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User Topic: Infidelity wasnt enough
chelle1966316
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, March 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We both had our affairs over the years.We got through it.
We got a D to get his retirement money,in March.
We were suppose to get remarried after.
What a joke on me.He then left in October.He admitted the other day hes having a midlife crisis.


I am WS from Feb 2004-April 2004 first then a BS.
Together since 1981,married 1987 to present.Divorced,March 2012,for financial reasons, but still together until end of October 2012.Now hes having a midlife crisis and living away from home.


Posts: 4625 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: Maine
UnexpectedSong
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, March 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What kind of midlife crisis?


WW(SA)
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Posts: 6101 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: California
chelle1966316
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, March 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He left in October without telling me.I had no clue.
He hasnt had another woman,yet.He spends alot of time by himself staying in a camper in his shop.He has been going out to a pool hall just drinking gingerale.He says he doesnt know what he wants and we are intimate when he comes here.He also bought a bike,nothing fancy.It all sucks.
I try to take care of me.Theres nothing I can do but let him ruin anything we had left.


I am WS from Feb 2004-April 2004 first then a BS.
Together since 1981,married 1987 to present.Divorced,March 2012,for financial reasons, but still together until end of October 2012.Now hes having a midlife crisis and living away from home.


Posts: 4625 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: Maine
caspers1wish
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, March 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He spends alot of time by himself staying in a camper in his shop.He has been going out to a pool hall just drinking gingerale.He says he doesnt know what he wants and we are intimate when he comes here.He also bought a bike,nothing fancy.

Sounds like things are just fine for him and for any guy who wants to have a relationship with none of the responsibility. If they are not fine for you, I think you should not be available to him. Maybe 180 him, for your own sake, to get back control of your life and discover what it is that you want.


Me - FWW (35)
Him - BH (34)
Kids - Ages 6, 8, 10
Married 13 years, together 18 years.
Last D-Day - November 2008

Posts: 778 | Registered: Jun 2010
chelle1966316
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, March 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im trying the 180 thing.Ive been going through alot emotional turmoil for the past two weeks.Every year around my birtday I go through it.He was coming here and we would have sex,but when he left,it was killing me.Something has changed in me.I am very angry.He will probably end up with someone else eventually,even though he says hes not thinking about it now.


I am WS from Feb 2004-April 2004 first then a BS.
Together since 1981,married 1987 to present.Divorced,March 2012,for financial reasons, but still together until end of October 2012.Now hes having a midlife crisis and living away from home.


Posts: 4625 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: Maine
chelle1966316
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Member # 4969
Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, March 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hes not helping out with anything but pays the bills.I have been blocked from fb,but I have ways to look.Theres nothing on there,but it doesnt matter at this point.I am on my own.I feel broken.From what I have read about the subject of midlife crisis it sounds bad.I feel sick everyday from this.Some men going through this completely shut every thing off about their families.How the fuck do you do this?
My whole family has been upheaved over this.I also have a son dealing with heroin addiction/recovery.I have been punched in the gut.


I am WS from Feb 2004-April 2004 first then a BS.
Together since 1981,married 1987 to present.Divorced,March 2012,for financial reasons, but still together until end of October 2012.Now hes having a midlife crisis and living away from home.


Posts: 4625 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: Maine
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