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NewMom0220
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haleyscomet,
I needed to read this tonight. Your posts just prove that doing a 180 or NC does shift the balance of power. I got to that place just 2 weeks ago and my DDay was 3/1/13. I blame it on the postpartum hormones as I had just given birth. It took me a while to realize I had to detach.
In the last 2 weeks I haven't responded to texts either and all of a sudden he wants to go o MC. Another crumb.

You are doing great girl. Stay strong.


Me: BS 36
Him: WS 37
14 month old DS
Married 5 years, together 8, DIVORCING!!! (taking forever)
DDay: 3/1/13 (4 Month PA while I was pregnant)
Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

Posts: 374 | Registered: Apr 2013
Offhispedestal
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, April 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haley, just like many have mentioned he IS cake eating. When he feels rejection, he wants you and will plead with you. As soon as he has your attention, he'll go right back to her.
Him responding and saying he only talked to her because you were gone??? What a crock of bullshit!
Sooo if he leaves for a few days because you were in an A and lying your ass off... That that means its ok for you to get involved with another man??? He really feels he can get away with this! The way he replied to her texts definitely shows boundary issues. Like he's still in very good terms with her. You have every single right to be hurt and angry. He's totally screwed up


ME-44
WH-45
Married 24


2Beautiful daughters
DD 6/26/10 (he broke down & confessed)
DD#2 3/14/11 H in OW's car
TT 7/1/11 (NC broken, through emails)

In R


Posts: 637 | Registered: Jun 2011
HURTAGAIN1981
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Haley,

It's really helped reading this. It's great to see other people being strong as it helps to give me a boost.

I think you have done the right thing in getting rid of him. He lied to keep you around but really had no intention of breaking contact with her it seems!


Posts: 296 | Registered: Mar 2012
haleyscomet
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, May 6th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank u all sooo very much for your encouraging words...
and for those who have responded to let me know that my story has somehow helped -- that means so much to me


So now that you've figured out that your stronger when you don't reply at all to him, and that you don't need him, how about blocking his number from your phone? Why would you want to keep being bothered by him? Because all he's doing is fishing to see if you'll take the hook again. Go total NC. (((hugs)))

my phone doesn't have this feature. He did keep sending texts April 29th and 30th

April 30th I told him off again. Called him a "LIAR" and a "F*CKIN' LYIN' AS*HOLE"
Told him to go call (OW name)and that they deserve eachother. Told him I could take a shovel to them both just like Johnny Depp did at the end of Secret Window. and finally:

"You put me thru hell because of (OW name) your precious (OW nickname) that you wouldn't give up. Lonely? Let her s*ck your d*ck. You're her (nickname she gave him). Bye."

He just kept saying "Bring your ass home", "Get your butt home" "Your bugging out" "Stop tripping" "Get with the program and come home." Things to that effect. After I said Bye I did not respond further. Its been a week. Haven't received another text.

Been getting out and having fun - the way I used to before I was with him. Seeing live music, meeting people... having a couple drinks without worrying about HIM over-doing it!

I know I'm getting better -- the other night I had a dream -- I found myself waking up in (what was) our bedroom -- "Oh no! How did I get here?! I said I'd never be go back!" I was freaking out mentally.... Thought "This has to be a dream" and tried to wake myself up -- Was sooooo relieved when I woke up for real - safe and sound here (where I'm staying with family). Even tho I'm living out of a couple of bags - I feel at home now vs. how displaced and lost when I first left.

(((NewMom0220))))(((sunshine226)))(((HURTAGAIN1981))) and all who are hurting in the midst of this experience we been thrust into that totally SUCKS!


me: bgf - 46
him: wwbf - 40
lived together 2-1/2 years
dday1 dec 16 2012 found texts
dday2 dec 29 2012 intercepted texts
dday3 feb 20 2013 found texts during false R
status: its over


Posts: 68 | Registered: Jan 2013
haleyscomet
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Default  Posted: 12:02 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, so odd. I just posted here earlier today that he had not text messaged me in a week...
and I got a message from him tonight:

I miss you very much (my name).
I wish you were here.

I will not answer him -- yes I WANTED TO respond and say:

While ur making wishes, why don't u wish u had never started talking to (OW's name) and wish that u had stopped talking to her after I busted u... and wish that u had stopped after I left... and wish that u had stopped after I came back!

I WAS there and you didn't stop f*ckin' with (OW's name). Remember how u called me a "big baby" and said my crying made you "sick" and u won't miss me and wish I was there. I know it works for me.

BUT I DID NOT ANSWER HIM. Just writing it out /venting here is enough for me. F*CK HIM!!!

[This message edited by haleyscomet at 12:05 AM, May 7th (Tuesday)]


me: bgf - 46
him: wwbf - 40
lived together 2-1/2 years
dday1 dec 16 2012 found texts
dday2 dec 29 2012 intercepted texts
dday3 feb 20 2013 found texts during false R
status: its over


Posts: 68 | Registered: Jan 2013
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

lies lies lies !!!

F. T. G!


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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Posts: 1140 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
HURTAGAIN1981
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, May 7th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You seem to be doing great and I am so pleased for you!

That kind of text really gets on my nerves!!!! I miss you? BOLLOCKS! GRRRRR!

Why not say something worthwhile if he as to say anything at all! Like why he messed up in the first place! Why he thinks he could possibly deserve another chance!

You're doing brilliantly!!!


Posts: 296 | Registered: Mar 2012
haleyscomet
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Default  Posted: 2:44 AM, May 8th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're doing brilliantly!!!

I'm definitely feeling better... so much better than when how i felt hinged on how HE made me feel...
I'm doing things to make myself happy.
He's not doing to well? He misses me? - MmOkayyy... yeah... riiiight....
I've wasted too much time trying to get satisfaction from him that i never got nor was ever going to get -- so it doesn't matter trying to figure out what to make of anything he says.... Given the chance I Know he will f*ck up AGAIN. He blew it with me for good - fool me once shame on you - fool me twice --- shame on me. Third time was the charm -- three strikes yer out! etc.

NO WAY am I gonna even give him the opportunity to try and suck me back in -- I'm not going back ever again -- that'd be like going through hell and looking back and considering another 'go round' - F*CK THAT! Just looking forward. I got some new dresses and shoes and bags :) Nothing extravagant but I'm taking care of / pampering myself. I deserve it.


me: bgf - 46
him: wwbf - 40
lived together 2-1/2 years
dday1 dec 16 2012 found texts
dday2 dec 29 2012 intercepted texts
dday3 feb 20 2013 found texts during false R
status: its over


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