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User Topic: Emotional Detachment: What is it? And how is it accomplished?
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This was really insightful. I let my guard down one day while engaged in the 180 and WH slowly creeped back in. I realized that I felt so much better during the times of 180 and no contact. And then after he tried to creep back in (meaning wanting to talk, hang out at the house, etc) is when my anxiety flared up again. The man I married is no longer on this planet. The person that stands in the driveway, waiting to pick up our son is a stranger to me. The man who would once jump in front of a moving train to protect me, now has NO regard for my feelings or well-being. By recognizing this, it has helped me to slowly detach emotionally. This man is not the man I once knew. That man is gone. So, why stay attached to someone you don't know?

BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA

Posts: 58 | Registered: Jun 2014
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The hardest thing in the world is to detach from the one you love. It is contrary to every feeling we have.

And yet it is something we all must do at some point in our journey.

Betrayal isn't the hardest part. It is knowing that our capacity of love is in some way the enemy.

BS - 45
WW - 43
In R for 5 years, still hurting but finally letting go

Posts: 302 | Registered: May 2014 | From: nh
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, August 12th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
No life should be passively relinquished due to the toxicity of others and taking steps to protect yourself may very well be the most important steps you will ever take.

Posts: 1923 | Registered: Nov 2010
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Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. I needed to read this.

Me: BGF 45
Him: WBF
DD#1 5/30/14
DD#2 6/7/14
DD#3 6/18/14
It looks like we are done 9/15/14.

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jul 2014
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Default  Posted: 3:38 AM, August 18th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a good read thank you.

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