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Topic: 4 1/2 months out and WH tells me his sexual fantasy..
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Angelstar5
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Member # 35276 |  Posted: 6:33 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 |     |
yeah we were in bed "ahem" talking sexual fantasies. And his was me and another girl and him (threesome)..i nonchalantly said "what would you do?" He said "take turns with you both"
Why are some WHs so stupid? Seriously? I mean duh, i know most men have that fantasy but a man with two brain cells should probably KNOW NOT to say THAT to a BS who is still REALLY REALLY REALLY PISSED OFF AT HIM. 
Oh and then he said "i might like to share you too, i've always been curious" omg good lord please don't let that make his bucket list!
dumbasshat.
Me 47,WH 46 alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
Posts: 738 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Fort Worth TX |
Heavy Sigh
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Member # 34243 |  Posted: 6:41 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
Tell him people in hell want ice water, too, but they aren't gonna get it. 
But yeah, telling your wife about fantasies of sex with another woman after your wife's caught you cheating isn't the brightest of ideas.
Perhaps you should have him undergo a brain scan, because with this level of judgment he's shown with this comment, I think there is evidence to suggest he could qualify for disability checks based on mental impairment.
Posts: 1799 | Registered: Dec 2011 |
Jrazz
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Member # 31349 | | Posted: 7:48 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
Ugh - that guy has the emotional sensitivity of a turnip. I'm so sorry.
(((Angelstar5)))
BS - Ok ok... I'm 34!
FWH - 32 (Crazz)
If the love within your mind is lost and you see other beings as enemies, then no matter how much knowledge or education or material comfort you have, only suffering and confusion will ensue. - Dalai Lama
Posts: 8983 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California |
wolf_heart
♀ Member
Member # 35262 | | Posted: 8:14 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
Mine told me that 3 some fantasy and that it was the OW's too before I found out about the A. After all she was "helping" him with our marriage at the time. Never trust a spouse and a close friend, NEVER!
Married 26 years
BW: Me, 46
WH: 46
DDay#2: March 8th, 2012, with one of my good friends.
DDay#1: Oct. 20th 1992, 2 years post PA
Attempting R
Without honesty, loyalty, and commitment; saying you love someone, simply means nothing.
Posts: 215 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Southwestern Area of USA |
LostMyPrince
♀ Member
Member # 29412 | | Posted: 8:28 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
Tell him you want a threesome too..you and 2 guys, and he is not one of them.. tell him he'll be sitting in the corner wearing a dunce hat and a sign that says DUMBASS.
Sometimes mascara is the only thing that keeps a girl from breaking down.
Posts: 72 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: New Jersey |
Williesmom
♀ Member
Member # 22870 | | Posted: 9:01 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
I think your sexual fantasy should be to punch him in the balls.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
Posts: 5505 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA |
Angelstar5
♀ Member
Member # 35276 | | Posted: 9:06 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
ok each of these made me laugh. thanks except wolfhearts, that sucked for you!  [This message edited by Angelstar5 at 9:07 PM, August 18th (Saturday)]
Me 47,WH 46 alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
Posts: 738 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Fort Worth TX |
hitbyatruck
♀ Member
Member # 23769 | | Posted: 9:07 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
Tell him you want a threesome too..you and 2 guys, and he is not one of them.. tell him he'll be sitting in the corner wearing a dunce hat and a sign that says DUMBASS.
agreed!
Married 1998
2 kids under 12,
forced confession by WH 3/27/09
he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10.
I am leaning twds R 9/12/10
He moved back in 9/25/10, We are in R.
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Posts: 3036 | Registered: Apr 2009 |
Feelthrownaway
♀ Member
Member # 33772 | | Posted: 9:56 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
That is a f*cked up thing to tell a wife that you betrayed. I agree he is an asshat for saying it.
Posts: 828 | Registered: Oct 2011 |
Nature_Girl
♀ Member
Member # 32554 | | Posted: 10:41 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
Sounds to me like what he's really telling you is that he wants an open/swinging marriage.
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = WS (abusive NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
Separated & Divorcing
Posts: 5035 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA |
tinysteps
♀ Member
Member # 36104 | | Posted: 10:47 PM, August 18th (Saturday), 2012 | |
Ugghhhh! Dumbass is right.
BS-Me (48)
WH-Him (54)
M-12yrs Together 15 years
D'Day April 20, 2012
On the R Rollercoaster
How will see the great things ahead of us if we keep looking back at the bad things behind us?
