Topic: FaceTime and gaslighting
Member # 37468
| Posted: 9:34 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2013|
LonelyHusband, to delete individual calls from the history: Go to Phone, then Recents, then press Edit, then press red - symbol next to the call you want to delete, then press Delete to confirm.
Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).
D-Day was April 2012. Divorced Jul 2013. Moved ~1000 miles away (as the crow flies) Jul 2014.
Posts: 791 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Pacific Northwest
Member # 30992
| Posted: 9:44 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2013|
You are right, ice cream. I understand that it is an integrated feature in th iPhone and not an app. I haven't used FaceTime personally so I don't know how it works. I do know that he forgot to delete it and it showed up in his iPhone call history. Uggggh!
Posts: 127 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: East Coast
Member # 37895
| Posted: 10:28 PM, February 3rd (Sunday), 2013|
Oh God, now I am worried. I have just checked our Verizon phone bill. There is a "shared data talk and text section". My WH uses that about five times a day including late at night when he is at home. When he is at home we have wifi. So what is it? Is he texting? Calling? Or just using an app on his phone?
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DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 37725
| Posted: 9:35 AM, February 4th (Monday), 2013|
If I'm wrong about that I hope someone points it out, but I cannot see a way to delete individual calls in the history.
In Facetime, in the pane showing contacts, click on Recents, then click on Edit in the upper right-hand corner. A red symbol will appear next to each name. Click on the symbol, and you'll see a red rectangle that says Delete. Click on that, and it's gone.
Is there a list somewhere in Settings where Facetime activity shows? If so, I can't find it.
Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
Posts: 381 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
Member # 28571
| Posted: 10:04 AM, February 4th (Monday), 2013|
He insists if he were communicating with her on FaceTime it would show up on the phone bills. Yes or no???
Well, here's an easy way to verify that. Set up your own account, have him call it and watch it not show up on the bill.
AFAIK using those apps to make calls over wifi or messaging do not show up on the bill. They shouldn't even show up as data since it's not using the phone network at all.
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Posts: 7411 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
Member # 34823
| Posted: 10:09 AM, February 4th (Monday), 2013|
This thread makes me really dislike today's advanced technology......just sayin'.
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
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Member # 36357
| Posted: 9:55 PM, February 4th (Monday), 2013|
I have his phone back up to iCloud and can see every text call website etc. unless he deletes it before he falls asleep..
Just by chance he forgets to delete anything right away it's on there - very easy to use
Also, there's the iPhone locator
Married: 8 months.
One son (7 months) & 6 months pregnant.
Me: 22 yrs.
WH: 25 yrs.
OW/Stripper/Felon: 27 yrs.
Posts: 30 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Michigan
Member # 42327
| Posted: 1:12 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014|
Bumping this old thread because my BS and I are going through all of my old texts, Facebook messages trying to put everything together so that we have a timeline of how everything happened. Does anyone know if there is a way to search FaceTime history? I have changed phones since the A's but we do have a back up of the phone on another computer. Any suggestions?
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Member # 42004
| Posted: 1:26 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014|
I'm the BS to wheredoigo. We are trying to build a timeline from texts, FaceTime, etc. They are obviously deleted by her, trying to recover the data for both of us. Sorry for the Necropost.
Three kids 13, 12, 6
D-day 1/22/13 First but really second affair chronologically.
TT until 3/05/14 - confirmed two other affairs, EA 9mo ended with one PA. Ons in July 2004 right before engagement
Posts: 8 | Registered: Jan 2014
Member # 35660
| Posted: 1:35 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014|
This isn't a iphone or droid issue or facetime or whatever. The fact is that any smart phone can communitcate with another smart phone with NO WAY to track it. If you're monitoring your cell phone bill you are wasting your time unless your significant other just isn't very tech savy at all .... and it takes very little tech skills to find and use these apps.
There are numerous apps out there that communicate via wifi. The OW/OM will not be listed in the "contacts". There will be no history. Doesn't use any data that could be monitored. And there are even apps that hide the communication apps for when spouses are looking for such apps.
Only way to know that your wayward is not communicating is to know their phone intimately. Every icon and every app. If you find one that requires a password ..... bingo! You've found how they are communicating.
Best solution is to insist that they go back to a dumb phone for a year or so. They can still text and call but it's trackable.
Hope this helps
[This message edited by demos at 1:37 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]
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