Oh my, the things she did.
The ones that take the cake are:
1) I had just slept at around 11:30 PM, a day before exW's B'day and I hear this roar of an exhaust. It was OM and he had come to collect exW for a suprise cake cutting ceremony. I hear exW's phone ring and she is pleasantly suprised in her other room.
In a minute I hear loud banging on my room's door. We slept apart as I knew about he A but not confronted yet.
I opened the door half in sleep and she told me take care of DS as she was going to office as there was an urgent issue and she had got a call that her team has reached office already.
I told her since the team is already there she can direct them from home, why go at this unearthly hour to office ? She didn't reply but started to get ready and put on some clothes took her company badge to fool me.
I told her point blank that take the DS where ever you are going. She looked at me puzzled and told me in a rude way "Why have I kept you in the house then if you can't take care of DS ?".
I did not reply and closed the door and pretended to go back to sleep.
She took out the car with DS, and zoomed off. Buy this time OM was making rounds in the neighborhood with his overly loud exhaust.
In the juggle she left her hand purse at home and I conveniently went through the shopping receipts and gathered time stamps (she was supposed to be at office all those times). Got her secret telephone number (The SIM card holder was still in her purse with IMEI information) Took a note of that etc.
She came back with DS at 12:30 AM with a cake which was cut, some red roses and a gift.
I wished her happy birthday and got no response. I asked her if her office folks had planned this event then they should know that you are not single and you have a family. Got crickets. As I was leaving, exW got a call from OM and she said everything is fine and she was a little scared. I went back to sleep.
Woke up the next morning and left early to office. She was getting too late from office so I locked the gate in front of my house so that she calls me up or calls my name to open the gate. Nothing of that sort happened. I heard OM's car. Apparently OM got out, helped her with the gifts and getting her over the fence. By the time she entered the house it was 11:30 PM and she had a lot of shopping bags, red roses, bouquet of flowers, cake, and dresses. Ohh I forgot to mention she wore a dress brought by OM the previous night to office on her B'day.
Then ExW returned the calls she missed during the day to her family members and told them that she had a fantastic B'day.
When her elder sister called to wish her, her sister asked what I had got exW. ExW said I didn't even make plans for her B'day. She told the cops later I did not wish her on her B'day. Liar.
2) I was picking up DS from his pre-school and noticed OM's car parked in a neighboring parking lot. ExW and OM were sitting inside and watching me pick up DS and leave for home with DS. I guess they were making sure I was with DS and at home, so that they could proceed with their evening plans undisturbed.
3) Every Saturday she went to work. One day she left her office badge (required for entry in the office premises) deeply and neatly hidden in her laptop bag. She came that day at around 9:30 PM. Later on PI told me she was at OM's place the whole day.
4) One Sunday she was cooking and OM came by in the afternoon to pick up his packed lunch from my house. I was in my room letting PI gather evidence.
The same evening she tells me she needs to go out. I told her take DS with you as I have a cold and don't want DS to catch it and I want to visit the doctor's clinic as well. She gets pissed and leaves with DS. An hour later I hear OM's loud car near the neighborhood and OM and ExW are playing with DS around the corner. I am filled with rage. I took out my bike to break his neck but ExW alerted OM and he made a run for it. I had to act as if I was going some place else. I couldn't even follow OM and break his jaw at the first signal he encountered. Sigh! God has been so kind to OM.
5) Of course the most dirty trick she played was to falsely complain to her parents about my false erratic behavior so as to justify and initiate a planned divorce. She planned to torture me with her behavior and frustrate me into a quick divorce so that she could marry OM on a pre planned date of 03/19/2013.
She would get all assets, alimony and CS. Her plan also included to get OM to D OBS by taking care of OM to show him who really deserves to be with OM. She did everything possible. Cooked for him, slept with him whenever he called her to his place, gave him lap dances on his request, followed up with OM's doctor's appointments etc.
She is left with a D, A exposed to the whole of the office, exposed it to her sisters and brother.
The best part is OBS is back from her 180 and OM is living with OBS and hasn't left OBS and doesn't plan to. OBS is equipped with the laws of the land for DV and mental torture, neglectful behavior towards kids etc.
ExW lost it all. Poor thing.