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User Topic: Attention all bus riders!
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ama - I'm no mathematician, but I believe the BOB to sex relationship looks like this...

sex > BOB > nothing

Of course, YMMV


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24435 | Registered: Aug 2011
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:37 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NIK!

I might be getting back on the bus in the next few months (well, I WILL be back on by the end of summer, it just might be sooner) and I'm curious if going cold turkey will really kill the urge after a while.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13565 | Registered: Jul 2011
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse?

Ama, in order, my answers are:

No
No
It helps but it doesn't... so no


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15360 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You girls are lucky to be able to have BOBs

BOGs not only sound awful, but imagine a new girlfriend catching you with one? I can only imagine most would be quite freaked out??? I don't know.

BOBs are the norm these days even as part of a relationship.

stbxWW already has her new BOB, had it about a month, saw the email receipt online. (I'm sure she used that email cause she knows I can see them)

Wish BOGs were more socially acceptable, wouldn't mind a try!! Maybe it'd make it easier? Dought it though. It's crap without someone else there with you being involved.

Although its better than someone else being there and not being interested......!!!! God how I put up with her for so long I'll never know, selfish bitch!

My ride on the bus has been surprisingly relaxing to date thus far and after less than 6 months there's someone already possibly interested in yanking me off it pretty quickly much to my surprise seeing as how whorefaced skankalot said such horrid things about me which I'd started to believe as true!

Come to think of it I passed up the offer of a quick stop off with a 23 year old girl 2 months ago whilst drunk out in town, invited me back to her hotel!

23!!!! Imagine!!! Apparently I don't look any where near my age!

Wasn't ready back then..... Still too much pain at the time.....

God I ramble on!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have a question for all bus riders: does it get easier with time? Do you find that your desire decreases over time? Does BOB helps or just make you want it worse?

I don't think it gets easier - you just get used to dealing. I don't think your desire decreases. BOB is a very poor substitute. For me, sex with someone you care about is exciting, fun, intimate, and soooo much more satisfying. BOB is purely physical. I need the emotion.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 4922 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Forever, I was informed a while back that the menz answer to BOB is a BUG(Blow Up Girlfriend). Trust me the accompanying pictures were not pleasant.

To use the Empress' mathmatical formula:
Sex>life in a monastary>nothing>BUG.

In answer to Ama, my experience is: Good Gawd I hope it gets easier; the desire has not decreased but the realization that it isn't going to happen soon is starting to creep in; BUGs are not an option since I do not want to develop a latex allergy.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1698 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
timestandsstill
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Polo...last stop with STBXH 7 months out. OW was already one month preggers and didn't know. Ewww. He told me I was much better in bed than her, so I got a good mindfuck to go with it.

Next guy (can't even imagine that yet, it's too weird to me ) is going to have to wait and work - srsly got to know what I'm dealing with, especially with this crap experience behind me. But right now I feel like the first time I kiss someone, it might be all for me.

Sigh...Must.Stay.Strong...sigh


Me, BS 37
Him, WH 40
DS 12
Together 17 years
2010-2011: Serial As and false Rs
Sept 2011: Moved in with latest OW, 21
OC born June 2012

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timestandsstill
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LMAO Jpapageorge!


Me, BS 37
Him, WH 40
DS 12
Together 17 years
2010-2011: Serial As and false Rs
Sept 2011: Moved in with latest OW, 21
OC born June 2012

Posts: 159 | Registered: Oct 2010
WhoIsThisWoman
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, May 15th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well my daughter is 2 in march and I haven't had sex since she was conceived... you do the math... No end in sight...


Me: 40 yo
STBXWW: 41 yo
Married 15 years, 4 kids.
EA in '07
PA in '09 (same OM)

Posts: 248 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: PA, USA
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trying and trying and trying but can't figure it out. What the heckis a BOB, and maybe I should get myself one...


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 389 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Harriet - BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15360 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
Harriet
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

AH! Thanks, Wildbananas, I was pretty sure but could not get the acronym to fit! And if things don't happen soon, I may need to get one. Any way to do that privately...? Too embarrassed to go into an adult store and "shop!"


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12

Posts: 389 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: California
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bought my first on Amazon. They have a good selection, decent prices, and it comes in a normal amazon box, so totally innocuous.

Plus, the site is set up to be very discreet. Normally when you browse something, the site will then suggest similar items for ages - but they don't do that for vibes and other sex related items. (Not including lingerie. The one time I browsed lingerie there, it was all over.) You can also remove the items you've viewed from your browsing history, and unless you leave a product review, it won't appear on your public purchase history either.

ETA: I highly recommend the brand Lelo.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 10:41 AM, May 16th (Wednesday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(Lelo recommended here too...) very quiet...and purple to boot...


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3010 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now the BOB recommendations finally got me to post here

I am in need of one.

I am coming up on one year on the bus. Last time was with WS and was HB.

Last time before him was never and that makes me think that my ship has sailed. I've never had many admirers; no boyfriends being painfully shy in high school and moving mid way through. Lived off campus in University and then lived with my parents until I was 31. They were not getting along and I stayed for my mom.

okay, TMI from me but BOB may be my option for now. That will be a first for me too.

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 12:31 PM, May 16th (Wednesday)]


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
WS: Him 49 (Together 12 years)
D-Day April 18, 2011, Him:out Sept. 11, 2011..moved June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1311 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are plenty of options for discretely ordering a BOB online.

Unless you live in Alabama.

Selling sex toys is illegal in Alabama. Yup. You read that right.

There is a loophole that stores use to sell them in which the purchaser has to fill out a 10 question form indicating on at least one question that the buyer suffers from a medical disorder and that the sex toy in question is necessary. For instance if you say you suffer from depression or erectile dysfunction you can legally purchase a BOB.

Because of that stupid law and the resulting necessity of a loophole ... you cannot order a BOB (or non-battery operated boyfriend) online.

Crazy isn't it???


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South
1Kick at the Cat
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The way I got to be friends with gma was answering one of her posts where I said I was raised to be a gentleman and was taught to always assist a lady off a bus. Little did I know she would turn out to be one of the funniest, most intelligent people I know.

But its true; a REAL gentleman will always come to the aid of a lady in distress; no matter how laborious or strenuous the task might be. Yes, being a gentleman IS a curse but hey, somebodys got to do it! (Oh the things I do in the name of chivalry.)

(Ive also considered legally changing my name to B.O.B. ...subtlety has always been one of my strong suits.)


Before you know it, all this pain will be as useless as the G in Lasagna. 1Kick@Cat

Posts: 471 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Florida, U.S.A.
SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(Ive also considered legally changing my name to B.O.B. ...subtlety has always been one of my strong suits.)

Brilliant!


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South
1Kick at the Cat
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And for those of you in Alabama... just call me Billy B.O.B.


Before you know it, all this pain will be as useless as the G in Lasagna. 1Kick@Cat

Posts: 471 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Florida, U.S.A.
SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, May 16th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And for those of you in Alabama... just call me Billy B.O.B.

Okay ... I literally laughed out loud at that! Thanks for the grins and laughs.

And hey ... I might not need to fill out a form saying I'm crazy. LOL


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South
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