Maybe in a year, 2 years or 5 years I will feel differently... but the pain is still very raw. All the presents he gave me during the time he deceived me are going to be sold. I might even include him in the auction with a $1 reserve and a buy now price. Maybe his morally bankrupt whore can bid on him.
I know that doesn't sound loving - but I am having a minute to vent before I get back to this hard work called R.
[This message edited by Betrayed67 at 6:01 AM, April 10th (Wednesday)]
It took me a couple of months after DDay to take my rings off & it was actually one of the hardest things for me to do...it still hurts my heart to know that I had to take them off because I just couldn't bear to wear them anymore.
Like many other posts, my finger felt naked...but it also felt lonely.
I decided, since the ring finger is supposed to have a vein that goes directly to the heart, to wear a plain band that my aunt had given me years before (I had been wearing her ring on the other hand). She looooves me, I have no doubt & would do anything for me, so I couldn't think of a better way, to have something symbolizing love, from someone who truly does love me, on that ring finger again...especially at a time when I needed to be reminded that someone out there loves me for real.
I'm not sure if I could ever wear my wedding rings again, but I still have them tucked away.
I take mine off and on all the time depending on how I feel. THey are currently off just like he used to take them off last year for his 4 month "love affair".
Sorry we have to feel so bad about our once beautiful symbols.
Crazy story: One day while I was at work (before I found out), I looked down at my hand, and my wedding band had a small split in it (resembled one of those adjustable rings with the split). I kept wondering how the wedding ring broke when I hadn't done anything out of the ordinary to cause that to happen, and also why hadn't my engagement ring broken, especially since it was thinner than the wedding band? It was so weird. Once I found out about the cheating, it all made sense. I had been asking for a sign, and out of nowhere, my ring breaks! Crazy right?
One day at a time...
Took mine off the day he confessed. Put it back on when we talked and agreed to put things behind us. That did not last long. Four days. I just took it off again. For good.
That is my story. You may have your rings on again for good. Bless you!
[This message edited by SoVerySadNow at 1:55 PM, April 15th (Monday)]