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User Topic: Any BS regret divorcing?
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope, I never once regretted it. I won't lie - there were times I questioned if it was the right thing to do - but our lives are so much better now. I'm glad I did it.

And yes, ex-asshat is still an NPDish nimrod - he ignores half the banana bunch, irritates and upsets the other half and hasn't paid CS in about four years.

Even so, our lives still rock and never would have if I'd stayed with him.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15415 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No regrets about divorcing here. I know without a doubt that I did everything I could to try to save the marriage. But one person can't save a marriage by themselves.

and 3 years down the line, my life is a lot different than it used to be, and I'm a lot happier.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12166 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
hastostopright
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not for one second. I am not saying that I donít get sad and miss what I thought I once had and know that I have a long way to go but I do not regret it for one second. I continually tell myself Ė I may not be where I want to be yet but it sure beats the hell she put me and my family through.


Me: BS 37
M: 2008
Multiple affairs
One Beatiful Child
D: 2012

Posts: 70 | Registered: Jan 2012
better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Resounding "No" here also.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3209 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Things are tough right now, both financially and with the kids' adapting and coping with the changes in their lives. And yet my answer (and theirs, by the way) is a resounding NO - no regrets.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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lux444
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Life is so much better now so no.


Cheat On A Good Woman and Karma Will Make Sure You End Up With The Bitch You Deserve!

Posts: 116 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Never Never Land
Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NO.

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need_hope
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No. No regret about divorcing him.


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.


Posts: 1741 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast
tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NOPE! In fact, I'm rather enjoying being free of his bullshit.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Eranda
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me. Seriously.


My Blog: http://allofthewaystohell.com/

Posts: 4229 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: eastern PA
NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No regrets. He did me a favor by cheating, because he was an ass to be married to, and I would have stuck it out and tried to make it work if he hadn't given me that out.


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15291 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NO! I only regret I held on so long working hard for R while he was having a grand ole NPD party. I should have divorced in 2004 after the first Dday!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

no regrets
Another ex who is NPD so if I rode that crazy train it would just derail a few years later and I would have been physically injured (either STDs, being physically abused, or worse)

I disembarked when it was in the "A-station"

Sad to depart because I thought the end journey was a perfect M (it wasn't) but it's better then crashing later


Posts: 500 | Registered: Jun 2012
soverybetrayed
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely NO! It wasn't until I walked away that I could see just how much abuse I had taken in trying to keep him happy in the marriage. I will never regret leaving a liar, cheater and wife abusing husband. I may have been able to get over the cheating but would never have gotten past the threats to hit or kill me. My exnpdwh will forever be a drunk, wife beating, serial cheater and he will only get worse with age. I feel sorry for the next woman that he sucks into his pit of souless npdism. She will be physically abused as well as emotionally and verbally abused.


Me-53
DDay 10/16/2010 DDay2 5/22/2011
Divorced 8/23/2012
I will get stronger and better but no matter where he goes, there he is....

Posts: 1208 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Texas
veritas
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After forgetting how much of a nimrod he is and having to deal with him today because he claims to want to settle... hell to the naw! He did, however, put me in check, which caused me to recheck all of my calculations. The piddling amount he acted the donkey over is 10 times less than what I am entitled to. I look forward to thanking him.


Actions unmask what words disguise.
Love many; trust few; and always paddle your own canoe.
When you win, you teach; when you lose, you learn.

Posts: 10168 | Registered: Feb 2004
iamasurvivor
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't have much choice! He walked out on his family and never looked back.

I have found it hard at times to believe that I was married for 25 years to a man who thoughts so little of his family.

It has not been easy, but now that I now what kind of person he really is, I am much better off. After he left I have found out many details and did not have any regrets when I filed.

Someday I hope to say that I am really happy!

He did give me two great kids. They have made everything I have gone thru so worth it.


I will come out stronger!

Posts: 254 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: iowa
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, December 3rd (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No. He was sucking the life out of me. I feel sad for my kids (and in the early days, I was tempted to stay just for them), but I know that they would have grown up in a very unhappy household had we attempted to stay together.

I feel like I can breathe again, and the day when my D is final can't come soon enough!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3620 | Registered: Oct 2011
clralb
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Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, December 4th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, I had no choice, he was with someone else and not coming back.
I regret not divorcing earlier but I was so committed to the marriage and to being a martyr in the marriage, i didn't consider it.

^^^^THIS^^^


"To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear."
Buddha

Posts: 681 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: southeast
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 1:04 AM, December 4th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wasn't married to the dipshit, (thank GOD!) but I will never regret that moment when I finally came to my senses.

I was cooking dinner, he was ragging on my ass about yet another minor detail that (in his opinion) was all my fault. I shut off the stove, looked at him, and said "I can't do this anymore, you need to leave".

He was here for about another month until he got off his butt and found another place to live - and that was a month of NPD, PA hell, but he finally did move out. He didn't have much choice....I had listened to my gut and NOT married him. I didn't let him pressure me into putting his name on the deed to my house, and I was in the position to tell him to get the f out.

I am sooo sorry I didn't do it years sooner! My life is so much better without him!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, December 4th (Tuesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My XH was emotionally abusive. I am grateful every day that I am free- that I no loner walk on eggshells in order to please someone who had me convinced that I was shit because HE could never be happy.

Being cheated on after years of abuse may have felt at first like adding insult to injury, but the truth is if he had not gotten bored of me and moved onto someone else, I might still be his victim.


Keep calm and carry on.

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