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User Topic: Background and a mojo request
nowiknow23
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Frustrated  Posted: 11:38 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The last three weeks have been hell. To make a long LONG LONG story marginally shorter...

1. When DD "fell" and hurt her sacrum three weeks ago, it was because she was lowering herself out her 2nd story bedroom window, trying to run away from an explosive episode during which she attacked me and pushed me through a glass door. (I wasn’t injured.)

2. She ended up being transported by ambulance (with me), spent a night on a trauma ward being observed for spinal damage, and then a week on a child psychiatric ward.

3. The psychiatrist in the ER called DHS to open a report against me for denial of care. The DHS case worker was/is wonderful. She interviewed my DD in the hospital and then me over the phone the next day.

4. After being released from the hospital, DD spent the next two weeks in a youth home (temporary shelter) 45 minutes from home, since it was clear that it was not safe to have her in the house with me given her violence toward me and her dangerous impulsivity. I saw her every day at the shelter, and brought her home for the day during the weekends to avoid her having to spend unstructured time with the other residents, who were several years older than DD and came from very rough backgrounds (think gang affiliations).

5. During one of those weekend days at home, she accidentally cut her hand on a piece of glass, and we ended up back in the ER for 5 stitches.

6. As all this was going down, my Dad was admitted to the hospital in my hometown and we discovered he has congestive heart failure on top of his inoperable kidney cancer.

Still with me?

7. I posted a few days ago that we found out DD has been accepted to a residential treatment program and will be moving there within the next few weeks. She'll spend somewhere between 3 months and a year in the program, getting much needed psychiatric and medical therapies.

8. DD came home from the shelter Friday night (her allotted time ran out), so as a safety measure, I asked Wasband to stay here in the spare bedroom so there is another responsible adult on hand in case she has another explosive episode before a bed becomes available at the residential program. If something does blow up, he can help defuse the situation and/or call 911 as needed.

9. Just got off the phone with the DHS worker. She is coming over this afternoon to meet one more time with DD and then give me the outcome of the investigation. Even though I’m expecting it to be “unfounded,” I’m nervous. I’d be crazy to not be nervous.

So I’m asking for some mojo, positive thoughts, or anything else you’ve got on several fronts. In no particular order:
A. Swift placement for my DD in the residential program.
B. Heart/kidney mojo for my Dad.
C. An “unfounded” finding in the DHS investigation.
D. A short, effective, and cooperative engagement with wasband staying here.
E. A way to retain/regain my sanity through all this.

TIA


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25727 | Registered: Aug 2011
Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

All my mojo and good thoughts coming your way!


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6556 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojomojomojo headed your way.

(((NIK)))

Hang in there, hon. Best of luck with everything on your plate.


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

Posts: 1678 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending all the mojo I have, NIK


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52599 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
SouthernGal
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Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NIK -

Sending up thoughts and mojo for you!

And a few cyber hugs to keep on hand for when you feel like you need one!


BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10

Posts: 3862 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The Deep (Fried) South
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good thoughts, prayers, mojo--whatever you need!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20284 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending all possible mojo and a big ass ((hug)).

Out here DHS is called dyfus. I had two experiences with them. The first was frightening. Both turned out okay. From how you explained your initial meeting with the lady, Im guessing all will go well.

Mojo...knock on wood...tap iron....


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo, hugs and tons of peaceful thoughts headed your way.

Posts: 1037 | Registered: Jul 2006
stillstrong
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo NIK. And hugs.
((((NIK))))


Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13


Posts: 848 | Registered: Jul 2012
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, that's a lot for anyone to deal with.

Sending prayers and mojo your way.

(((HUGS)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you, guys.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo...

Posts: 3419 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

~~~~MOJO~~~~ for all of your needs!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4202 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK and family)))

Sending mojo, good thoughts, prayers, and love.


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn NIK - you can have all my mojo. It's like frequent flyer miles, never use it


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 4003 | Registered: Dec 2011
bbee
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo!


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


Posts: 6656 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

C. An “unfounded” finding in the DHS investigation.
The caseworker just left. Unfounded!!! Woo hoo!!!!

Final report will be mailed out next week, but the case is closed and found to be without merit.



You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25727 | Registered: Aug 2011
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sooo, when do you get your "We were idiots and this was without merit" compensation check?!?!

Rats.

On a sunshiney note I'm thrilled that justice prevailed here - what a nightmare coated nightmare.

All the hugs in the world to you, loves.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17838 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{{{NIK}}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8078 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
hexed
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, March 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

so many good vibes going out to you. that is just waaaay too much!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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