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User Topic: t/j - dating - share your w.t.f. moments
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, July 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I have to ask, was he Jim Carey or Jeff Daniels?

Me- 32
Happily engaged and moving on

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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, July 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@ chickastuff -- lol!

That's a good question. His physical look was much more Jeff Daniels but his talkativeness/neurotic energy was much more Jim Carey.

I let him know we were not a match (very gently) and we actually stayed in touch for awhile. He ended up in a relationship and then living with a woman a bit older than him, who had a place down near the beach.

I don't know what happened with the mobile dog grooming business, though.

BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
“I tramp a perpetual journey.”
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Um...wha? I wonder if that works on other 20-somethings? This 40-something is

I said pretty much the same thing to a very young pup who wasn't taking no for an answer. We met in the bar in my building where I have work drinks weekly. The first thing he said to me was "No ring? You must be divorced because there is NO WAY someone hasn't taken THIS off the market."... hand gestures up and down my body.

I laughed and asked him if this line had ever worked. He tried to act all shocked - what line??

The second question I asked was how old he was. 22. Like born in 1991.

I said "Dude, I've been impervious to these lines since before you were born."

He STILL tries it on every single time I see him - we've had to move to a new watering hole!

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 7:18 AM, July 24th (Wednesday)]

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I finally got one to stop when I told him I had a son his age

Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed

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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Finally found this thread -- it was on the last page and about to get bumped forever!

Most of my first dates lately have just been meh -- nothing great, but nothing to write about here, either.

Most WTF lately was probably the guy with whom I had not much in common, plus he was one of the most negative people I have ever met (possibly excluding XWH who has that crown.)

At the end of the night, he told me that he thought things were a little awkward (you think?) but that it takes several dates to know someone. Plus, since he doesn't have any friends, he'd really like to be mine. Desperate much? Even if I had been interested in a second date, that would have killed it.

I really need to get better at my pre-screening on OLD!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My most recent date "recently" ended his third marriage. His goal?? To get married again.

To each his own, but I am NOT getting married again ever. Seriously.

His follow up question: Since we are obviously looking for different "end games" did I see a FWB possibility?

I have no issues with FWB... but we would have to be FRIENDS!! Which in my mind takes longer than passion to develop.

Anyone surprised that I haven't heard from him since?

Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, October 21st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

haha, Care!

I'm not even dating yet, but I was looking forward to meeting my best friend's cousin who sounded AMAZING. Divorced dad, so cute, and looking for a serious relationship according to my friend.

Unfortunately then I stumbled upon his OLD profile. And I immediately saw that he obviously forgot to tell his cousin/my friend that he is most certainly NOT looking for a serious relationship!

Then I had to go and tell my friend I was stalking her cousin on Match! Now she thinks we're both crazy.

It was all just very awkward!

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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've only just dipped my toe in the OLD pool, and already got a weird message. He said hello, asked how are you? I replied, and asked how are you? lol... his response:

I have enjoyed the full moons lately. - lobo

Is that a howl I hear???

Too weird for me...

Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Some of the best of the worst of the OLD rouges gallery:

I received an angry diatribe for failing to respond to an intro message. Probably the longest string of curse words I'd ever seen I fully admit to being shallow enough to not EVER want to date an unemployed paranormal investigator.

Another OLD goodie was the gentleman looking for a woman who was willing to take medication to induce lactation so he could indulge his adult breastfeeding fetish. This is when I learned to never click links on OLD profiles. Somethings can't be unseen.

One of the most depressing was the guy who was old enough to be my grandfather who was looking for plus size women to model lingerie for him. In his profile he wore a dirty wife beater, and very clearly chose NOT to wear his dentures. He made it clear that I should be grateful for his interest making sure to tell me that "nobody else will want to touch your fat ass". ORLY?

Keep calm and carry on.

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Default  Posted: 2:01 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

this is to entertaining not to be bumped.

Be careful who you trust. Even your shadow will abandon you when it's dark.....

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Default  Posted: 3:10 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this thread. I kind of almost miss OLD just because of the entertainment value. C'est la vie, I'm sure I'll end up back there someday.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This happened many years ago but still a WTF moment

met a guy, seemed nice, decided to go to dinner. so I drive to his place since it's closer to the restaurant. just meet in the parking lot, I don't go inside. during dinner he starts talking about how he takes meds for panic attacks and he wants to get married and have kids. this is the first date mind you.

But I was young (and apparently pretty dumb) and thought "well, ok, he's being honest with me" but he seems nice soooooo........

date#2 again I drive to his place. meetup in parking lot. he drives to restaurant. we are waiting for a table when his PARENTS and SIBLINGS arrive!. Yep, they were there to meet "the nice girl" he was dating. He apparently told them we were getting serious and wanted them to meet me!! It turned out they were of a certain faith and were looking for a nice, young lady for their precious son. I told them I wasn't of their faith and they suddenly didn't like me so much...including him!

Ummm, yeah dude, had you asked me what faith I was I woulda told ya, but we hadn't really gotten that far into any relationship. If ya needed to know that so your parents would like your new bride, ask before any 1st date....

we drove back to his place after meeting-the-family-date-night. I tell him we aren't for each other, it won't work, blah, blah, blah.

