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User Topic: The real cost of TT
sodamnsorry
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, March 2nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just wanted to revisit this topic for a second to add in a quote from my BS.

It was something like: If our marriage ends, know that it wasn't because of any of the details that came out, it was because of the lies about them.

I keep playing that over and over in my head, because in my mind I was always focused on what detail would be too harsh to deal with - what would be the one that pushed her over the edge - the deal breaker.

I just thought that she worded that incredibly well and it is still sinking into my head.


WS (me) 45- Dday was 9/20/2012
Wife 41 (sodamnlost on SI)
Together 9 years, married 5
Stepdad to 6 amazing kids (22, 21, 16, 15, 12, 10)

Trying wicked hard - never giving up.


Posts: 39 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Michigan
sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, March 3rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the record, WS did know the deal-breaker would the dishonesty. Transparency and truth and remorse are all I asked for.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 766 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
ladypersephone
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, March 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For the record, WS did know the deal-breaker would the dishonesty. Transparency and truth and remorse are all I asked for.

I hid the truth for a little while. It was so hard to say even for myself but when my BS reacted in total trauma, I held back. It was horrible that each time I told more he broke down like day one. I often wonder if I had just laid it all out immediately if we would be in a different place now. I see your BS posted here. I think this is beautiful that she has the heart to say truth and remorse are all she asks for. She seems to have a forgiving spirit. I pray that my BH will one day.


WW (Me) 33 (MH)
BS/RA (him) 36 (MH)

Formerly fiercely in love.
Currently on desolation row...


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