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Topic: I know this should bother me but somehow ..
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LS_Betrayed
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Member # 33697 |  Posted: 8:53 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 |     |
it just doesn't anymore. OW has been taking on more 'responsibility' for my kids ... she has had to drive them to sports etc, or cook for them, watch them on a Saturday while STBXWH works.
I don't love it, but a part of me is like, welcome to REALITY baby...
My SO is visiting next weekend, and OW and STBXWH have 100% responsibility for the kids... about time right?
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
WhiteWolfWinning
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Member # 12475 | | Posted: 9:05 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
About time, my dear.
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply, Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God
Thank you, Lord, for the lightness of my burdens
Posts: 8215 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: midwest |
LS_Betrayed
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Member # 33697 | | Posted: 10:12 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
I finally am getting some time to myself, and OW is finally getting the whole deal... ha ha ha
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
WarehouseGuy
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Member # 6037 | | Posted: 10:19 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
I'm sure my Ex's new soul mate never counted on a kid and 2 dogs when he decided to take on the role either--but tough shit--that's part of the package.
I'm glad you are getting some "me" time. You deserve it. 
WHG 
If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
Posts: 4570 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: Michigan |
persevere
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Member # 31468 | | Posted: 10:21 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Let her experience the "real deal" 
Because, while I adore my kids, teens can be annoying, difficult, contrary, etc....lol.
Enjoy LS
Me: BW-42
Him: XWH-42
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 3305 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas |
LS_Betrayed
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Member # 33697 | | Posted: 10:29 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Oh yes Persevere... I love mine, but yeah...
I pity her a little, she HAS to be nice (I can yell if I want)
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
persevere
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Member # 31468 | | Posted: 10:30 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
I pity her a little, she HAS to be nice (I can yell if I want) No kidding! But, hey, all choices have consequences baby....
Me: BW-42
Him: XWH-42
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
Posts: 3305 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas |
LS_Betrayed
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Member # 33697 | | Posted: 10:32 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
No kidding! But, hey, all choices have consequences baby....
yeppers
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
tryingagain74
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Member # 33698 | | Posted: 11:08 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Good! I'm glad to hear it! It's about time he shouldered some of the responsibility, and if she has to do so as well, even better.
Yeah, as much as the idea of having the OW take care of my three kids makes me feel ill, I also think, "Good luck, honey. I'm sure you'll think they're a blast when they're fighting every five minutes and shrieking loudly enough to wake the dead."
Enjoy your well-deserved free time. Go get a pedicure for me, would you? Boy, I would love one right now!
BS (Me) 38
Signed off and awaiting D papers!
Two DS and One DD
"Let us move on / For this is short / And it will pass." --Dido, "Let Us Move On"
Posts: 2525 | Registered: Oct 2011 |
LS_Betrayed
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Member # 33697 | | Posted: 11:17 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Exactly and they can use THEIR gas to drive my kids around....
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
LostandGuilty
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Member # 30493 | | Posted: 11:51 AM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
I hated that the OM used to watch my kids while my XWW was at work and they were at her house. Then one day, my DD called me up hysterical to come pick her up. She told me that she had a fight with her brother over chores and the OM was being mean. I talked her down and she calmed down some, but was still crying. She then said, "OM wants to talk to you" and handed me the phone before I could say anything. He sounded so in over his head with an 11-year old girl who is a little bit of a drama queen. I told him that I do not care about him and just put my daughter back on the phone. I had to drop some stiff off to her anyways, so I told her that I would be there in 10 minutes. When I got there she was better. I told her to go back inside and do her chores. She said that the OM already did them. She then said, "Daddy, I think that I scared OM." I did not let her see me, but I laughed on the way back to my house. I thought to myself that if he wanted my life, he finally has it. The difference is that I know how to handle MY kids and they would NEVER act like that to me.
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost
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DS (14)
DD (12)
Posts: 219 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: FL |
LS_Betrayed
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Member # 33697 | | Posted: 1:06 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
I did not let her see me, but I laughed on the way back to my house. I thought to myself that if he wanted my life, he finally has it. The difference is that I know how to handle MY kids and they would NEVER act like that to me.
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
Exit Wounds
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Member # 32811 | | Posted: 1:43 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 |  |
Just me, LS, just me...
Exit Wounds
"...some day you will meet a man that wants to be with you, he will go above and beyond to make you happy, there will be no guessing, no games, no bullshit." -Betrayal
Posts: 2148 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: SI Headquarters ; ) |
LS_Betrayed
♀ Member
Member # 33697 | | Posted: 1:51 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Just me, LS, just me...
???
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
LostandGuilty
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Member # 30493 | | Posted: 1:53 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Moody, cranky, bored, whining, fighting hormone-filled teenagers (and pre-teens) are exactly what the OPs were thinking about when they thought our lives were what they wanted to live. Right? I wonder why the relationships usually collapses within the year when "playing house" becomes real life.
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost
BH (34)
DS (14)
DD (12)
Posts: 219 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: FL |
LS_Betrayed
♀ Member
Member # 33697 | | Posted: 2:05 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Moody, cranky, bored, whining, fighting hormone-filled teenagers (and pre-teens) are exactly what the OPs were thinking about when they thought our lives were what they wanted to live. Right? I wonder why the relationships usually collapses within the year when "playing house" becomes real life.
I know and OW? She JUST got rid of her own--
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
Exit Wounds
♀ Member
Member # 32811 | | Posted: 2:12 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Just me, LS, just me...
???
That is me laughing my ass off about said whore using her gas, living the reality of what she fought so hard for
Exit Wounds
"...some day you will meet a man that wants to be with you, he will go above and beyond to make you happy, there will be no guessing, no games, no bullshit." -Betrayal
Posts: 2148 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: SI Headquarters ; ) |
LS_Betrayed
♀ Member
Member # 33697 | | Posted: 2:14 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
Love it EW...
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
Weatherly
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Member # 18222 | | Posted: 3:20 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
X and OW broke up, but the last several months I quit being bothered by it. She got my asshole ex, and had to babysit for me, for free, every other weekend, after late nights at work. This amused me a bit.
Me-28,Two boys, 9 and 7
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
Posts: 4311 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Indiana |
LS_Betrayed
♀ Member
Member # 33697 | | Posted: 3:21 PM, July 19th (Thursday), 2012 | |
LOL Weatherly... I try to look at it as pushing them forward to their eventual break up.
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Posts: 5018 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New England |
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