He replied "the least you could have done is sleep with me before breaking up with me"

No more to be said after that, and I literally ran away. No joke....ran to my car. he tried calling a few times but I never answered/returned his calls. so grateful that he never learned where I lived.

Me: 45, him: 54
together 18 years
DDay1 March 2013, Dday2 April 27, 2013, Dday3 June 1, 2013
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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"the least you could have done is sleep with me before breaking up with me"

It never hurts to ask

Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been a while since I've seen this thread. I can't believe DCK had the chance to date a Ghostbuster and passed on it!

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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, February 1st (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oooo….I have another one to add: "Admonish Man", he is clearly in my "WTF?" file.

I was emailing with a new guy from OLD. He seemed OK, but I did get a little of an "hmmmm…." when we were emailing. Kept telling me how involved he was in church, was a little too negative about his ex, his emails were a tad too formal. It was enough that I was a tad concerned, but tried to "push through it" to meet him. After all, it is hard to judge people via email alone.

We scheduled a phone date, and in person meet up for the day after the phone date. I emailed him that morning and said I was headed out to garden…to which he replied, "I hope you get dirty, hot and sweaty". I decided to end the "relationship" at that moment. I was just getting too creeped out by his emails.

So, I ended it via email and told him that I was no longer interested and wished him well.

By that night I received a 3 paragraph email where "I should admonish you for leading me on". (btw, admonish means to punish severely)
Then he started texting me basically the same. Both which he received crickets from me.

My BFF bought me a taser for Christmas after "Admonish Man".

me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First date last night. Off of OLD, so I've never met the guy. We've only barely e-mailed and not talked on the phone. I've found that I don't want to invest much time before I actually meet the guy as I really need to judge chemistry in person.

He's picking the place and asks me to meet him in the parking lot of a grocery store in town. I figure it's because it's near a lot of bars and he wants to be able to walk me to my car after and/or not have me have to walk a few blocks to meet.

We meet, and I ask him where we're going.

He replies: "Right here. Since we both like to cook, I thought we could go grocery shopping and then cook dinner."

Me: "At your place?"

Red pants guy: "Well, yeah...wherever" (Where else? It's negative 10 degrees outside so it's not like we could go to a park.)

Me: "I really don't feel comfortable going to your place when we've never met. Let's go to a bar or restaurant."

He was just shocked that I wasn't ok with this! Also, a lady just got murdered in my town by her boyfriend that she meet off of OLD (they'd been together a month or two, but still.)

And he was wearing red pants.

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And he was wearing red pants.


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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's from California originally, so red pants might be more common there. It's just not seen much here, and I live in a very liberal college area.

Actually, his shirt was paisley purple and he kept talking about bands I'd never heard of (and I know a lot of obscure bands) so hipster might be the right descriptor!

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Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Californian here - RED pants are not the norm here!!

LOL just needed to clarify that.

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Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, February 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This thread had me chuckling

I was set up on a blind date once. I pulled into the pub car park where we’d arranged to meet, middle of the week, very quiet and he pulls up next to me. He beckoned me to get into his car, so I went over, opened the door and he asked if we could just sit in his car and chat until he’d finished his cigarette and then go into the pub. I reluctantly did. He started to tell me how his ex was a psycho, how she couldn’t have done better than him (flash house, flash car) and all he expected was that she was home for 5pm for his dinner to be ready…. And the ironing done… and the cleaning….. How it really wasn’t too much to ask… how the psycho could never do as well as him and her new bloke was a loser…

I wasn’t liking how the conversation was going so said

Me: “shall we go into the pub now?”
Him: do you mind if we don’t?
Me: I thought were going to have something to eat?
Him: I can’t
Me: urm why not?
Him: because look I haven’t got any socks on (wtf!!)

I was trying to think of some sort of reply when my phone rang,, it was my sister who was babysitting so I apologised and said I had to take the call. When I’d finished he asked who it was and immediately went on to say it had better not had been a man because when you’re in a relationship you shouldn’t have males calling you and was I sure it was my sister and he’d not be happy if I was lying to him, he even took the phone off me to look at the call log!

I was sort of speechless by this point and then he asks what I want to do next and that he doesn’t see the point in spending lots of money and time on dates if you’re not sexually compatible in the end, it’s just a waste of money and his time so he prefers to have sex asap to get it out of the way (speechless again) I declined his generous offer, in a nice way because I was sort of wondering if he was taking the piss!

He then said “ok well are you going now?”
Me: Going where?
Him: Home to think about it
Me: think about what?
Him: think about if we’re in a relationship or not!!!

I told him it didn’t work like that, you go on dates and progress to a relationship, so he said “oh well girls in (his town) must be different to girls in (my town!)

I told him yes I was going so he said he’d call me later to see if we were in a relationship or not…. and he did call me too!!! By the time I’d got home I came up with all of the things that I should have said to him so told him over the phone. He gave me a whole load of abuse, said I was worse than his ex psycho and how he’d had a very lucky escape, good luck to me because I needed it and he could understand why I was single

Shortest date ever though, can’t have been more than 10-15 minutes

BS (me): 44
WH: 44
DD: Dec 2009 but let him rugsweep

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