isn't new anymore!) is the travel I've been able to do. It is directly related to my job. I get to travel for my job AND because of my job. If I had remained w/ the ex he never would have tolerated me in this job. It would have taken away too much time from him.

So, the list of places I've traveled:
Ghana
China
India

My next personal trip is booked and I'll be going back to India for a week, a couple days in Germany, and a week in Macedonia. In the fall I'll be back in China for work.

Next year will be Japan and possible going back to Ghana.

Not a single hotel room will be used except for work trips. I'll be staying with friends and they will be showing me their country. It just doesn't get much better than that!

Take THAT exH! He always bitched that I didn't make enough money. I consider myself still pretty poor. But I'm certainly rich in friendships and experiences and a global "family".


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


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CharlieFoxtrot
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, April 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have two non-dating NB's...


Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, April 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, Ama.


Congrats, phmh. Fingers crossed that everything goes well with the house. Stained glass windows are beautiful.

Snapdragon, Wow! That is awesome.

Charlie, Your dogs are so cute. Love those happy, furry faces.


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Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, April 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Loving your non dating NB, Charlie! Too cute!

I am having a small party at my new house this Saturday night for my girlfriends. It'll be the first party in my new home. I'm excited to see everyone and have them see my new place!

And we got a new puppy last weekend. She is the sweetest, cutest thing. The kids and I are in love!!!


ETA: I am also attending a handgun safety class Saturday morning. I don't own a gun, or know if I want to, but I'm hoping this class and learning more a out them will help me decide.

[This message edited by Survivor3512 at 9:20 AM, April 17th (Wednesday)]


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, April 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't want to let this thread fall too far off of the front of the forum!

My home inspection is Wednesday, and if all goes well there, I will own it by June 15. So excited to finally be out of this apartment!

Additionally, I have figured out a way to clip the nails of 2 of my 3 parrots by myself. This is HUGE. Now I just have to work on the third, but she's a bit strong-willed and also slightly bigger than the other two.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, April 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love hearing about your parrots I never knew you had to clip their nails!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, April 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes -- in the wild, their nails wear down naturally, but in captivity they don't.

I was having my mom help me, but the parrots don't know her well enough, so it stressed them out. This is much easier!

I just put them to bed -- one is whistling "charge" (like at a baseball game), another keeps saying "Hello?" and the third keeps repeating "Pretty baby!" They can be fun, but so much work!

ETA: this is the one who will not let me do her nails:

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[This message edited by phmh at 7:50 PM, April 27th (Saturday)]


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, April 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

pretty!

Do they make scratching posts for bird?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, April 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They actually do have perches that are supposed to help keep the nails down, but all it ever did on my birds was give them sores on their feet. Perhaps they were using them incorrectly

Did not mean to thread-jack about the parrots!

To bring this back on topic, my dad asked me last week if I'd like to start home brewing with him once I have a house. That's a hobby XWH and I did together, so I'm excited to start doing it with my parents.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


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jilted12
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, April 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm going to jump in since my D was just finalized last week & dating is definitely not something I have any desire to do right now. But today I reserved a lot to build a new home! Going to do the final pricing on Thursday & if it fits in my budget, I'm going to go for it. I will get to choose everything myself which will be awesome & overwhelming. I have always been really bad at decision making but this will be another part of my NB. One with a happy ending I hope!

Survivor...would love to hear how your class went. I have debated getting a gun for protection as right now is not the best time for a dog but I also worry about a gun in the house with little ones though Charlie's dogs are super cute & I miss having one.

phmh...fingers crossed all goes well with your inspection!


Me: BS 40
Him: WS 39
Married 10 yrs, together 13
DS-8, DD-5, DS-2
D-Day 5/9/12, 2 days before #3 was born
Filed for D 8/12; D final 4/13

"I used to be married but I'm better now"


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just over a year ago, I posted my non-dating NB on this thread...time for an update.

Original post:

Finishing up all the half-baked projects that my WH left. The one I'm proudest of so far is refinishing my kitchen cabinets. I got to pick the color and the knobs that I wanted!

