BW here and I think you did the right thing as well. I too would want to know. I applaud you for being on here and taking responsiblity for the mess you helped create. I applaud you for the hard work you are doing on yourself and for asking for advice here. You DO care about the hurt you've caused and are trying to make amends. As a BW yeah, I wish my FWH's OW's were like you. None ever apologized--the one he had a PA/EA with actually put a status on her Facebook, "Fuck you and fuck her too." Such venom from the whore who tried to steal MY husband! It is healing to read about a FOW who really gets it.
I wish you happiness in your recovery. I do believe you had a sincere heart in dealing with this. I hope you keep us posted about any communication you receive from the BW.
Hugs to you.