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User Topic: OW wants to be my FB friend??
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It could be a mistake. I absolutely hate to admit it, but when I was back in my Facebook stalking days I sent my stbxh's mow a friend request by accident
Stupid iPhone. I was looking at her page to see if she had posted any new pics of herself that I could pick apart and pressed the friend request button by accident when I was scrolling.
I. Wanted. To.die.

Me: BS45 him: stbxh 45
2 dd's 16 and 12
Multiple DDs 7/09 - 9/21/10 same mow co-worker
Last DD 9/21/10 found love notes on computer I'm done, I'm free!!

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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

together 25 yrs, married 24 yrs, 4 children;Rebuilding
D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry... wait...

Nope, that's still hilarious.
I hope you laughed in her stupid face.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To me it sounds kind of like she's giving you crumbs, like feeding a mouse. Like, "I Win!" If you "befriend" her she can advertise to you all the stuff she puts on there.

It's my own theory that OWs have a fog and need an ego boost of their own. This is true for OW in the case of STBXH, who was very excited to compete with me but I wouldn't let it happen.

I think in a lot of ways she wants my life and will do what she can to steal it from me.

Your situation sounds a little bit similar and now sounds like a gloating period for her.

True, it could be a mistake but I'm not inclined to think so. I don't want to generalize, but my impression is that OWs don't have thinking or boundaries like other people and she's pushing at you, "the ex", to see what attention she can get.

I think things they do are very calculated, as I said.
I'm sorry for your dismay.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would not friend her and would actually block her. I would dare the skank OW to friend request me. My WS first crazy wife did and when I told him he ask me to block her. I was going to anyway. Skanks have a lot of nerve.

Silly Slut, husbands are for wives - get your own man B*tch!

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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ew. She's totally deluded. Block and ignore. Carry on with your fabulous life!

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It could be a mistake

iPhone does really crazy stuff. I too got a message once " my delivery manager has accepted your friends request" . Errr.. When did I send her a request???

But, look at the other side of it. You can deny that request and hold your head high.

[This message edited by Happydays at 12:15 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)]

BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The six friends is actually six mutual friends more than likely--that's what it looks like when someone is totally locked down, but someone else who you are already friends with has friends in common.

Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Default  Posted: 4:46 PM, April 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After reading on another post about how to "grey rock" a psycho,,,I learned that psychos like to see reactions on people's faces. It's what they do when they are bored, is try to figure out ways to get reactions out of people.

She prob thought you'd call your xh.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 4:46 PM, April 30th (Tuesday)]

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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