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livinganew posted 9/22/2016 22:39 PM

After 13 years, I am OFF THE BUS! Just when I thought my fate was an eternal bus ride...

I.will.survive posted 9/23/2016 05:33 AM

13 years!? That has to be a record, right?

Woohoo for you, livinganew....your user name is quite appropriate!

livinganew posted 9/23/2016 05:56 AM

I think there once was someone on the bus who had me beat. Time for someone else to drive!

Just when I'd gotten to the point in my life at which I was content being divorced and single... BAM! I met an exquisitely wonderful woman.

We cannot know the future. All I can say to everyone on the bus, is: Hang in there!

Blessings, LA

EvenKeel posted 9/23/2016 08:53 AM

After 13 years - I am hoping it was stellar!

StrongHeart posted 9/23/2016 09:25 AM

Oh wow! I am so happy for you LA!

It is really admirable to see someone take their time with something so special. I hope that it was incredible for both of you!

digitaldrifter posted 9/23/2016 14:12 PM

Wow LA, congrats! Sometimes I feel "pathetic" because it's been over a year and a half for me, but it sounds like we have similar values. I'd rather wait for something amazing than take scraps. Here's hoping you don't need a seat for a while!

Hawke posted 9/23/2016 14:25 PM

That's inspiring, LA. I'm very happy for you.

MeOh posted 9/23/2016 17:35 PM

Wow LA - Congrats!!!

How did you keep track? I'm either at 4 or 5 years (I fear it's the latter) but I'm not even sure! I would hope that when and if I get to 13 years I will have stopped counting for long enough that I just don't know anymore.

livinganew posted 9/23/2016 19:52 PM

My goodness, I did not expect such responses! Thank you, All.

I will confess something... After 13 years, I was surprised to find that my "plumbing" didn't work! At least, not at first... I couldn't believe it! I love her so much, and was mentally gritting my teeth to make it work because I wanted her so badly--which only made it worse. My "problem" was between my ears...

But this wonderful, amazing, woman, took it all in stride, loved me just the same, and was incredibly accepting and patient. And now, well... I'm doing fine.

I don't regret my time on the bus. Everything is as it should be. I wanted "it"--if it were to happen--to be meaningful. And it is. (The first few times, I burst into tears.)

Blessings, LA

nekorb posted 9/23/2016 21:49 PM

Congrats livinganew! So happy thwt you found what you were looking for in a partner.

Wave every now and again as the bus passes you by!

Lovingmyselfmore posted 9/23/2016 22:20 PM

Awww LA

I don't regret my time on the bus. Everything is as it should be. I wanted "it"--if it were to happen--to be meaningful.

This means a lot to me!

I only have been for 2 years in the bus and regretted it from the very beginning but you are teaching me that it's beautiful to not regret it and that is beautiful to wait until the right person arrives.

Thank you so much for your words!

Hawke posted 9/23/2016 23:06 PM

That's lovely, LA. I have a sexual dysfunction, so I'll need someone understanding to help me off the bus if/when the time comes.

dotterofTheKing posted 9/24/2016 00:44 AM

LA, I am beyond happy for you. I love how you referred to your new love as an "exquisitely wonderful woman". Beautiful!

TheBest posted 9/27/2016 07:42 AM

Driver! This is my stop. I'll be getting off now.

one2ndchance posted 9/27/2016 11:11 AM

I don't regret my time on the bus. Everything is as it should be. I wanted "it"--if it were to happen--to be meaningful. And it is. (The first few times, I burst into tears.)

Absolutely beautiful!

There are times when I think any bus stop will do, just so I can get off the bus. This makes me realize getting off at the wrong stop will only prolong getting to where I should be going. Thanks for sharing.

livinganew posted 9/27/2016 17:21 PM

Bless you All! I invite you to consider that where we are is where we are supposed to be. Yes, even if we're in pain.

Who said there is life without pain? Buddha said we'd each experience 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows in our lifetime. As a BS, we get an extra dose of inexplicable, eviscerating pain--beyond all comprehension at the time. It's hard to accept that even that pain is okay.

But where I am now, is that I've grown tremendously through this pain and am better as a person. I KNOW that through my pain, I'm more loving, compassionate, empathic, than ever.

I feel now as though I cannot lose in relationships. If this new relationship ends, even badly so, well... that'd hurt a lot. Then I'll again be in pain for a time, during which I'll grow more and eventually be even better off.

On the hand, if this new relationship works out, then... THAT's wonderful.

Either way, I win.

It's a quiet strength, humility, and compassion that surrendering to, accepting, even embracing this cauldron of pain, can provide us.

Blessings on YOUR journeys!

--LA

JM72 posted 9/27/2016 17:59 PM

Wait, your divorce was final January of 2014, but you were on the bus for 13 years???

livinganew posted 9/27/2016 19:25 PM

JM72...

Wait, your divorce was final January of 2014, but you were on the bus for 13 years???

You're right, I should clarify my bus riding... I wasn't happy about a sexless marriage, which is what it was for too long. Should have been a clue for me, eh? I always thought I had another chance... Was wrong about that. I was wrong about many things.

I'm happy I took my time AFTER the marriage blew apart.

nekorb posted 9/27/2016 19:50 PM

WAIT!

Did TheBest just hop off the bus???

I.will.survive posted 9/27/2016 20:27 PM

WAIT!
Did TheBest just hop off the bus???

I'm over here wondering the same thing??

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