I changed the locks, cancelled his name off all my credit cards, took the money out of our joint account, and shut off his cell phone.
He was pissed but too damn bad. OH and yes I saw a lawyer asap
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England
beenthere2? ♀ Member Member # 28554
Posted: 12:20 AM, July 14th (Saturday), 2012
I'd throw a keylogger onto the computer while he is gone. Can you gps his phone? Do you have access to the phone bill?Me: BW 34 Him: WH 36
Dday #1 5/15/10 claimed EA/just friends
#2 9/20/10 (admitted to kiss w/ same OW
#3 11/29/10 admitted to a lot more
Posts: 3966 | Registered: May 2010
Elaine2012 ♀ Member Member # 36099
Posted: 1:11 PM, July 14th (Saturday), 2012
I just got into his phone records last night and i now have two years worth of phone records. I really want to see next months bill that will have the days that I was out of town seeing my mother. A nice "birthday surprise" since she has terminal cancer. He had my DD make the plans and gave her dates that he thought would be goood. It was a 3 week trip. Nice surprise. He took a motorcycle trip while I was safely out of town where he met the OW. Based on his phone bills I only saw her number there in the last month. I'm tired of the electrice buzz feeling of dread that just stays with me ALL THE TIME.Me- 52
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 34 years; Sept 2012
Together 37 years
He doesn't want R.
In hindsight neither do I. For me adultery is a deal breaker!
4 adult DD's, 1 SIL, 3 grandchildren
Posts: 104 | Registered: Jul 2012
phoenix_vs ♀ Member Member # 29193
Posted: 10:25 PM, July 16th (Monday), 2012
The shock is all to familiar to me. One thing I acted on right away, was, ok, now it's all about my survival. Emotional, spiritual and physical. So, it's all about you, now. He changed the rules when he stepped over that line. Do whatever it takes to make sure you secure a future for yourself. And drink enough water, eat a little at a time, and try to get a little exercise. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Just know someone cares.
I'm not sad that you lied to me. I'm sad that I can never believe you again.