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User Topic: Who is wondering about folks we haven't seen in a while?
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have. *Waving hand in the air*

I wondered about LisaBrandNew and Marzi.

Is there somewhere in the forums that tell you who has been banned and why so that I don't make the same mistake.

I mostly lurk in D/S and NB.
I would also like to know if there is a way that you can follow certain posters.
It seems like some posters get way more responses than I do when I post.

Just wondering.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1422 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

banned and why so that I don't make the same mistake

Lola,

Basically, what I have found is that if you treat people with respect, respect their opinions and respectfully disagree when appropriate without making personal attacks you will be OK. Also don't talk politics or religion. If you have a question just ask for a Mod and they will help you.

I've been disappointed too that many of my posts don't receive too many comments, although the best was when I only got a few hugs when I was really triggering. Those hugs meant more than a dozen opinions that day.

I've heard that if you put "TMI", "sex" or "off the bus" in your title it will attract a lot of attention


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
smokeandmirrors
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't been on for awhile and just came on today because I found a very helpful quote from my therapist I wanted to post in JFO.

I lurked more than I posted. Same story as most of you. 34 year marriage down the tubes. D final 2 years ago. I'm very comfortable by myself, a bit lonely but enjoying solitude. Tried web dating for 3 months and had zero dates. When you're over 60 and female, it's slim pickens. It's truly a couples world...even some of my girlfriends aren't as close because they spend weekends with spouses or sig others.

Just became a grandma, and put my house on the market last week to move closer to my daughter and new DGS.

I think what I enjoyed most was all the cute quotes and taglines. I made a journal list of them all and still read them on low days. Some of you are pretty good writers, and all were good friends when I needed some. Thanks.

Quote I'm putting on FJO: "Every moment that you spend upset, despaired, anguished, angry or gurt because of the behavior of anybody else in your life is a moment in which you've given up control of your life."


I am the master of my universe. It may be small right now, but it's mine, all mine.

Posts: 307 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: The beginning of my future
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks gahurts!!

Sometimes I just respond to lonely posts that I see sitting with no responses. Even if I don't have anything very helpful to say.

This all sucks and I give what support I can.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1422 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lola-read the Guidelines and the pinned notes at the top of each forum. From those resources you can glean most of the information that will keep you from getting banned. Also, if you feel anything is questionable, you can always request a PM from a mod before you post.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20292 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
sad12008
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Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not in a NB, but I realized there hasn't been anything from Crossbow in a while....maybe just really busy with the baby?


You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

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Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Sad.

I'm a follow the rules kind of girl and I ask so that I don't cross the line.

I read the Guidlines and of course there is the NO POLITICS right up at the top of this post screen.

I was just wondering if some of the poofers have actually been banned and if there is a list of those that have been banned to warn everyone to mind their P's and Q's.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1422 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Neither Lost333 nor DontTreadOnMe have posted since November/beginning Dec. Hope all is OK. They were going through some very tough times.


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6568 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crossbow is doing well; I don't know whether he's posted lately or not. Busy with the kids, naturally. Baby Girl is adorable as ever.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13802 | Registered: Jul 2011
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lola,

There is no published list of banned members. If you have questions about anyone, feel free to PM a mod


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2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37421 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
aesir
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've heard that if you put "TMI", "sex" or "off the bus" in your title it will attract a lot of attention
So will the term BOB.

As for how not to get banned, I would add the following, which is probably the most important part. Don't be a dick in PM's with the moderators. Don't publicly post things to or about moderators that would be considered being a dick if it was in a PM.

Whatever you do, don't do it regularly. I think I have infrequently broken most of the rules, including the ones I just added above.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crossbow was banned, as was Marzipan to answer Lola's first question.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20292 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
aesir
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whaaaa????
I missed that!!!


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crossbow is not banned.



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

Posts: 44989 | Registered: Sep 2006
aesir
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crossbow is not banned.
But Sad in AZ's PM box is full.

I was wondering if his thread about cloth diapers was considered political or something.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry! He told me himself that he was...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20292 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was wondering if his thread about cloth diapers was considered political or something.

Hahahaha

Aesir you crack me up.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17560 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sad, I understood it was reversed after a conversation about what happened.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13802 | Registered: Jul 2011
bpositive
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Content  Posted: 10:14 PM, January 9th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi! Thanks for thinking of me. I do check in periodically.

Nothing to post of late. Working a lot and just being happy with life. Chaired a fundraising walk which doubled the goal. Keeping life in balance which is wonderful.

[This message edited by bpositive at 10:14 PM, January 9th (Wednesday)]


"If you're happy and you know it..."
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Posts: 6307 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: breathe.
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, January 10th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

L2HM,

Sneaking in here...

Lost333 is fine and doing well. Taking time for herself and healing.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6317 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
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