Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: Whoareu (45303)

Reconciliation Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: Anniversary... Rings... Vow renewal
TarheelMom
♀ Member
Member # 35726
Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, February 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We'll be married 10 years in April. I really don't want to count one of those years... but it has brought us to where we are, and we were married the whole time... so I guess I am. I don't want to not count it at the same time. You understand, I'm sure. Anyway. 10 years in April.

We're surviving. Most days are good. We have a lot of happy times and he's done SOOO much to make things better. The few rough days are really rough, but getting back on track is easier and is team work. We're making it. I'm glad.

So fWH has said that whatever I want out of our anniversary is what we will do. He wants to live up to my expectations and make it all I'm dreaming of... or ignore it if that is what I want. Our budget is pretty small right now, too... since he did quit his job for me and all.

I like his attitude. He understands. Last year's anniversary was right before DDay and once I found out, all of the sweet things he said at our anniversary dinner had such a different meaning. I hated every minute of it in hindsight.

So, I think we are going to renew our vows this year. We've talked about it since DDay, and we had talked about doing it every 10 years since we got married anyway. Something really small, just us, nice and simple.

I would like to get something engraved in our rings. I don't hate my rings, and I have never broken my vows to him, so the meaning of his ring hasn't changed. I know some people have problems with their rings after an A, but I haven't found that I have so much.

What I'm looking for are some ideas for one word to have engraved inside each of our wedding bands. With some meaning of what we have been through. Any ideas?


Me: BW

Posts: 252 | Registered: Jun 2012
Knowing
♀ Member
Member # 37044
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, February 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm considering having the words "love, joy, peace, courage" tattooed on my wedding finger so that I can stop wearing a wedding band. It's been years since my wedding band fit properly.

Those words are part of a commitment I have made to all aspects of my life, not just my M, so I'm comfortable with having those words tattoed whether fWH and I stay together or not.

[This message edited by Knowing at 6:33 PM, February 21st (Thursday)]


Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12

We are in R.


Posts: 698 | Registered: Oct 2012
TarheelMom
♀ Member
Member # 35726
Default  Posted: 6:27 AM, February 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We've talked about doing tattoos also. I'm just not quite ready yet.


Me: BW

Posts: 252 | Registered: Jun 2012
Lucky
♀ Member
Member # 6864
Default  Posted: 1:49 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the rings; Eternity?


♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥


Posts: 36162 | Registered: Apr 2005
itainteasy
♀ Member
Member # 31094
Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"Triumph"?

Posts: 3414 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
forgivingnow
♀ Member
Member # 33549
Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"strength" "courage"

Congratulations on 10 years!! Did you do a vow renewal?

We celebrate 30 years of marriage this month. I understand what you mean when you say you don't want to 'count' one of the years...
At 1 year from dday, I felt the same way...didn't want to count 5 years...at 27 months from dday and celebrating 30 years of marriage with the man who is now the husband of my dreams, I'm counting all the years. We have a REAL marriage. After dday when things were really bad we decided to hold on tighter and make something we both wanted.

I hope you are proud and happy of how strong you are and can celebrate your 10 years this whole year.


Me-BS 51
FWH-51
M 31 yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.
R

Posts: 615 | Registered: Oct 2011
madeincanada
New Member
Member # 37746
Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome and congrats to both of you. We are planning the same thing, we are going to have celtic bands custom made !!! Sort of a new begining. Something cool we did that we absoluetly love is .... got tatoos !!!...a celtic love knot.... Our kids were like "whattttttttt the". We are recovering well , facing some challenges, we will make it and when we are ready we too will renew.Thank You for the positive post.

Posts: 16 | Registered: Dec 2012
doesitgetbetter
♀ Member
Member # 18429
Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Resilience.


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008
TarheelMom
♀ Member
Member # 35726
Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We did renew our vows, it was a beautiful ceremony that we wrote. Just us, two couples we know that we are close to (to take pictures!) and our son. It was a perfect day from start to finish.

A year ago, I never thought we'd get here.

We never got anything engraved in our rings... we couldn't decide and ran out of time to do it before our anniversary. Next year!


Me: BW

Posts: 252 | Registered: Jun 2012
Knowing
♀ Member
Member # 37044
Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!


Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12

We are in R.


Posts: 698 | Registered: Oct 2012
karmahappens
♀ Member
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like the idea of engraving the rings.

the journey

Because it's a forever kind-of trip ;)

[This message edited by karmahappens at 10:21 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)]


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3844 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
still-living
♂ Member
Member # 30434
Default  Posted: 3:49 AM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I quit wearing my ring. My wife surprised me by melting it down and combined it with other gold she wasn't using, including her high school ring, and gave me a new larger ring. Inside it, she engraved, "Trust and Love Forever" She did this on her own.


BH(me)47
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
Married 06/91
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is constructing a pyramid of inference from which to see clearer.
The process involves using the reflexive loop.

Posts: 776 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
Topic Posts: 12

Return to Forum: Reconciliation Post Reply to this Topic
adultry
Go to :
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.