Repainting every room in this house a lighter color. WH was into dark and dramatic. But now everything is lighter and brighter

I was a runner and marathoner before. But now I have a new found zeal for training. My pace has picked up by roughly 2 min/mile since D-day. I'm running the Chicago Marathon this fall and I'm thinking I'm going to have a very good time

And finally, I've started to get job apps in. Looking to teach again.

Half-baked projects- 80% complete.

Repainting house- 1 room left.

That marathon I ran in- kicked its ass.

Teaching job - got 2!

I think my non-dating NB, while still working on my house and running, is going to start shifting to joining interest groups. I have a book club eyed for the summer and a running group that I'd like to start showing up to their weekly runs this summer.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

t/j
beautiful bird, phmh!

Also, I used to brew beer. I actually have some buckets of brew sitting downstairs...been there for over a year...they are the last remains of a time when I was with ex-shat. I really need to either dump them out or bottle them.

You know what...I think I need to dump them out and start brewing again. When my heart isn't in something, the result is usually bad...I bet that beer tastes like shit.
end t/j.

Ok, non-dating NB addendum:
I will start brewing beer again this summer.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4564 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
dlmos
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So if brewing beer is a NB (and frankly a pretty cool one), does drinking beer count?

I had only had a couple mixed drinks in my life until the Housten gtg, and never beer, but now I'm really enjoying trying out all the differant kinds

:edited for a typo:

[This message edited by dlmos at 3:09 PM, April 28th (Sunday)]


BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced

Posts: 461 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Fort Worth,Texas
Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi jilted! Congrats on the new house!! I just moved into my new home at the end of February. I'm loving it. Everything about it was picked by me, and I think it looks pretty great!

The handgun class was actually really good. The instructor was great. I had never even held one before and I came away knowing how to load, unload, etc. The best part was target shooting. I got all 50 out of 50 rounds in the "appropriate" place on the target. I haven't made up my mind if I'm going to get one or not, but I feel much more comfortable and knowledgable about them now. I'd definitely recommend the class if you have interest.


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was thinking about giving all of my brewing stuff away so I don't have to move it. Haven't brewed a batch in a long time.

I think I'm really starting to hit my stride. I'm actually enjoying doing things on my own now. I spent the morning fixing a few problems with my motorcycle and decided to test it out by riding to this little burger joint downtown that is supposed to be really good. It was!


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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, April 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this thread.

I have an old vehicle and I don't want a car payment again, so I rent a car from a neighborhood Enterprise Car rental every other weekend.(they pick me up) It is $10.00 a day and 100 mile a day limit on the weekend. It is supposed to be a compact car, but I reserve the car early in the week for 5pm pickup. They are always out of compact cars by that time and I usually get something like a Camry. I know this sounds dumb, but it's so nice to drive around to events, etc in a nice vehicle with no thought of what to do if it breaks down. I sometimes go to a city about an hour away and meet a great friend there for lunch and shopping.

My XWH thinks it's a dumb idea bc he tells my children it is. So sad, too bad, it's my life now!

Also, XH was always groping me so I wore baggy clothes.
Now I wear nice fitting clothes.

I also went to a tanning bed for a week to jump start my tan-- I look awful in winter. It really made me feel great in just a week! The smell of suntan lotion, music, a fan and I felt like I was in Key West!

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 4:45 PM, April 28th (Sunday)]


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, May 31st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I finally have something to add to this thread.

I started working out at a Kettlebell Gym last Thursday, it's similar to crossfit, though no huge powerlifting, and in my experience, the kettlebell workout is hard, but you push yourself at your own pace, and it's less intimidating than the crossfit gym I went to.

Though there's WAY more to it than kettle bells - I've been to three classes and already have done lots of work with big firehoses, swung an ax to bounce off a huge tire, lifted multiple types of weights, thrown some running around the building in, it's been hard, and SO MUCH FUN. And I am SO SORE the next day - it's awesome. I really think this is the workout I've been looking for motivation and results.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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