Posts: 83 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: My heart is at the beach |
Angelstar5
♀ Member
Member # 35276 | | Posted: 1:59 AM, August 19th (Sunday), 2012 | |
nature girl, i'd say yes, but ummmm not if my legs are open for anyone but another girl  I think he'd have a coronary if he knew i was with another man...
now THERE'S a thought! 
Me 47,WH 46 alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
Posts: 738 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Fort Worth TX |
Jesu
♂ Member
Member # 36422 | | Posted: 7:19 AM, August 19th (Sunday), 2012 | |
I think that's most guys fantasy...
Me: BSO 38
Her: WSO 28
Together: 8 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
DD#2: September 9th 2012 (The day after my birthday)
PA: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA up until DD
R: ??
Posts: 410 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Oz |
Twigs323
♀ Member
Member # 34055 | | Posted: 7:34 AM, August 19th (Sunday), 2012 | |
How about this fantasy?
A woman who has seen him through thick and thin, addiction and betrayal, and still stays with him.
He keeps it up this may be his permanent fantasy.
Asshole.
Me/BS, 53 Him/WS, 49 Dday Aug 2011
Us - Reconciling, married 20 years
3 kids DD29, DS18, DS15
This is a really short ugly chapter in a really long great book.
Posts: 1429 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: CT |
zaci
♀ Member
Member # 36138 | | Posted: 10:03 AM, August 19th (Sunday), 2012 | |
I know almost pretty much every guy thinks this at some point but I think if they are really into the 3some thing they should bring it up on the first date so you have a good chance to run if you want. Not a smart thing to bring up if you just had an A. I like LMP and Wmom ideas....LOL.
ME : BS 35
HIM : WH 49
MARRIED 7YRS TOGETHER 12 YRS
3 KIDS AGED 6,3&9 mo.
DDAY: JUNE 2012 (he confessed to 1xPA with some hoebag extraordinaire who lived next to the house he was roofing LAST SUMMER when i was 7 mo preggs).
Posts: 68 | Registered: Jul 2012 |
Angelstar5
♀ Member
Member # 35276 | | Posted: 4:49 PM, August 19th (Sunday), 2012 | |
yeah, after a few days i'm finding it kind of funny in a pissed off sort of way. I know he isnt asking me to do that, and isnt asking me if its alright to pursue the fantasy,and that yes, it is pretty much every mans fantasy, but it just makes me go HUH that a grown man with a decent IQ could be so completely STUPID to say THAT after just having an A.
If he brings it up again, I might have to tell him my fantasy is meeting Lorena Bobbitt and asking her how exactly was it she got off with a slap on the wrist..i need to refresh my memory.
Me 47,WH 46 alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
Posts: 738 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Fort Worth TX |
Jesu
♂ Member
Member # 36422 | | Posted: 8:37 PM, August 19th (Sunday), 2012 | |
it just makes me go HUH that a grown man with a decent IQ could be so completely STUPID to say THAT after just having an A.
Oh yeah, you are completely right, he is definitely an idiot...
Me: BSO 38
Her: WSO 28
Together: 8 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
DD#2: September 9th 2012 (The day after my birthday)
PA: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA up until DD
R: ??
Posts: 410 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Oz |
why2008
♀ Member
Member # 18378 | | Posted: 11:21 PM, August 19th (Sunday), 2012 | |
I think your sexual fantasy should be to punch him in the balls.
Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 8 and 5
Posts: 4035 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Maryland / DC |
LonelyHusband
♂ Member
Member # 34145 | | Posted: 8:57 AM, August 20th (Monday), 2012 | |
I think your sexual fantasy should be to punch him in the balls.
And tell him you'd like to take turns with kicking and punching them.
BS ( me) 41
fWS (OktoberMest) 35
D day #1 29/10/2011, D day #2 15/112011, D day #3 15/03/2012
Reconciling.
“It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”, is inadequate consolation when you vacuum up a child's hamster'
Posts: 1216 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: UK |
2married2quit
♂ Member
Member # 36555 | | Posted: 9:01 AM, August 20th (Monday), 2012 | |
He's still in the clouds. Mine said the same thing about me and the OM in bed with her taking turns. Sounds like fun, but after what happened and during this time of pain, certainly not a good fantasy.
If he would come down from the clouds he would see how offensive that thought is to you right at this moment. Least he was honest though.
BS - Me Age 42
WS - Her - Age 40
DDAY - 6/6/12 (found the texts)
DDAY2 - 6/7/12 (found out who) EA
TT- till 9/13/12 (some PA)
Real NC started 9/13/12
Married 22yrs. 2kids - 18/12
Status: Finally in Reconciliation mode and making slow progress.
Posts: 518 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA |
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