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User Topic: Premium Access
mom of 2
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Member # 11214
Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, November 15th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What if I want to pay/sponsor other members a premium access but don't know who needs it? I would like to dedicate a certain amount of money (in honor of unicornsearcher ) to sponsor a few other's memberships. But I have no idea who needs it.

And I don't know how to find the "link in their profile". Sorry, I'm a dumbass.


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13286 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, November 16th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((mom of 2)))

Thats really sweet of you

I'll bring this to the Moderators and I bet we can come up with a few names that would benefit from a sponsorship. I'll PM you later today and give you the opportunity to pick the one you want to sponsor

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 6:40 AM, November 16th (Friday)]


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196272 | Registered: May 2002
mom of 2
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Member # 11214
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, November 16th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That would be great. Thank you! And I figured out how to sponsor someone (through their profile) so that's good. Just awaiting a pm when you have a chance.

edited for clarity

[This message edited by mom of 2 at 5:22 PM, November 16th (Friday)]


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13286 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
SoyLatte
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Member # 37634
Default  Posted: 4:15 AM, November 29th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I have to have 51 posts, then make a contribution?

I wish I could have access after a contribution but before 51 posts. It's in the beginning we need the investigation info.


Me: BS, 50
Him: WH, 49, serial cheater and compulsive liar, possible SA and NPD
Married 17 years, together 26
3 kids: 10, 13, and 15
Was afraid to confront while overseas, now home safely and can decide next step

Posts: 246 | Registered: Nov 2012
TarnishedSilver
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Member # 37166
Default  Posted: 5:38 AM, December 17th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I made a donation the first week I became a member of SI. I have 75 post now and was interested in gaining Premium Access but it says I must upgrade now and donate again?


Me-BS (47)
Him-WH (48)
Married 26 years together 31
2 teenagers
Dday #1- 2/20/2011
Dday #2- 1/08/2012

Healing myself is now my top priority.


Posts: 156 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: USA
heartathome
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Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, December 17th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just posted after a 4 month absence from SI. Now it says I only have made 1 topic post. Will that increase after I upgrade (which I will do anyway) by taking account of my posting history since joining? (Never mind; I see the "86 posts" now!)

I DO have a legitimate question? Will anything be sent to the address I use when I complete the upgrade form? I use a US address for credit card transactions, but I don't live there and don't want any mail going there. Thanks!

Also, has cccc20 upgraded yet, as I'd like to sponsor him?

[This message edited by heartathome at 6:28 AM, December 17th (Monday)]


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
Deeply Scared
♀ Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, December 17th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TarnishedSilver...

While we certainly appreciate your original donation, this is a seperate process that requires a credit card to upgrade your profile to which ever level you prefer


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196272 | Registered: May 2002
Deeply Scared
♀ Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, December 17th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

heartathome...

Will anything be sent to the address I use when I complete the upgrade form?

Nothing from us is mailed to anyone that upgrades. The only thing you would see is your credit card statement with a line item of "SI Online"


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196272 | Registered: May 2002
justdontno
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, December 17th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I Have a question I realize should probably be asked in the investigate forum. I'm not sure if I'm reading this correct our not, I was registered before the premium access changed but dint have 51 posts so do I just need the post numbers or do I need to party also? The way I'm reading it it sounds like if I was registered before I don't have to pay? Just curious i don't want to post my question that can't be answered here. Funds are really tight for me thus month so I need to know what I'm looking at here.

Posts: 29 | Registered: Jun 2012
justdontno
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, December 17th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I Have a question I realize should probably be asked in the investigate forum. I'm not sure if I'm reading this correct our not, I was registered before the premium access changed but dint have 51 posts so do I just need the post numbers or do I need to party also? The way I'm reading it it sounds like if I was registered before I don't have to pay? Just curious i don't want to post my question that can't be answered here. Funds are really tight for me thus month so I need to know what I'm looking at here.

Posts: 29 | Registered: Jun 2012
heartathome
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Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 4:38 AM, December 18th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DS - thank you.
I'll also wait for your reply on if I can upgrade cccc20, or if he's done it already.
Thanks, again.


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
UndecidedinMA
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Member # 33732
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, December 19th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i tried to use cc and it keeps saying - error in processing. Is it my comp or is the system down?


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 980 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
heartathome
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Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, December 20th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Undecided - I had that same problem, twice. Then, I logged out and it worked. Maybe see if that works for you.


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
heartathome
♀ Member
Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, December 20th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DS - is my Profile page suppose to look different now or have new links? Also, when I linked to the form to upgrade, it had $49.20 pre-filled. I assumed that, with tax, the total would come to over $50 and I would have the full Platinum benefits, so I left it at that amount. How long does it take to activate?

Thanks.


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
Deeply Scared
♀ Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, December 20th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

heartathome...

We don't show that your account was upgraded and we didn't receive a payment coming from your profile.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 196272 | Registered: May 2002
devastatedNtx
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Member # 37819
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, December 23rd (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have the same question as another... I upgraded and I'm curious why there needs to be 51 posts before gaining access to investigate forum. As a new BS, this would be so helpful to have access to. Can you clarify reason why?

Posts: 74 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Grapevine, TX
Jrazz
♀ Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, December 23rd (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

**Responding as a member.

I wanted to reach out in regards to the last question because I had the same one when I first joined, and it makes more sense to me now.

Deeply Scared will have a MUCH better answer for this than I do, but it's my understanding that waiting until 51 posts kinda helps preserve the nature of the website.

I wanted IT help right away as well, but in retrospect it made sense to me that you need to establish your legitimacy in the community for a bit before trading information that could be considered sensitive on some level. The whole point of SI is to heal, and while that may very well mean getting help to uncover how far your betrayal goes, we wouldn't want you getting information from someone else who recently registered and may not be here for all the right reasons.

It's my understanding that the wait period is put in place to protect YOU and everyone who honestly needs help.

Like I said, DS will likely have a more complete and detailed explanation. I just wanted to lend my observation from the almost 2 years I've been here.


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

Posts: 16277 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
devastatedNtx
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Member # 37819
Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, December 23rd (Sunday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jrazz... Thank you for responding... I understand what you are saying and it makes sense to me. I was also thinking it is probably better that I try to heal more before I obsess about investigating. I am trying..

Posts: 74 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Grapevine, TX
PanicAttack53
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Member # 34195
Default  Posted: 5:07 AM, January 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To MH,

Not a biggie but just wanted to let you know that there is a typo on the upgrade page. It's at the bottom of the initial explanation text above the form. It currently reads:

However refunds are non-refundable and non-transferable after processing.

I think it should read:

However upgrades are non-refundable and non-transferable after processing.

Again, not a biggie but just wanted to let you know.

P.s. my 6th grade English teacher would be so proud of me right now.


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 60 | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 868 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
Deeply Scared
♀ Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, January 6th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks PanicAttack!!!

MH just corrected it...we sure do appreciate you pointing that out


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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