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User Topic: Tell the BW or no?
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BW here. I would want to know.

together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

Posts: 1403 | Registered: Dec 2012
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told the BW of my AP. She thanked me and said I wasn't the first one...

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”

Posts: 5344 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BW here and I think you did the right thing as well. I too would want to know. I applaud you for being on here and taking responsiblity for the mess you helped create. I applaud you for the hard work you are doing on yourself and for asking for advice here. You DO care about the hurt you've caused and are trying to make amends. As a BW yeah, I wish my FWH's OW's were like you. None ever apologized--the one he had a PA/EA with actually put a status on her Facebook, "Fuck you and fuck her too." Such venom from the whore who tried to steal MY husband! It is healing to read about a FOW who really gets it.

I wish you happiness in your recovery. I do believe you had a sincere heart in dealing with this. I hope you keep us posted about any communication you receive from the BW.

Hugs to you.

Married 20 years
Him-FWH-46 "healing4us2"
2 kids, DD 12 and DS 16
D-day #1 Jan. 30,2012
D-day #2 April 12, 2012
D-day #3 April 15, 2012
June 24, 2012--Decided to R.
January 21, 2014-Forgave him! Life is sweet!

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