I don't think the bar scene is the place to go to meet a potential partner, although I don't do online dating either. I am going out to some bars with friends this weekend although I'm staying sober so at least I will be able to monitor for sleaziness! I think of bars as being somewhere to go to have fun with friends and dance, not to meet men.
This raises an interesting question though, when you're over 30 where do you go to meet people?
All my male friends tell me that the single guys they know stay home playing video games, which does not bode well for my non-OLD dating future :) I'm 35.
I have made a ton of female friends and married male friends through activities -- volunteering, running, etc. However, it seems like most guys who do those things are attached.
My friends (like 10-15 of them) have all told me that the single guys in my age range they know are single for a reason and they wouldn't set up their worst enemies with them (some friend endorsement!)
I don't know. It's weird. I've been open to a relationship for about 8 months now, but keep hitting dead ends on OLD and no ends in real life! I know tons of single, intelligent, attractive ladies, but all of the intelligent, attractive guys I know are taken! Yet I am an optimist at heart and still hope to find one someday. "They" always say it happens when you least expect it.
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
If I am at a bar, and I am a good person, don't over drink, etc. Then there must be male counterparts that are good in the bar also.
I agree! I'm not a bar person per se but I have gone recently. I've enjoyed the karaoke, and I was hit on by both a woman and a young guy.
I don't drink alcohol, but I do like to dance.
Some strange dude walks up to her in a grocery store parking lot and says "You wanna see me pull an elephant out of my pants?"
To which she coolly replied, "I don't know, you wanna see ME pull a .45 out of my purse??"
She said he damn near ran the other direction..
Divorce final 2/10/14.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.
I hate sleazy/cheesy pick up lines but I have to admit the funny ones do work on me. Charm goes a long way.
Best, most successful pick up line? "Hi, I'm James" (use your real name). I generally talk to any guy who talks to me - as long as they don't do anything stupid or rude. I've been known to chat guys up myself.
Chats sometimes it turn into dates - sometimes it's just a really nice conversation. I actually had a guy come over and compliment me on not being rude to the guys talking to me. I don't get why women are rude - my girlfriends do it and it makes me cringe. Give the guy a break, he is just having a chat.
I don't give off a fuck me vibe or a fuck off vibe. I'm aiming for that sweet spot somewhere in between.
The best way to meet people is through friends of friends or via a chatty friend like me. I've set up a few of my GFs in their current relationships. All great guys (one great girl too!).