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User Topic: Repost - Intimacy in healthy relationship
Silentthoughts
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, September 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow great post. gotta print.


WW - early 50s (me)
BH - late 40s
3 grown children
Married 25 years
Online cyber sex dec 2010. I got caught late dec 2010. Lying and TT until full disclosure jan 2011.
In R we both are committed to staying in this M.

Posts: 76 | Registered: Aug 2013
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, September 20th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1134 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 4:26 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2596 | Registered: Aug 2012
HollyLou
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, November 7th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a newbie BS- and this was very interesting. I see both myself and my WS floating inbetween these states throughout our M. Thanks.


BW, 45
WH, 48
D-Day 10/30/13
M: 17 yrs
2 DDs 15, 13
Status: ??

Posts: 21 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: MA
LA44
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just found this. Thanks to Beach for starting it. Glad it was bumped a few times! Will share with H.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2305 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced 8/5/14


Posts: 1361 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:20 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

bump


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2596 | Registered: Aug 2012
Kap12
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing!

Posts: 61 | Registered: Dec 2013
Kap12
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for sharing!

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Prayingforhope
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, January 5th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Going to carry this with me! It might come in handy if my BS ever gives me a second chance...


WH 41
BS 40
D-Day Oct 28th, 2013
Together 18 years
Three amazing boys 12, 9 & 6
Praying for hope daily

Posts: 260 | Registered: Dec 2013
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2596 | Registered: Aug 2012
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, March 23rd (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can identify myself in the dysfunctional honesty before and during the A. But can also relate to the healthy honesty since Dday.

BH is in the dysfunctional intimacy categories for everything, those paragraphs are like reading about him. Not sure what to do with that information now.


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - 01/10 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
SurprisinglyOkay
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, May 5th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bump


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1134 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
Actionsoverwords
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, May 6th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I check off all of the boxes on the dysfunctional side of the requirements for healthy intimacy.

Having a check list for the healthy side of the equation is very helpful. Thank you for the repost.


Me: WH, 30's
Her : BW, 30's, (determinata)
Children: An amazing son.
I am a sex addict, working on myself, and facing the wreckage of my actions.



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